MN clique

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I'm a regular poster, and have name changed for this.

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a clique here? Some people's posts always get answered and they seem like a happy friendly little group. If you're 'new' or haven't posted that much, you pretty much get ignored.

I enjoy reading the posts, and I enjoy posting, but this 'exclusivity' is really getting to me. This is supposed to be a place people can come with their problems/jokes etc, and to feel like some people are 'left out' kinda defeats the object IMHO.

Start a thread about shoes off or on in the house.OP. Your thread will run and run.

Just you.

I think there are groups of people who 'know' each other on certain boards- Special Needs and Relationships for example, but I don't think they are cliquey, I have seen them respond to people they know and lesser-known posters/Newbies equally.

There are also a few chat threads where people do know each other, but they didn't always, and do include others if they join in in the spirit of things.

AIBU threads are a rule unto themselves, it's not about being known, more about there are a few posters (and I really think it has got worse in the last year or so but that's another thread) who are just out to be mean, unkind or goady. These are not members of any clique, they are just people who are hiding behind a keyboard saying things they would probably (hopefully) never say to someone in real life.

My tuppence worth on a Sunday afternoon.

I haven't noticed this. Personally I respond to what I want to, I don't pay attention to the name.

I'm curious why you've felt the need to name change for this thread though?

I don't notice who starts the thread, I just reply to the threads I have something to contribute too

I'll take a guess that 'mouldies' means Mumsnet Oldies?
I will say that using a lot of MN exclusive jargon or acronyms often leads to people feeling excluded. I bet there's a glossary somewhere👍, but I haven't looked for it.

I've been here years and years but NC often and so I'm not 'known'. Over the years MN has changed a lot and it's currently larger than ever. Unfortunately the suspicion is bad at the moment, I think largely because of daily fail and also because there's a bigger amount of people there are more trolls but the calling of troll is getting ridiculous. Years ago there was a clique and that ended quite badly. I often find I kill threads or my threads aren't responded too but that is just the way it goes on here and it's important to remember that this is an online forum with thousands of users and that taking things too personally is utter madness!
People post for a consensus of opinions and after sifting out the people that decide to pick you up on spelling, your misuse of terms and putting x's on the end of your posts you will generally get a good idea as to whether or not yabu and if finding a text from a woman is a case of ltb.

I don't think there are cliques here at all.

Mumsnet has got far too big for that and what with all the name changing, how does anyone know who is friendly with who etc?

I think one of my first OPs ended up on Classics - it was really well responded to. Others have been wet farts. It just depends on what's going on outside of the post.

Just you, I think.

I'm curious why you've felt the need to name change for this thread though?

Me too.

Unless it's to stop people looking through the OP's posting history and pointing out that actually, they're wrong?

Iris65

www.mumsnet.com/info/acronyms

Also, and I think this happens more often these days, posters don't bother to read the whole thread, so they're responding only to the OP and the last post. So if you're the penultimate post, saying exactly the same thing as the last poster, it will be your post that is 'ignored'.

I don't think it's intentional.

MN is a LOT less cliquey that it used to be.

I just wanna shed my xmas name

I've forgotten my password 😂

I am, after 9 years or so, more likely to make the effort to answer someone whom I recognise
Just because I kinda like 'knowing' who I'm talking to

But all this user123785435789 billow is ruining that now too

If you had posted this a few years ago I would've agreed. It used to be so cliquey but I don't see it anymore.

^ maybe you can win Xmas 2017 for being the most dedicated

I have been here for so many years, I'm bound to have friends and favourite posters.

I'm ncing frequently now because of the journos but still feel part of the site.

I totally ignore all the user1364567 posters, though. Just skip right past their posts so my MN world is a bit smaller than others

I don't know about clique.

There are some posters that post and then other posters who's sole contribution to the thread is:
"I agree with --"

It may be that's what you've experienced op?

Years ago there was a clique and that ended quite badly.

What happened?! Not that it affects me in any way but I'm just a bit at the things people can fall out about... and sometimes nosey.

Being called Goady is one way to get comments shut down IME.

It can often be very harshly said aswell. A post doesn't sit well with some posters views? Call them Goady, It can be an easy way to hit the poster rather than debate with them.

But that's easy to ignore lol.

What I can't understand is how people are fearful of being identified. Wow, in a population so large as the UK (and other countries are represented too, I know), the chances of that must be so small! But I suspect it is just being identified in the bubble of MN. How fekkin sad.

But anyway, onwards and upwards.

Under my usual name, I once posted a comment that got slammed by one of the 'regulars'. Ever since then, I've been ignored. This makes me think that messages were exchanged 'behind the scenes' letting everyone know to ignore me.

And I've name changed because I don't want to be 'slammed' and excluded again. And no, I'm not giving a list lol - I've already opened a big enough can of worms.

Ah, so it's a regular bashing thread then?

That's a lot of paranoia there OP.