In expecting people to read the FUCKING thread?!

[fifithefoof]

Is it me or is it getting worse??

I may accidentally miss an update if the thread is really long --quite often because there's too many comments that haven't read the full thread.

But if you can't take the time to read the whole thread (you can clearly see how long it is before posting), then wait to comment until you can!

The thread gets annoying to read because it's full of irrelevant comments.

Also, just commenting without reading as a matter of course can sometimes be upsetting to an op who's in more delicate situation.

Eg "I think my husband's cheating should I check his phone?" Then getting pages of 'yes check his phone" by people that think they don't need to waste time reading the thread, they'd rather hear the sound of their own voice. When it's actually moved on that the husband got caught out and moved out to be with the other woman last week and poor op is having to deal with 'yes check his phone' again and again.

Honestly, sometimes it's not like a discussion forum it's like an echo chamber for poster's opinions.

Gah. Sorry. Rant over.

Watch me accidentally not rtft in the near future.

@fifithefoof

Sorry your OP is a bit TL;DR, but I didn't want to read and run. Stay strong.

@Tinty thanks for being kind. I was quite upset earlier at some of the nastiness

Probably the hormones made me take it to heart more, but I'm just not used to such nastiness. I was always taught to be kind to others as you don't know what other people are going through

@Mummyof0ne it was hardly nastiness. And you were the one who was prolonging the argument.

Seriously, as I said before, I've had my ass handed to me on mn in a MUCH worse way for less. Mumsnet isn't a sweet fluffy mummy group.

The problem, if a thread is running to many pages, is that you know a lot of it will be:

69 posters repeating exactly the same advice that other posters have given;
Some random nasties making pointless and insulting posts just because they can;
A bilateral conversation between two posters about hair dye because someone mentioned it briefly in one of their posts;
Someone correcting the OP's grammar;
Several posters projecting their own experiences onto the OP and bitterly telling her to LTB/change the locks and never let her MIL across the threshold.

So on a very long thread I usually read the first couple of pages and the last couple to get the tone and gist and to make sure things haven't moved on a lot or there hasn't been some important extra information added.

Sorry, haven't RTFT, but did anybody manage to come up with any suggestions at all as to how to change the settings to highlight the OP's posts?

Oh, and YAVVDBVVVU to be even thinking about worming your dog - worms need a place to live too.

Yes I'm learning that now

Slowly steps away from mumsnet

I actually do have to work he dog actually. (And cats.) See Mumsnet has its uses.

Haven't RTFT - can't be arsed.

@fifithefoof - dog bone much . MNHQ have even deleted one of your posts this morning.

@mummyofone as I said before, don't go, don't take it all to heart. You may learn some really helpful things on mumsnet.

Just take the rough with the smooth and bear in mind that you can easily write the wrong thing on here by misunderstanding or not knowing the mumsnet etiquette.

There are some really nice fun threads on here sometimes. Which can really make you laugh when things are tough.

Also @fifithefoof you are mean to work the dog, what if he just wants to laze around all day? .

Plus worms are people too you know, well maybe not people but you know what I mean. .

@Tinty they deleted it at my request.

@Mummyof0ne don't step away, just ignore any comments you see as mean. There's more good than bad here I think.

YABVVVU.

Why are people mentioning worms?

They are Jackshouse, they're green on mine.

@fifithefoof and @MyMuffinsStuck

It's definitely FUCKING, not full.

If anything it would have been RTFFT.

why are you internet shouting and swearing, so unlady like

@Lweji

Go on admit it you haven't RTFT have you.

People are mentioning worms because a PP decided to post that she hadn't had her dog wormed. Basically in a, I haven't read the thread at all and posting a completely random thing just for fun type way. . So now it is just coming back every so many posts just for fun.

I think you should check his phone.

ThumbWitchesAbroad
That's very helpful thank you.
I'm not breast feeding, or eating anything organic, or using an app, so I should be ok with PigletJohn and a few youtube vids.

fifithefoof I'm really sorry you've had a shitty time this year

I'll come and fix your drains once I've sorted mine. I promise to read all your threads all the way through, and sit any exam on them which you care to set.

I'm off for a Spar day, I'm all out of cheese.

@MummyofOne, I don't know if you have managed to colour code the OP's and your posts now, I hope so as it makes reading a long thread much easier.

What I do on long threads is skim read the first two pages and if everyone is saying pretty much what I was going to say I see no point in just repeating ad naseum the same thing (on the thread you were on earlier, for example, every single one of the posts on the first two pages said pretty much exactly what you posted some 30 odd pages later), scroll through and read the OP's updates if there are any (mine are highlighted), then skim over the last 2 or 3 pages to see where the thread is at now.

I think using the phrase/idea ‘mn isn’t a fluffy place, posters should be aware of that’ is bollocks. It takes nothing to be kind, but an awful lot of effort seems to go into trying to be witty and acerbic when goading newbies for their perceived wrong doing of not rtft. To be fair, most of the time I’ve see it happen on here, the witty acerbic bit’s clearly failed, as it just comes across as goady and a bit eye roll-y and unnecessary. So what if someone doesn’t read the whole thread? It’s just a post, on a forum, on the internet - does it genuinely affect anyone that much?