By asking if she's "going to dress sexy tonight" he's actually being quite demanding because although he's phrased it as a question, it's very obviously an instruction.
Jesus, i see women-splaining is becoming a thing. Its not an instruction, it's a request. My life isn't all about pleasing my Dp. In fact he would be one at home cooking tea. But I dress up for him from time to time. Surprise him when he gets in. And he has for me. We have had some very memorable evenings.
Confused about what you mean be slutty? It's just clothes? Can't call women sluts on mn, but can call clothes slutty? How does that work then? If clothes are slutty wouldn't that make the women wearing them slutty too? Like pp, I am still shocked there is such shame attached to sex.
I mean for fucks sake he was disappointed he wasn't getting sex, don't any women ever feel like that. If dp felt disappointed he was getting any and I wasn't in the mood I would say 'sorry babe, just not your night I guess' send move on. Disappointed is a world away from having a strop. I get disappointed if I thought sex was on the table and it wasn't.
Op if dressing up is something you don't feel comfortable with and won't ever do, tell him it's off the table permently. But all this fuss over a text is ridiculous. I am also guessing that you rage is being fuelled by the faux outrage on here.
It's not like you said he asks every day. Both people should make a bit of effort at least ocxassionally.