To find this message from DP a complete turn off

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DP sent me a message earlier ‘ are you going to dress sexy tonight?’

I’m in jeans & a jumper waiting for him to come home. I’ll be cooking dinner (again) & he’ll be coming in in his sports kit.

AIBU to find it a turn off ?

YANBU.

Send him the same message. It would be interesting to see what his answer is.

That’s a bit odd. My instinctive reply would be ‘why, where are we going?’ Because I would assume I’d forgotten

Send him a link to a very expensive sexy dress

"Was that message meant for me or your girlfriend?"
or
"No, you can dress yourself"

'Why, who's coming over?'

My ex used to do this. I hated it.
Felt like a right twat doing the washing up dressed up! He couldn't understand why my sex drive dried up!

I think he needs to try a bit harder himself - coming home late after treating himself to some time to himself and expecting dinner to be cooked for him isn't exactly a turn on!

My DH did this the other week I can’t remember what he said but it was filthy and I was like 🙄

"I will if you will"

They can be fucking idiots sometimes can't they.

'no idea. Are you?'

Why? Are we going out? You’ll need to get changed if that’s the case

Whatever I wear I am sexy and you think I need to be wearing something specific to be sexy you are clearly with the wrong person! should be the response

I can't imagine my dh ever sending me a message like that! I think it would make me suspicious that something wasn't right!

Text back 'you'll just have to wait and see 😘' then he can... see... you, in your jumper and jeans - or preferably something even less sexy if you have anything?

I can’t imagine DH using this as a way to ‘seduce’ me tbh.

He’d be more direct - thinking about you lots today, fancy a shag tonight? - type thing.

Reply "do you find cardigans sexy?"

You’ve all made me smile & I am 100% sure we are not going out.
Going to root through the wardrobe for the most unsexy outfit.
It just made me feel a bit shit. Love me , love my Monday night comfy clothes

Does he normally send messages like this? I'd fall over with shock if DH did this . Nothing wrong with it all if that's the way a couple communication but I absolutely wouldn't find it a turn on.

I would hate that because it’s incorrect. It should say ‘sexily’.
Plus it’s sexist bollocks.

I always dress sexy, darling.

Borrow one of your mum's outfits, a spritz of her perfume and wear her most disapproving expression: That'll have him withering on the vine (unless he has a thing for your mum....)

I'd ask if he's going to come home and make dinner, do the laundry and run the Hoover. Honestly, what a bellend. Why are you with a twat like this?

My first thought would be that someone's gotten hold of his phone. A really funny friend

This makes me sad .. your Monday night comfy clothes are my every day clothes !