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AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:23

Sorry for rambling but I'm shaking and fuming right now.

Hubby came home today from working abroad and I've just seen this screenshot in his IPad gallery. (Not snooping, daughter and I were scrolling through pics on there from when we last visited)
We are at his mothers for the night and it's the first time he's seen her in 10 months so I don't want to make a scene.
I have confronted him and at first he looked confused like I was showing him a picture of a fucking dog with 3 heads and said "I don't know" Hmm then he said "it's a long story". I told him I didn't want to hear it and I wanted him to drive us home after we'd eaten and he could stay at his mums.
He's now gone upstairs in his old bedroom because he's tired from the flight, bless him Angry And I'm sat downstairs with his mum and sister who hardly speak English entertaining our 6 year old daughter.
I want to smother him with a pillow but I'm not insured to drive the car.
So AIBU to think this is him looking for a shag while he's working away?
And what should I do?

AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??
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Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:39

He's only gone to bed for a couple of hours he's fasting so will wake up to eat around half 9

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MotherOfBleach · 09/06/2017 20:40

I screen shot by accident all the time. My camera roll is full of MN and YouTube caps.

I don't know how easy it is to screen shot on iPad? I'd check that out OP if you was in case he tries to wrangle it into his excuse.

I'm very sorry you are going through this Flowers

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:40

I know I should just go but my little girl is playing with her cousin and i don't want to upset her Sad

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43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 20:41

I ask again how would he react to you having a screen dump about you paying a man for sex?

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:42

Sorry 43 trying to keep up with messages on my phone. He would divorce me for less than that!

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43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 20:42

he is thinking of what to tell you. He will have an explanation at 9:30, anyone want to guess what it might be?

A friend?
Just looking but didn't go through with it?
Entertaining a client?

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:43

Even if he screenshot by mistake why would he have that on his screen.

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43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 20:43

As I thought feel, so go home!

stella23 · 09/06/2017 20:45

He's only gone to bed for a couple of hours he's fasting so will wake up to eat around half 9 I think he's playing for time. Clearly there is an innocent answer which he could easily give or not

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:45

Whatever he says I know it will be lies from his reaction, why would he just go to bed. Knob. Ffs we went to see him 6 weeks ago I need to get myself checked don't I Envy

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43percentburnt · 09/06/2017 20:47

Why is it acceptable for him to divorce you for less than that but he can skulk off to bed without speaking about it?

It doesn't look good and You deserve better.

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:47

I think he will say it was something his friend sent him or he was joking around with his friend? We've been married 10 years and we're planning on having another baby, twat.

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Ilikecrocs · 09/06/2017 20:47

Could it be a screen shot from someone else? If someone sends me a photo on WhatsApp it automatically gets saved on my camera roll.

Starlighter · 09/06/2017 20:48

Get temporary insurance and drive home if you want to. His reaction to being caught out is unbelievable! Go and wake him up!!

GinSwigmore · 09/06/2017 20:48

I'm so sorry but yes I would be getting checked in your shoes.

Original poster
FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:48

After we have eaten I will make him take us home, he doesn't have a key as I took them both so he won't be getting in tonight

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Purplepicnic · 09/06/2017 20:49

Easy enough to screen shot by mistake. Though if people send a photo through Whatsapp it goes straight to your camera roll. So could possibly be that someone sent it to him. You'll have to hear his explanation and decide if you believe it or not.

MotherOfBleach · 09/06/2017 20:49

^he is thinking of what to tell you. He will have an explanation at 9:30, anyone want to guess what it might be?

A friend?
Just looking but didn't go through with it?
Entertaining a client?^

A friend, that is why he screen shot it, so he could send it to his mate and show him.

I'd bet my last penny that's what he comes up with. And then probably some bollocks about why wouldn't he delete it if he had anything to hide, which is why I advised to check out how easy it to accidentally screen cap something on an iPad. So, that OP can point out (should she decide to argue her overwhelming case and not just walk out) that he probably didn't hide it because he didn't know it was there. Unlike the browsing history.

You don't need to decide anything yet, OP. Try to take some breathing space but don't fall for his bullshit. He paid for sex. That happened. It doesn't mean you have to leave but if you don't he'll probably do it again

How is the marriage generally?

IntheBenefitTrap · 09/06/2017 20:50

How awful. Yes, your daughter comes first so don't upset her but leave when you can. Leave him there the bastard.

XiCi · 09/06/2017 20:51

If he was in the UAE on those dates then I don't see how he can have any other explanation unless he comes up with some bullshit about arranging this for a friend. Yes you need to get checked out. Sorry OP, must be a massive shock.

Serialweightwatcher · 09/06/2017 20:51

I'm pretty sure if he wasn't guilty he would have explained himself and begged and pleaded for you to believe him, knackered or not - as it is he has scuttled upstairs to lie down get his story straight So sorry OP but doesn't sound good at all Flowers

Figaro2017 · 09/06/2017 20:51

You screenshot an IPad by pressing and holding the on/off button. It automatically saves to the camera roll.

Sorry.

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FeellikeLTB · 09/06/2017 20:52

I hope to God for his sake it's a screenshot sent from one of his mates because if he has cheated on me with an escort and thrown our marriage away for a shag for £140 I will take him to the cleaners

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redlittlesquirrel · 09/06/2017 20:52

I agree it looks dodgy but not sure why he'd have a screenshot of the conversation?

Either for the address or so there can't be any disagreement over price, would be my guess.

Sprinklestar · 09/06/2017 20:53

Get a taxi home! Seriously. Why are you hanging around? You've got the evidence you need to start divorce proceedings. Tell his mum what's happened. Why should you keep it a secret?