AIBU or does this look like my husband has contacted an escort for sex??

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Sorry for rambling but I'm shaking and fuming right now.

Hubby came home today from working abroad and I've just seen this screenshot in his IPad gallery. (Not snooping, daughter and I were scrolling through pics on there from when we last visited)
We are at his mothers for the night and it's the first time he's seen her in 10 months so I don't want to make a scene.
I have confronted him and at first he looked confused like I was showing him a picture of a fucking dog with 3 heads and said "I don't know" then he said "it's a long story". I told him I didn't want to hear it and I wanted him to drive us home after we'd eaten and he could stay at his mums.
He's now gone upstairs in his old bedroom because he's tired from the flight, bless him And I'm sat downstairs with his mum and sister who hardly speak English entertaining our 6 year old daughter.
I want to smother him with a pillow but I'm not insured to drive the car.
So AIBU to think this is him looking for a shag while he's working away?
And what should I do?

How can you not tell the wife? When you thought you were her you were devastated. Wouldn't you want her to tell you?

He also said he knew what his friend was doing but he didn't actually message the woman he just screenshot what she sent back. He said he didn't get him onto the website or anything but he knew what his friend was doing on the iPad

I didn't say I wasn't going to tell her at all I just wanted to get some more information before speaking to her. I have told H that I am going to tell her he said fine

I would be utterly horrified if my husband helped a friend to do this. What is your response, OP? If he thinks it's OK for his friend to do it, he'll think it's OK for himself to do it.

Also for those speculating, he isn't Arab

He says he thinks it's wrong but it's not his business. Well, I think he's made it his business now!

Does he believe you when you say you'll tell the other woman?

He was not just a bystander. Does he have any remorse?

MrsJamin he's begged me to believe him/forgive him for being stupid. He said he'll not go back to work there if I don't want him to. He said if I want to call the wife to go ahead but I feel sick at the thought of doing so.

That conversation is from 2016? 💐💐💐

He's faked the email - you checked it had 'Aug 2016' on it? Easily faked to make it look like it wasn't made yesterday.

Google deletes messages in trash automatically after 30 days.

In his Gmail account, search back through the 'sent' folder to see if it was sent around the date on the screengrab. You can use search terms to save you wading through.

So why the delay in telling you? And why did he need the iPad over 2 days of messages when DH sent email confirmation to his friend? Presumably by that point he had a way of checking his emails?

I really hope it's innocent. I'm actually a little swayed by the sent email aside from the fact he could have sat down and found it in front of you before you threw him out.

LisaLisa - I got lucky by proxy my dh's phone broke so he borrowed mine for work and forgot to log out of his google account when he gave it back to me. But if you know his password then just add his account on google, type in my activity then it will take you to the page like in the picture Ive attached. Then if you want to see location use google maps, sign in then onto Timeline, a start to finish route of his day.

Isn't it a little disproportionate to say he'll leave his job if he's innocent?

I don't know why he didn't tell me straight away, he said he was worried what I would say and he was surprised because he'd forgotten about it.
I don't know what I'll do in the long term, I'm getting myself checked anyway and I need to think about what I'll say to the wife. H is still staying at his mothers, she knows something is wrong but doesn't really get involved unless asked.
I'm going to take a step back from the thread now but I do appreciate all the input and support. The last couple of days would of been more difficult if I hadn't had somewhere to put this down.

Good night my dear and I do hope all works out for you, whatever the outcome.

Hi OP, this would ring alarm bells for me. Gmail deletes trash after 30 days and it doesn't take a genius to fake that email he's just shown you.

Really sorry. Get to an STD clinic asap

Hope you're ok op

I really hope you get what you need. Everyone is here when you need it.

MrsTerryPratchett -

I suspect this is "the type of thing that comes up in conversation" for people who work in the UAE, especially those visiting and staying in hotels.

According to what I have read all the 5 star hotels for visiting businessmen have a bar where prostitutes are available. It is illegal but it seems to be accepted and very widespread.

I hope the OP is doing ok, I can't imagine how she must feel going through this.

Prostitution in hotels in the UAE is not only not unusual, it is absolutely the accepted norm and the majority of men working out there without partners (oil industry for example) use them. Sorry if that seems unlikely or harsh or even man-hating but it's true. I have seen it with my own eyes and sadly been on the receiving end of a similar revelation in similar circumstances.

Op he is lying. I'd bet my mortgage on it.