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MN clique

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TickTickBoomBoom · 05/02/2017 14:12

I'm a regular poster, and have name changed for this.

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a clique here? Some people's posts always get answered and they seem like a happy friendly little group. If you're 'new' or haven't posted that much, you pretty much get ignored.

I enjoy reading the posts, and I enjoy posting, but this 'exclusivity' is really getting to me. This is supposed to be a place people can come with their problems/jokes etc, and to feel like some people are 'left out' kinda defeats the object IMHO.

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CantGetNoSleeeeeeep · 05/02/2017 14:14

I don't find this. I rarely post but when I have needed advice and posted posters have been really helpful

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 05/02/2017 14:14

I think it's usually more to do with time of day and how busy the board is than a clique.

Sparklingbrook · 05/02/2017 14:16

Not lately, no. With all the namechanging I have hardly any idea who anyone is any more.

I have noticed a few 'I'm new here so be gentle' posts but I don't understand why newbies have to announce they are new.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 05/02/2017 14:17

It's just you.

Highalert · 05/02/2017 14:17

Who is in the clique then?

ilovesooty · 05/02/2017 14:18

Another name changing goady thread. Can't see this ending well.

ActuallyThatsSUPREMECommander · 05/02/2017 14:19

It's just you. I NC all the time so nobody "knows" me but I never have any trouble having my comments noticed or my questions answered - as long as I keep my expectations reasonable - on a 1,000 post thread not everyone will rush round to say "OMG SupremeCommander what a brilliant idea!"

HerRoyalFattyness · 05/02/2017 14:19

Cam you please tell us who is in the clique? I've been wondering for ages now.

DioneTheDiabolist · 05/02/2017 14:19

Some posters post a lot and don't NC. This means that they form friendships online and are quite recognisable to other posters. There are various groups, but I don't ghink I'd call them cliques.

It's a bit like pubs in RL, it takes time, effort and not NCing every 5 minutes to become a "regular".

ActuallyThatsSUPREMECommander · 05/02/2017 14:19

It's just you. I NC all the time so nobody "knows" me but I never have any trouble having my comments noticed or my questions answered - as long as I keep my expectations reasonable - on a 1,000 post thread not everyone will rush round to say "OMG SupremeCommander what a brilliant idea!"

CaraAspen · 05/02/2017 14:19

OP:
I think you're imagining it! I'm relatively new and I don't find this to be the case.

Highalert · 05/02/2017 14:19

Nice Sunday afternoon bunfight thread Grin

Sparklingbrook · 05/02/2017 14:20

I also don't understand all the 'namechanged for this' stuff. Why the need to announce that? Confused

The80sweregreat · 05/02/2017 14:20

I am sorry you feel like this - i tend to find that anything i post on AIBU is pretty much ignored, but i have become virtual 'friends' on some of the Telly pages so i do tend to get a bit of response over there sometimes and it can become a bit 'in jokey' but not in a nasty way. ( i dont know any of them in the real world!)
A lot of people name change and there are a few that do seem to know each other in real life i think, or thats the impression i get sometimes.

Highalert · 05/02/2017 14:20

No one could ignore your posts,Cara

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TickTickBoomBoom · 05/02/2017 14:20

Another name changing goady thread. I'm not trying to goad anyone. I'm genuinely confused as to why some people's posts get ignored, and then other posts get 40 pages of replies. And it's often the same people.

OP posts:
araiwa · 05/02/2017 14:21

i never even look at names

i dont know anyone

Sparklingbrook · 05/02/2017 14:21

Who are these people? Have you got a spreadsheet?

HerRoyalFattyness · 05/02/2017 14:22

it's often the same people.

What people?

HerRoyalFattyness · 05/02/2017 14:22

No need to be secretive if you've namechange.

gamerchick · 05/02/2017 14:23

Because they don't name change so people 'know' them?

Highalert · 05/02/2017 14:23

Come on OP, in for a penny in for a pound.

CaraAspen · 05/02/2017 14:24

However, re the odd name changing thing, I think people must change their names so that those they perceive to be friendly towards them, are not horrified by this or that or the other going on in their real lives. It's a bit shallow to change your name - for all but the most serious of reasons. But even then, why not just be honest?

Magzmarsh · 05/02/2017 14:24

I don't pay any attention to usernames, I just respond to posts so could agree with someone on one thread and disagree on another.

There are a lot of threads on MN about "cliques" in general, some people are a bit obsessed with them.

I think when people see "cliques" everywhere they really need to take a look at themselves and figure out why.

RacoonBandit · 05/02/2017 14:25

I think there are a few posters who dont nc and have been around a while so know each other but i wouldnt call it a clique.

A few years ago it did feel that way because of mouldies but not now.