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To be given milk to drink that had been open for 3 days!

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LittleMe03 · 07/02/2018 22:00

Now I expect to be flamed for this, and for it to seem really silly to lots of people....

.... but I was diagnosed with IBS around 4 years ago now after being terribly ill on and off for a few months.

I was told to keep a diary to figure out what 'triggers' caused me problems. After around a year I worked out what foods and drinks caused me to be poorly.

I love milk, will drink 1/2 a pint a day on its own or have it with cereal, I rarely drink any hot drinks. However, I soon realised that if my milk was not REALLY fresh (used same day opened or day after) I got terrible stomach pains. So even thou it's more expensive I tend to buy a pint at a time for home use and I try to avoid drinking milk elsewhere.

I nipped in to see my sister today after work, she is well aware of this strange issue of mine. She asked me if I would like a drink. I said I fancied milk but if she didn't have 'fresh' milk i would have some water. She went to the kitchen and came back with a glass of milk claiming 'I have just opened it' I drank it and soon after left.

About an hour ago I started to feel really funny, stomach pains and grumbling pains Sad I couldn't figure out where I had gone wrong and rang my sister to check on the milk she had given me. She laughed and said it had been open a few days but it was fine so she didn't think anything of it and thought I was just paranoid Angry

AIBU to be upset with her? I didn't say much to her on the phone other than explain that I do think that could be why I may now feel poorly tonight Sad

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Whisky2014 · 07/02/2018 22:02

Well she lied so you're NBU. But you drink far too much milk imo. Poor cow's continuously impregnated to keep the milk supply going. But i guess that's another story.

RemainOptimistic · 07/02/2018 22:04

I'm amazed you have ibs and are drinking that amount of milk Hmm

Whatshallidonowpeople · 07/02/2018 22:07

Drinking milk is the cause of your stomach issues. What adult drinks a glass of milk? Milk is for babies.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 07/02/2018 22:09

Have you tried not drinking milk at all? I bet your IBS is much reduced.

Maryann1975 · 07/02/2018 22:11

I never knew it was strange for adults to drink a glass of milk. Me and dh often have a glass of milk to drink.
Ops issue isn’t with fresh milk, only with milk that has been open for a few days. Her sister lied nd now she isn’t poorly. Yanbu to be annoyed with her.

Crispbutty · 07/02/2018 22:12

“What adult drinks a glass of milk? Milk is for babies.”

Eh?? I drink plenty of milk and I’m 47, should I stop? Confused

OP, have you tried lactose free milk, I find that less likely to cause a flare up of IBS

Flomy · 07/02/2018 22:12

Why is it different after 12/24/36/48 hours?

LolitaLempicka · 07/02/2018 22:15

Surely 3 day old milk is as fresh as newly opened milk (ie not really that fresh at all)

AjasLipstick · 07/02/2018 22:20

I agree that milk is NOT ideal when you have IBS!

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 07/02/2018 22:20

I buy the four pint bottles from the shop. They definitely sit open in the fridge longer than three days. Still fresh though in a nice cold fridge.

Op you could try not drinking so much milk and see if that makes a difference.

Your ds did fib though.

Allthecoolkids · 07/02/2018 22:22

You know the milk you buy in the supermarket didn’t come out of the cow that day, right??

Notcontent · 07/02/2018 22:22

I think it’s very highly unlikely that there is any difference in the composition of the milk just because the bottle has been opened. As others have said, I think it’s milk that’s your issue. Apparently a large percentage of the population has trouble digesting milk but many people don’t realise it. Plain milk (as opposed to other diary products such as cheese or yoghurt) is the worst because the lactose hasn’t been broken down.

Margomyhero · 07/02/2018 22:23

I doubt that the milk is any less fresh just because the top has been removed. It is probably a few days old at least by the time it hits the shops.

Milk hater here though, so perhaps not the best to comment on your post Grin

MyDcAreMarvel · 07/02/2018 22:25

Adults shouldn't really drink milk, dairy is for babies.

blueletter · 07/02/2018 22:27

First off I am an IBS sufferer. I get the pain, the constipation the runs the lot. I also have a gallbladder grief so my bowel and my arse is under constant scrutiny by myself... anyway.

