To be given milk to drink that had been open for 3 days!

[LittleMe03]

Now I expect to be flamed for this, and for it to seem really silly to lots of people....

.... but I was diagnosed with IBS around 4 years ago now after being terribly ill on and off for a few months.

I was told to keep a diary to figure out what 'triggers' caused me problems. After around a year I worked out what foods and drinks caused me to be poorly.

I love milk, will drink 1/2 a pint a day on its own or have it with cereal, I rarely drink any hot drinks. However, I soon realised that if my milk was not REALLY fresh (used same day opened or day after) I got terrible stomach pains. So even thou it's more expensive I tend to buy a pint at a time for home use and I try to avoid drinking milk elsewhere.

I nipped in to see my sister today after work, she is well aware of this strange issue of mine. She asked me if I would like a drink. I said I fancied milk but if she didn't have 'fresh' milk i would have some water. She went to the kitchen and came back with a glass of milk claiming 'I have just opened it' I drank it and soon after left.

About an hour ago I started to feel really funny, stomach pains and grumbling pains I couldn't figure out where I had gone wrong and rang my sister to check on the milk she had given me. She laughed and said it had been open a few days but it was fine so she didn't think anything of it and thought I was just paranoid

AIBU to be upset with her? I didn't say much to her on the phone other than explain that I do think that could be why I may now feel poorly tonight

It's not really relevant why OP does or doesn't drink milk and what sort she likes - the point is she specifically said to her sister that if it was X milk she'd have it but if not she'd have water. The sister lied about it so it's not unreasonable for OP to be cross.

that's why cheese makes everyone gassy

Everyone? Really? I eat a fair bit of cheese and it has never once made me ‘gassy’. I’m not even sure what gassy means.

I dumped a bf once because he drank a glass of milk at dinner.

Still makes me feel sick. He was 25.

Don't drink something you are allergic to. Full stop.

And I hope you're recycling all those bottles each day

Josie?

Really? That's what we used to do when we visited the Swedish part of my family.

I don't really drink milk anymore but it's such a weird topic. People are genuinely divided on this subject...

@PurpleRobe

Thank you, ever so helpful

I'm lactose intolerant, but what's wrong with milk that's been opened 3 days if it smells okay and has been in a fridge?

@JosieSand

Let's face it, you really just didn't like him very much did you if you used that as an excuse

@expatinscotland

I've no idea! It just disagrees with me!

“Drinking milk is the cause of your stomach issues. What adult drinks a glass of milk? Human Milk is for babies.”

Cows’ Milk is for —babies— calves.

Experiment with other non dairy milks, rice milk is very bland and possibly less unlikely to cause digestive upsets.

Stop drinking milk! It obviously doesn't agree with you

Try avoiding milk op (cheese etc ok). Not eating brown bread and drinking milk means my ibs almost does occur which is so much better than before (making note of where toilets where everywhere i went). (Thai food seems to set me off too which is awful as i love it). Your sis should have told you. I pretty much took myself down to rice and chicken and slowly bought in every food till i found what set it off. Good luck x

This is a form of lactose intolerance. For some people, their lactose intolerance is greater and taking it in causes headaches, severe stomach pains, bloating, and diarrhea. nope. there is lactose intolerance and there is... well thats it. You either are or you aren't. There aren't different forms. Milk makes you happy or it makes ill enough to fill a zeppelin then shit through the eye of a needle.

Sorry but this is rubbish. I'm not lactose intolerant but dairy was one of my IBS triggers. If I had not had IBS I wouldn't have had a problem with milk, now my IBS is much better the problem with milk Is almost gone. Whereas people who are lactose intolerant have a problem with milk regardless of whether they have IBS or not.

Coming on here in solidarity as someone whose body has similar idiosyncrasies (and beware disbelieving others - you may like me develop a lovely myriad of them yourself in future life). OP, I think this just confirms you shouldn't drink other people's milk, keep going with your own. Cut your sister some slack, I doubt she thought about it enough to realise it would cause you pain.

I drink Cravendale. Tastes amazing and lasts a week when opened. I’m laughing at people saying adults shouldn’t drink milk. I drink it when I eat spicy food as it helps with the heat.
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For the posters asking why people are advising her to give up milk when she hasn't asked for that. Because has said that part of the time she drinks milk she has 'terrible stomach pains', which indicates it is a direct problem.

She doesn't always get them though and this she has randomly attributed to how old the milk is, rather than the vagaries of IBS.

Given that a newly opened bottle of milk could have been sitting on a shop shelf for a while, and a bottle open for two days could be technically younger, this makes no rational, logical sense.

The doctor I saw for IBS told me that it was very difficult to get some patients to give up food that caused them considerable problems. They were so attached to it they would rather eat it and suffer the consequences, than stop.

Personally my reading of this is that milk sometimes triggers painful IBS symptoms, for which OP is attributing irrational reasons to justify continuing to drink it. And that's entirely up to her.

What riding says. Im not lactose intolence but milk is a trigger for me

I love milk and I am not going to stop drinking it. If milk was to cause me to suffer constantly then I wouldn't drink it. Orange juice does this to me, and I loved orange juice but have given it up altogether for this reason.

I drink milk most days and haven't had an issue with doing so for over a year, which was the last time I drank milk that had been open for longer than a couple of days. I worked out this was my problem with milk years ago.

I am not saying I have any scientific proof that this is definitely the issue, but it works for me.

Milk is not for adults to drink. It's for bathing in.

When we open milk do we actually know how old it is - perhaps different companies have different lengths of time before it gets from farm to supermarket.

wow how horrid of her. And she is your sister !

YANBU. You asked your sister a specific question; she was aware of your medical condition but was careless.

I have IBS too and would be really annoyed if a trigger I had tried to avoid was given to me like this.

This thread has been weirdly derailed. Milk/dairy is for anyone who fancies it!! And who are we to question the OP when she says that she has done extensive research into her own triggers and has made certain deductions

The point is, I feel that your sister is a horrid know-it-all who doesnt ‘believe’ in your condition and thinks you are just being precious or making a fuss. I cannot count the number of threads I have read on here regarding PILs not believing the DIL when she says that the new baby is intolerant of whatever food stuff. Why is this any different? Now that your sis has succeeded in making you clearly feel poorly, I hope she will wind her neck in and not try and ‘prove’ she is right in her ignorant assumptions.

blueshoes just to reiterate the importance of not drinking properly treated milk, my brother drank some organic milk from a local farm which had not been properly sterilized and got e-coli poisoning. I seem to remember it wasn't labelled as 'raw milk' and was sold in shops.

It was awful, and he was really ill.

It's all the same. There is no difference between just opened milk and three day old milk unless the milk has actually gone off.
She lied because you were being silly by imagining a difference. Like when toddlers tell you that they can't eat that banana because you looked at it funny.