MN clique

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I'm a regular poster, and have name changed for this.

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a clique here? Some people's posts always get answered and they seem like a happy friendly little group. If you're 'new' or haven't posted that much, you pretty much get ignored.

I enjoy reading the posts, and I enjoy posting, but this 'exclusivity' is really getting to me. This is supposed to be a place people can come with their problems/jokes etc, and to feel like some people are 'left out' kinda defeats the object IMHO.

I don't see this no. Unanswered threads if that's what you refer to are either due to topic or where they are posted with little traffic or even the time of day.

If you mean posts, these are responded to fairly equally in my experience and they are responded to based on what's posted not who posts it.

It's just you. There Re thousands of people on here

Yabu and talking nonsense. I'm intrigued as to who you think is 'cliquey' because I've never noticed that at all.

MN is far too big for cliques now.

OP, I've been here for years. Sometimes my posts get loads of replies, sometimes none at all. It just depends on what I've written and who's on the thread. There's no conspiracy.

Although on occassions a poster has told MNetters on thread and by PM to ignore me.

What is moldies? Seen the odd reference but am none the wiser.

I do think MN is divided in a sense between those who are 'known' and those who are not but it doesn't make too much difference.

Nah. In 2008 maybe. Now, post hacking, number of people on here, name-changing, it's hard to keep track of who's who.
There are lots of little groups, all within their own threads, all of whom are welcoming and lovely.
But 'one' elitist exclusionary clique? Nope. I occasionally see names of old who I consider to be MN royalty™ but I rarely see them all on the same thread which is a shame as I used to like observing camaradie and banter (when it meant being funny as opposed to the recent male appropriation of 'bantz'). Can I add a passive aggressive HTH as opposed to HRH and have I got time to get some popcorn?!

It was an off mn group started because of some big fall out. It got all a bit mean girls as only certain posters past the test to be allowed in.

dione do you mean there's actually a poster determined to get everyone to ignore you?! Why?!

Just ignore Dion Royal

I nc so I can talk about my life and me without having to worry about rl getting in the way

MN is great and you can be totally honest about your thoughts and feelings (if you want to) and the only judging is by people who don't know you

I don't read names and find it really annoying when someone answers a comment by just mentioning the username meaning I have to scroll back up (yeah yeah I know, first world problems and all that)
It's not quite on a crap title though (AIBU aso a full thread title, or to be annoyed.... etc)

It's just you.

Some threads get ignored because they're boring. Interesting ones get answered.

No, I think people just respond to what's interesting.

I don't think it is just you, but I don't think it's rife.

I've seen it in action in ways such as a well known OP posting about having worms and that grew into a huge jokey threadworm but when a lesser known OP posted about something equally unpleasant people commented things like "and you felt you had to come and tell the internet about it? Gross" etc etc.

If anything I would say it's less cliquey than it might have been before, but agree that the only way to "make friends" if that's what you want to do is not name change so people start to recognise you.

I'm on a group thread but we are in no way a clique. Anyone is welcome to come and join our madness. We reply to each other on other threads sometimes but no more than we would with others.

I recognise some names but not many considering the size of MN. I also haven't NC in ages. I like my NN.

Yawn

I recognise some usernames but most of the time I don't even look at the names - I just read the posts. No idea who would be in the clique if there is one.

Some posts get a response because they're funny, or because the persons made a valid point or because someone says something a bit controversial. The thread takes on a life of its own and sometimes they're ace. There's some sharp minds on this site whether you agree or not.

I'm not that witty or particularly clever so my posts don't get a response always but I still enjoy the cut and thrust.

I haven't noticed any cliques. I don't expect many replies to jokes or when I join in on someone else's thread as I am relatively new.
What I wasn't prepared for was getting slammed on a thread I made in AIBU even when I made it clear that I was open to discussion and that I recongised maybe I was BU. A more experienced MNer pm'd me though and really helped me understand some behaviour and the nature of the AIBU section! You know who you are and thank you again!
i think its human nature to notice and respond to names you recognise and/or people who are on your wavelength. Deliberate exclusion or bullying (a common consequence of some cliques) is not on though, and I haven't been here long enough to really notice any of that if it happens at all. 😀

Wonder, yes, you expressed that well.

And

OP - what should I do about this?
Unknown poster - LTB, change the locks, contact a food bank.
Well known poster - throw your husband out, get the locks changed and go to a food bank.
All other posters - yes, what wellknownposter said

Haha I'd love to get a collusion PM to ignore a poster!

That's just 🥜

MN is a big site. Really, really big.

It takes quite a lot of effort to become a well known poster. Generally they have a memorable name, a high volume of posts and a reasonably distinctive "voice".

I've been on MN for years but I name change regularly, like others I don't find problems with people ignoring when I have a new name.

People will ignore your posts if:

The thread is really fast moving.
You repeated what ten other posters said.
Your comment was boring
Your comment was irrelevant.
Your comment didn't make very much sense.

MN isn't like the school gate or even behind the bike sheds. It's more like being at a huge party and swirling round through different conversations while everyone talks at once.

I NC for serious things I don't want linked to this name. MN is my only sounding off outlet really. I'm quite open about my past issues and sometimes I don't want them linked to certain situations.

I like seeing a familiar name but I don't not reply to names I don't recognise.

I wouldn't go as far as to say they're determined to get everyone to ignore me. But sometimes they have. Why? I have no idea. I am the epitome of fluffy loveliness.