In expecting people to read the FUCKING thread?!

[fifithefoof]

Is it me or is it getting worse??

I may accidentally miss an update if the thread is really long --quite often because there's too many comments that haven't read the full thread.

But if you can't take the time to read the whole thread (you can clearly see how long it is before posting), then wait to comment until you can!

The thread gets annoying to read because it's full of irrelevant comments.

Also, just commenting without reading as a matter of course can sometimes be upsetting to an op who's in more delicate situation.

Eg "I think my husband's cheating should I check his phone?" Then getting pages of 'yes check his phone" by people that think they don't need to waste time reading the thread, they'd rather hear the sound of their own voice. When it's actually moved on that the husband got caught out and moved out to be with the other woman last week and poor op is having to deal with 'yes check his phone' again and again.

Honestly, sometimes it's not like a discussion forum it's like an echo chamber for poster's opinions.

Gah. Sorry. Rant over.

Watch me accidentally not rtft in the near future.

To be fair, I have just been into settings etc and looked everywhere for the customise button, and really couldn't find it. If Bore hadn't posted how, I would never have seen it, as I have ever noticed that little arrow before.

I think it should be an option under your 'my mumsnet' settings, and also more publicized. That would save a lot of this. People new to the sire simply don't know you can do that.

I do also think it is because so many people use the site on their phones and it is horrible to negotiate on a phone.

@mooglycrunch I just looked at my phone and that's what I get too! But I get the full customise list (as demonstrated) on the desktop site.

One that drives me mad is eg, "I agree with userx on page 5". I have no fucking idea what post or page you mean - I've 100 posts to a page, others have 25, more have 50. Some royalty long term posters still have all posts on one page.

YANBU.

In general I try to apply a rule - if the thread has more than about 20 posts already (so no excuse for not reading it all) then I don't participate in it unless it's a subject of sufficient interest to me that I'm willing to read the whole thread.

I haven't read the full thread, but stop being a walkover and doing things for free!

I am sorry I must have missed the memo that you were now the owner of mn, Oh you're not ?

so why are you so arrogant to think you can tell [people what they can and can't post?

Sorry, I absolutely had to but yes it's bloody annoying. Maybe we do need a 'Op posts only' option or a sticky thread/intro to MN wizard for new users to teach people how to highlight OPs posts.

Haven't RTFT but love the term Mumsnutterz OP

@steppemum is the highlighting only on the app? I tend to use the web version. My posts come up in red but not the OPs if I can change that, it would be a game changer. I avoid lengthy threads as I can't be bothered to wade through twenty pages of repeated advice to find the OPs updates.

Changing the colour isn't available on the desktop version

Yes it is. I mostly use desktop and I have the OP's posts in a nice pink colour. I've chosen green for my own posts.

Well here's the thing, I think it's arrogant to assume people will want to hear what you have to say even though it's probably no longer relevant.

Not bothering to take a couple of minutes to make sure you're up speed and not potentially upset an op before posting is arrogant too.

But I said that before in the thread. Oh......

Ok, but make sure you cancel the cheque and worm the dog before you Ltb.

Also book yourself a spa day, you deserve it.

You cannot tell other people what to do on an internet forum. The fact that you do so in a rude way makes it all the more likely most normal people will ignore you.

Postscript:
Swearing is not big and it is not clever.

Oops! My phone has clearly had enough of mn if it's autocorrecting like that!

Mumsnutterz. About right!

See pic

It's annoying but not as annoying as the posters who clearly do it on purpose. Passive violence!

Are we being infiltrated by nethuns lately?

@thenightsky how can I do this, I've been into settings and can't find the options. I use the web version on my phone, can't get on with the app

Not everyone spends most of the day dressed in their “onesie” whilst tapping out erudite responses on an internet forum.

It is annoying when 30 pages into a thread posters are still replying to the original OP from last week - as though they are making an insightful and unique comment - without considering that the thread may have moved on after 700 posts and that the OP may have updated days ago!

If you don't want to read all the posts just highlight OP in green and quickly scroll through.

I only use the desk top really.

Go to top of page where it says TALK, there is a little arrow next to the word talk, click on it and a menu appears, with 'customize'

It is SO hard to find! I think it needs to be easier. It should be under settings, that is where everyone automatically goes.

I'm going to report my post and ask HQ about this.

I'm using the app and I can't see where you change the settings?!

@Mummyof0ne I don't think you can in the app!

I've tried logging in to Mumsnet through my phone browser and can't seem to there either!

I must have done at some point though as op posts in my phone app are green.