In expecting people to read the FUCKING thread?!

[fifithefoof]

Is it me or is it getting worse??

I may accidentally miss an update if the thread is really long --quite often because there's too many comments that haven't read the full thread.

But if you can't take the time to read the whole thread (you can clearly see how long it is before posting), then wait to comment until you can!

The thread gets annoying to read because it's full of irrelevant comments.

Also, just commenting without reading as a matter of course can sometimes be upsetting to an op who's in more delicate situation.

Eg "I think my husband's cheating should I check his phone?" Then getting pages of 'yes check his phone" by people that think they don't need to waste time reading the thread, they'd rather hear the sound of their own voice. When it's actually moved on that the husband got caught out and moved out to be with the other woman last week and poor op is having to deal with 'yes check his phone' again and again.

Honestly, sometimes it's not like a discussion forum it's like an echo chamber for poster's opinions.

Gah. Sorry. Rant over.

Watch me accidentally not rtft in the near future.

I wish the OP’s posts were automatically in a different colour. This would make MN much easier to use and potentially reduce this issue.

That would be great!

Thing is, even if you don’t have time to read the entire thread or to skim through for OP’s posts, if you at the very least read the first and last pages it’s generally obvious if there has been any kind of update etc.

Also, if a thread is 700 posts then your response of “yes, I agree,” or “yabu,” or “ltb,” or “yes, check his phone,” has almost certainly already been posted, so you’re not actually really adding anything at that point anyway so if you can’t read the thread or be bothered to read it then chances are you doN’t Have anything of value to add after 700 posts anyway.

If only the Ops posts stood out from all the others somehow...

it take approximately 1 minute to go into the settings and put the OPs posts, and your own posts into a different colour

Umm, where??? I've just been into Settings and cannot see any such option

Although the type of people who read the op and then just put in their pearls of wisdom without reading any of it prob still won't bother.

Sorry I didn't mean to derail the thread with my own issues.
Has the Op updated yet? I couldn't stop thinking about what happend.

Agree OP. When it's become a 7 page thread about 'should I leave him?' at least people should read the last page to see if people are now saying 'glad you've gone to your mum's OP' and then you know you don't need to add your 'yes!' to the 285 other yeses.

@notanurse2017

Thread clearly about another thread so it will get deleted soon.
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In the meantime have you considered a spa day, Op?*

It's not. I've kicked off on it this morning on at least 5 other threads.

I actually used the 'have you considered a spa day?' to someone the other day and seeing as we're a 1000+ Miles from the nearest spa they gave me a very funny look.

Someone is going to set up an 'aibu' about idiots that can't bold properly soon

Talk > Little pointy arrow > Customise > Talk options

Don't understand why posters don't read the OP's post. Somewhere you can change your colour and that of the OP.

If a thread is huge, I am of the view that anything I say will've already been said so I don't bother. If I really want to say something I always read all the OP's posts and skim over the rest before posting.

Cancel the cheque
Don't speak to her until after the party
Tell her to do one

All have been said when it has already happened!

Sometimes it's a mistake I guess.

Sometimes it's being new to forums.

But for a repeat offender it's just that you like the sound of your own bloody voice.

Sometimes if a thread is very long it does seem like too much trouble to RTFT so I tend to not bother and just leave it.

There was a thread on here recently, pages and pages of it. Eventually it was petty much established that the whole scenario never actually happened; the OP had brought it to a very unlikely conclusion but everything was neatly tied up and explained.

Even so, posters were still coming on and just responding to the OP's first post.

Surely you'd read at least one or two of the latter posts in an effort to find out where it had moved on to.

In the case of this particular thread probably the last three or four post would have bought these people up to date but no, they couldn't be bothered to even read that much.

I've learned the hard way to read the whole thread.

The level of violence if you don't is too much for me to cope with

But I really do wish there was an option to isolate just the OPs comments and updates. That would save a lot of time on very long threads.

It’s the internet OP get over it.

It would be good if mumsnet could put a filter on ' so op only'.

The colour filter alone on the mobile site is very easy to miss a post.

If a post is more than 50 comments then it will have probably moved on and you should check for updates before typing.

There will always be people who don't rtft- but these are the same people who talk over others in real life- ignore them, life is too short

There will always be people who don't rtft- but these are the same people who talk over others in real life- ignore them, life is too short.

Exactly the problem. Life is too short to read 5 pages of 'cancel the cheque'!

Yabu
It’s annoying but not a requirement or mandatory t read the thread. If a post asking or saying the same thing annoys you move on... it’s a forum on the internet 🤔🤷‍♀️

Also YABVU for posting obviously about 1 poster in specific by copying in her comments. She already said she’s sorry, a new mums nd exhausted and asked why people in here are so mean. You could consider how she would feel having a thread made/aimed at her or what she was doing. She could very well be upset by this or have anxiety... all because it slightly annoys you? 🙄

There's tons of threads where people don't even bother reading the op in their haste to get the boot in.

Recent ones include berating an op for planning to trick her DH into having a baby (stated in the OP he had agreed to ttc), one telling op she was unreasonable for being unhappy about situation (stated in op that she was happy, but her DH was unhappy about it) etc etc

I do think having agree/disagree buttons could help because at least latecomers to a thread might click 'agree' on the first 'cancel the cheque' rather than feel the need to repeat it.

You can just isolate the OP’s posts. See all posts in the thread and go to the browsers find tab click on that and type in the OP’s username. It will not only find the OP’s posts but if you keep clicking next it takes you to them.

Changing the colour isn't available on the desktop version

I agree with your OP fifi but you then single out a poster who has said she has just given birth, is new to MN and is struggling. When she's been here a while she'll get it but I think a little kindness wouldn't go amiss.

@BoreOfWhabylon I've tried doing this but I don't have those options in my settings

I've only just realised that CF means cheeky fucker, in my head I've been reading it as 'cunty fucker'. I think you should LTB.