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AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:23

Sorry for rambling but I'm shaking and fuming right now.

Hubby came home today from working abroad and I've just seen this screenshot in his IPad gallery. (Not snooping, daughter and I were scrolling through pics on there from when we last visited)
We are at his mothers for the night and it's the first time he's seen her in 10 months so I don't want to make a scene.
I have confronted him and at first he looked confused like I was showing him a picture of a fucking dog with 3 heads and said "I don't know" Hmm then he said "it's a long story". I told him I didn't want to hear it and I wanted him to drive us home after we'd eaten and he could stay at his mums.
He's now gone upstairs in his old bedroom because he's tired from the flight, bless him Angry And I'm sat downstairs with his mum and sister who hardly speak English entertaining our 6 year old daughter.
I want to smother him with a pillow but I'm not insured to drive the car.
So AIBU to think this is him looking for a shag while he's working away?
And what should I do?

AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??
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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:20

I already don't believe what he's going to say!

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43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 21:20

Well if you are fasting you probably need dinner before going. How you feeling? What do you want to happen?

notapizzaeater · 09/06/2017 21:20

I'd have to kill him, bugger sleeping - he should be trying to save his marriage

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:21

Yes I know he's gone bed because he doesn't want to face me, he didn't say he was tired before I showed him.

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VoteMe · 09/06/2017 21:21

What an awful situation. Him watching porn knowing that you dislike it so much is bad enough. Sleeping with a prostitute would be the end of the line for me.

Papafran · 09/06/2017 21:21

What a sick bastard. Yes, I don't think there is any doubt that he has contacted an escort. Blatantly not the first time either- haggling over price etc. And probably screenshot it to save the escort details and the agreement on price. He knows what he is doing.

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:22

I feel numb tbh it doesn't feel real Sad

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:23

Didn't think this would be my first mumsnet post 😂 (Long time lurker)

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:23

He's Up!

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WankStainWasher · 09/06/2017 21:23

it's 700 dirhams not pounds so around £140, not that it makes much difference
No, it doesn't make a difference. My point was he's not worried about pissing away who knows how much money on escorts, etc - so don't you even think twice about taking a taxi home! Flowers

43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 21:24

Can you have sweet tea, you are probably in shock.

I guess you will have to see whether your gut tells you he is lying.

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:24

He bought me some lush perfume from the airport too. That will be getting launched at the hire car

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MermaidsTears · 09/06/2017 21:25

Going to give benefitnof doubt...he may have enquired but not gone through with it. I hope he didnt....what a wanker either way though!

BeachyKeen · 09/06/2017 21:25

He sounds like a creepSad I hope you take good care of yourself in the coming days and weeksFlowers

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:26

Will make tea now to have before my food. I'm on a low sugar diet 😂 I'll enjoy it!

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kaytee87 · 09/06/2017 21:28

How awful for you Flowers
What a dick! You sound cool, calm and collected, I admire you.
I hope has to explain to his mum why he's staying there alone tonight.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 09/06/2017 21:28

Hello and ramadan mubarak im fasting too, it was ramadan last year my husband did a similar thing his excuse was its "just a fantasy" i had always seen escort relating pages in the past, porn etc and had kicked up a fuss but it was only when i told him enough was enough and threw his phone and the table lamp at him that made him realise i wasnt going to put up with that shit. And in all honesty, hes stopped it all, completely. If you manage to log into his google account on your phone you can see his full activity log even if he clears his history also his timeline on maps etc. Hope that helps and im sorry youre going through this. X

PlaydoughBarbershop · 09/06/2017 21:29

Sorry OP. Doesn't look good FlowersFlowersFlowers

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 21:31

Ramadan Mubarak East Mids if I find he has cheated there will be no more chances. I will try and check google account.

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Georgeofthejungle · 09/06/2017 21:31

He bought me some lush perfume from the airport too. That will be getting launched at the hire car

Love this! Grin

43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 21:32

Others on here may know other sites. I've seen people advise to type his user name in and see if it prepopulates or if his email is already registered. Don't tell him you are gonna do this.

mummymummums · 09/06/2017 21:38

Unfortunately I think he's cheated. The screenshot was so there was no dispute as to price agreed or for the address. Or possibly to compare if he was contacting several!!!
Get a good solicitor if this spells the end for you.

mrsroboto · 09/06/2017 21:38

On my phone, pictures sent through WhatsApp get put into my gallery. So if this was from a mate as a joke or something that might explain it. However the fact he didn't immediately say this seems like it's exactly what it looks like. He's probably trying to think up ways to explain it right now.

Offherhead · 09/06/2017 21:39

Yuck. What a filthy despicable individual. Don't waste any time listening to his stories / excuses and whining. Nor seeking the full fact. Cheaters don't know facts or ever change. Ditch him faster than the dodgy sti he's probably imparted.

TigerApplique · 09/06/2017 21:42

OP sorry I haven't read through the whole of the comments, I would hear him out then make my judgement, and if you do then feel that he is not telling the truth...

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