I am trying to work out how you know the milk is really fresh? I mean... you could be opening milk thats 24hrs old (from milking to shop floor) just opened or 3 days old just opened and you don't get any symptoms? One is fresh the other... isn't.

I am wondering if you're anxious about the milk and thus get symptoms because you haven't personally bought, opened the milk etc. Stress and anxiety is a big IBS trigger along side the food we eat.

Lastly - go for oat milk. Honestly oats are soothing to the gut, drink a glass of that instead of your regular milk for a week or so and see if its any different. you can even put that milkshake stuff in it (DC confirmed it tastes OK) I am convert and have oat milk in my cereals instead of cows milk. Its useless in tea though so I still have a little skimmed cows milk in my tea and limit it to 2 cups a day. IBS only ever flares up if I increase my dairy intake from approx 50ml. Dairy is an issue, you need to cut it down from everything. Even the spreads you use. Go for vegan spreads/fats when baking etc.

Allthecoolkids · 07/02/2018 22:28

Blue I find hemp milk more acceptable in tea than oat.

NoqontroI · 07/02/2018 22:30

That's not very nice of your sister to do that.

Ontheboardwalk · 07/02/2018 22:31

I can only drink milk that’s chilled and been opened that day. The only reasoning I have behind it is the rotten bird pecked warm milk they used to make me drink at school.

I’m going to get flamed here but 'Maggie Maggie milk snatcher'was the one and only good thing she did for this country.

OP it’s not a strange issue and it clearly makes you ill.

blueletter · 07/02/2018 22:31

Allthecoolkids its the cost! I make my own oat milk every couple of days and DC drinks regular milk. I cant justify buying another type of milk that i'd end up throwing some away. When I am rich and DCS tastebuds have developed to like other milks a bit more I may try then

OkPedro · 07/02/2018 22:32

Adults shouldn't drink milk 😂 ffs
My ds doesn't drink milk
Me and my dd have a glass of milk with our dinner
We're not drinking it from a babies bottle Hmm

SoupDragon · 07/02/2018 22:32

Poor cow's continuously impregnated to keep the milk supply going. But i guess that's another story.

I hope you’re a vegan then.

Crispbutty · 07/02/2018 22:32

“Adults shouldn't really drink milk, dairy is for babies.”

Good god now it’s an entire food group I should avoid. No cheese, no cream, no butter?

really??? Ffs Hmm

floriad · 07/02/2018 22:33

But... I'm a bit confused by this.

Seems strange.
Does the use by date matter as well?

Or is it just when it was opened?

You drink a lot of milk, btw.

Vandree · 07/02/2018 22:33

I think your problem is that you have IBS, not that the milk was open for a certain period of time. I can only have tiny amounts of milk every couple of days without reacting. Same with bread. If I have a slice of toast I will be fine. If I have a slice of toast every morning and for lunch it will build up in my system and I will have an IBS flare up. It could be the same is happening to you. You are fine for a few days and then you have a flare up that you then put down to the last milk product you had and not the fact that its actually all the other milk you have had fermenting in your bowel and causing you to have an ill stomach.

My sil has IBS also, she will eat vast amounts of fatty food over a week and spend 10 hours on the loo blaming a "dodgy takeaway/milk/chicken/etc" and tell everyone she must have had food poisoning. Eh no, avoid triggers and you will be fine.

Original poster
LittleMe03 · 07/02/2018 22:33

Firstly- I wasn't aware that adults shouldn't drink milk Confused

I don't even understand it myself which is why I said in my OP that it would seem silly to many.

I have never had a problem drinking milk if it's just been opened. I open my milk and smell it, any smell at all to it then it isn't fresh enough for me to drink. This is not me being any sort of 'milk snob' Grin it's just me knowing my own body and knowing what will and will not make me poorly.

My sister gave me the milk and I should have done my sniff test but didn't want her to think I didn't trust her so just drank it.

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