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AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:23

Sorry for rambling but I'm shaking and fuming right now.

Hubby came home today from working abroad and I've just seen this screenshot in his IPad gallery. (Not snooping, daughter and I were scrolling through pics on there from when we last visited)
We are at his mothers for the night and it's the first time he's seen her in 10 months so I don't want to make a scene.
I have confronted him and at first he looked confused like I was showing him a picture of a fucking dog with 3 heads and said "I don't know" Hmm then he said "it's a long story". I told him I didn't want to hear it and I wanted him to drive us home after we'd eaten and he could stay at his mums.
He's now gone upstairs in his old bedroom because he's tired from the flight, bless him Angry And I'm sat downstairs with his mum and sister who hardly speak English entertaining our 6 year old daughter.
I want to smother him with a pillow but I'm not insured to drive the car.
So AIBU to think this is him looking for a shag while he's working away?
And what should I do?

AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??
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PicardsCombOver · 09/06/2017 20:25

Can you drive DD and yourself home OP? I don't blame you for wanting to leave. Brew

PrivetDrive24 · 09/06/2017 20:26

Tbh it looks exactly like that. Sorry OP Flowers

Trifleorbust · 09/06/2017 20:28

Sadly I would say so, yes Flowers

Fauchelevent · 09/06/2017 20:29

Exactly what you think.

stella23 · 09/06/2017 20:29

His reaction is suspicious, how far away from home are you? He counting on your resonableness to not make a fuss

PinkyandtheBrainyOne · 09/06/2017 20:30

Not defending him; but why would he screenshot his own conversation? Is that something people do? Confused

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:30

Horrible bastard I'm so angry I was looking forward to seeing him too. I can't drive as I've left my car at home and he's got a hire car so I'm not insured to drive it. Im sat here in the kitchen like a twat talking about all the things we can do whilst he's home for a couple of weeks. Confused

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MrsTerryPratchett · 09/06/2017 20:30

It looks like that. It also looks like he's given himself thinking time to work out his excuses. Go home and get your ducks in a row.

Tiredemma · 09/06/2017 20:32

How far away from home are you?

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:32

Not too far from home, we could get a taxi really but it would cost around £40

I was wondering why it was screenshot Pinky Hmm

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DubiousCredentials · 09/06/2017 20:32

I agree it looks dodgy but not sure why he'd have a screenshot of the conversation? Also it's dated last August - but that's irrelevant I suppose.

Flowers
Tiredemma · 09/06/2017 20:33

Get a taxi home.

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/06/2017 20:33

Where was he last August?

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:34

Yes I noted the date, I've just gone back to whatsapp convo with him on that that date...and it shows there was a massive delay in a reply from him to a message from me. And when he did reply he was extra nice

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PinkyandtheBrainyOne · 09/06/2017 20:35

Is it possible a friend sent it to him through Facebook or some other instant messenger and he saved it? I've got conversations a friend had with his partner saved to my phone that I didn't even realise were there until I started browsing through my photos.

GlitteryPenguin · 09/06/2017 20:35

Could he have the screenshot to have the address to hand? If there was an innocent reason I feel like he would have come up with the truth on the spot... I'm sorry OP. Sad Could you spare the money for a taxi?

user1488122513 · 09/06/2017 20:35

Looks like he has a lot of explaining to do. I'd ask to see his bank records and see if the money was/has in the past been taken out.

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:35

He was away in August, exactly near the address noted on the conversation Angry

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Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:37

Sorry if I'm not keeping up with everyone I'm trying to multitask

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happypoobum · 09/06/2017 20:37

Get a taxi home. Then bag up all his stuff and send it to his mums.

Cheating bastard.

Maybe STI check up for you too Sad Flowers

tillytown · 09/06/2017 20:38

He has gone to bed right, so he isn't going to talk to you tonight. Get a taxi and go home Flowers

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:38

I can spare the money for taxi but I kind of want to hear what he comes up with, I've checked his browsing history and it was cleared a couple of weeks ago

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jensterr · 09/06/2017 20:38

Oh love Sad doesn't look great. Get yourself home, if you can.

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 09/06/2017 20:39

Re: The screenshot thing.

My tablet has a button on the side which does screenshots, there are about 20 of the bloody things in my photos, it happens when I pick it up by the side.

So it's possible it was accidental and he didn't notice.

Sorry OP it don't look good. Flowers

43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 20:39

Taxi, hey he's happy to spend 700 an hour for someone's time, why shouldn't you spend similar?

If he found a screen dump on your iPad confirming you were paying a man for sex do you think he would look after your child whilst making small talk in your mums kitchen whilst you had a kip cos you were sleepy?!

Go home. Don't tell him just go via taxi.