To wonder what you would think if your OH said that

[Poisongirl81]

Before being with you in his life he has had sex with men! A couple of times just for the sex. He's also had long term things with women and fancies me very much. Just don't know how to feel.

He's bi.

Would it bother You?

So he is bisexual? It doesn't really make a difference who he has had sex with in the past, it's this present moment that's important. Do you trust him, does he treat you well, do you like him etc. Those are the important questions.

Well, if I didn't know he was bisexual it would be a surprise, if I did, it wouldn't.

Does it bother you that he is bi poison because it sounds as though it does.

I should have worded it would it bother You? I guessed he's bi

He tried it and it didn't float his boat. It wouldn't bother me

I don't know if it bothers me 🙄

It's okay to feel a bit weird about it if you've just found out about his being bi. It's also okay if you decide you'd rather not be in a relationship with a bisexual man.

I was in a civil partnership with a woman, hadn't been with a man ever in an adult relationship (last boyfriend was when I was a 15) - split up with her, met dp, all is great 10 years later.

He is fine with my past. It doesn't have to matter but if it bothers you, talk to him

I'd want to know the details!

The only concern I might have is whether he might yearn for something I physically couldn't do.

I did ask the details...its pretty full on. It's just off as he's a manly man physical job etc I can't imagine him being bummed 😆 makes me feel a bit quesy

Been here. Not a deal breaker. Bisexual doesn't mean you aren't capable of monogamy. Saying that, I have had both male and female partners.

I am completely open minded, but no I wouldn't like it one bit

Sorry TIM but he prefers anal with me which makes me think he is still thinking about it

Not all gay men like anal so that's not a sign.

I don't think it would bother me. I've had bi boyfriends before. I'd be really surprised though!

Do you mean he prefers having anal sex with you over vaginal? Yeah, that would give me pause for thought.

It would bother me and no I wouldn't like it.

I don't think she's homophobic he's using her like he would use a man and she doesn't seem to like it, who would

My DP is bisexual and I know he has had sex with men. I don't ask details but it doesn't bother me.

Yes it would bother me. It would be the end of any relationship.