AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??

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Sorry for rambling but I'm shaking and fuming right now.

Hubby came home today from working abroad and I've just seen this screenshot in his IPad gallery. (Not snooping, daughter and I were scrolling through pics on there from when we last visited)
We are at his mothers for the night and it's the first time he's seen her in 10 months so I don't want to make a scene.
I have confronted him and at first he looked confused like I was showing him a picture of a fucking dog with 3 heads and said "I don't know" then he said "it's a long story". I told him I didn't want to hear it and I wanted him to drive us home after we'd eaten and he could stay at his mums.
He's now gone upstairs in his old bedroom because he's tired from the flight, bless him And I'm sat downstairs with his mum and sister who hardly speak English entertaining our 6 year old daughter.
I want to smother him with a pillow but I'm not insured to drive the car.
So AIBU to think this is him looking for a shag while he's working away?
And what should I do?

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I am inclined to agree. I travel a fair bit for work and my brother travels even more internationally . Prostitution is wide spread globally in high medium and low end institutions, it's easily available for men or women alike, if one were to ask.

In some industries it seems more common than others, where it's more common to simply shag colleagues for kicks and or career progression.

I wish people wouldn't get caught up with each other and ignore the OP. I wonder what's happened now? Have you talked again? Could you stay with him knowing he's likely to use prostitutes whenever you are apart? Some women can handle that but it's not a very healthy basis for a marriage....I wouldn't give his story any thought at all. It's pure BS. Don't bother looking at his manufactured evidence. Anyone can download a vpn.

Please do update, OP. Did you believe him, then?

What is the most suspicious about his story is all this VPN bullshit. A vpn is used to hide your location, so you can watch videos not allowed in your own country, for example. It makes it look like you are in the U.K. When you are really in Dubai, or wherever. It's used also for two networks to speak securely to each other, so when you log into a work network, for example, you might use a company vpn. A spy might use one if she thought she was being monitored on the web. There would be no need to have one to contact a prostitute. His friend obviously supposedly had a gadget with internet access, that's all you need to do contact her yourself. If he was so paranoid that someone was monitoring his internet activity, which is totally unlikely unless you were a spy or a world leader or something like that, he could download a vpn for free in minutes.

So this alone shows the story is absolute bullshit. And it took him hours to come up with it.

So have no doubt he is lying. Just decide if you can live with a man that is clearly very experienced with organizing and using prostitutes, and who doesn't have the guts to be honest about it.

@BengalGal actually in Dubai a VPN would be needed because all those type of websites are blocked by the (only 2) internet providers in the entire country. They have very strong 'surf safely' security blocks on many words and images - often even innocent ones (like Cosmopolitan magazine's entire website for example) - so most people use VPN in the UAE. Not only spies 🕵🏻

Also I should add that most VPN downloads are also blocked in the UAE, so unless you have pre-downloaded & installed it on your computer or tablet outside of the country, you likely won't be able to download a VPN once you're there.

Good points. So it makes the story more plausible but I still think he would have told her this in the first few minutes and not taken 2 hours if it were true. But that makes it easier to believe him, especially because you have so much invested in believing him. I still think he's lying, and being a pimp isn't much better anyway.

So talk to the wife, say you think your husband is probably lying and it wasn't her husband involved (whoever did the bargaining had experience and knew local prices, unlikely with mr. I have no vpn and have never done this before), but ask her to pretend she does think it was her husband and see what this guy says when confronted by an angry wife. He might not be so keen to protect is friend if it truly threatens his marriage.