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MN clique

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TickTickBoomBoom · 05/02/2017 14:12

I'm a regular poster, and have name changed for this.

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a clique here? Some people's posts always get answered and they seem like a happy friendly little group. If you're 'new' or haven't posted that much, you pretty much get ignored.

I enjoy reading the posts, and I enjoy posting, but this 'exclusivity' is really getting to me. This is supposed to be a place people can come with their problems/jokes etc, and to feel like some people are 'left out' kinda defeats the object IMHO.

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Rachel0Greep · 05/02/2017 14:52

Can't really say that I agree OP. Sometimes what I've said gets ignored, (I have been known to kill threads too), but sometimes I've had good chats with posters. I don't know if a clique could exist as such, on a huge message board like MN.

DorkusDelonghi · 05/02/2017 14:52

Oh dear. I do think you are being paranoid if you think that there is that level of collusion here on the site.

We aren't mobsters.

NotYoda · 05/02/2017 14:53

OP

Do you mean that initial posts are ignored, or ones from inside the thread?

Because I think that OPs are only responded to if people are interested enough - and honestly, I look at topic not poster

Ones from inside the thread are ignored because people often do not read the whole thread.

It can be annoying if you said something on page 2 and then someone else says almost the same thing on page 8 and people agree with them, but that's always happened.

I think MN is less cliquey than ever. It's HUGE now and everyone name changes.

As others have said, there's more suspicion of trolls. I certainly think there's more trolling, and the longer you are on here the more you spot it.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 05/02/2017 14:53

Under my usual name, I once posted a comment that got slammed by one of the 'regulars'. Ever since then, I've been ignored. This makes me think that messages were exchanged 'behind the scenes' letting everyone know to ignore me

Wowser. That is super paranoid. Maybe MN is not good for your health at this time?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 05/02/2017 14:53

Tbf you do sometimes get a small group of posters doing a sort of "call to arms" to a thread to back them up. Isn't that a "clique"? Haven't seen it for a while though.

Highalert · 05/02/2017 14:54

I doubt anyone remembers your "slamming' or has got the rest of the site to send you to Coventry.

ArmySal · 05/02/2017 14:54

I wouldn't be told to ignore another poster by anyone, can't imagine the majority here would either.

HerRoyalFattyness · 05/02/2017 14:54

So because a poster didn't agree with you and that poster happens to post frequently you're convinced there's a conspiracy.

hoddtastic · 05/02/2017 14:55

there used to be cliques/bunches of funny regulars who sparked off each other-now,not so much. Sites too big, lots of the wit and warmth has gone too IMO.

Iris65 · 05/02/2017 14:55

Thanks BATIABT

JayzuzMaryJoseph · 05/02/2017 14:55

Been here 13 years, serial name changer as I don't fancy getting cosy with strangers, and I have never found it a problem. Its a huge site now, with a smattering of hardcore regulars and many many more occasional posters/name changers. It is whatever you want it to be.

Bluntness100 · 05/02/2017 14:55

Mumsnet gets a couple of million visitors s month and has several thousand bloggers, its huge. I don't even see how cliques are possible if you were ignored because you weren't part of a clique there wouldn't be millions of members, it would be tiny. So it's an illogical thought. Clearly people aren't ignored or it would not be as successful as it is.

Highalert · 05/02/2017 14:56

There is sometimes a 'call to arms' Much less now then there used to be though.

NerrSnerr · 05/02/2017 14:56

I'm definitely not a popular poster but due to goddam pregnancy illness I'm here all the time at the moment and I have seen no hint of anyone telling others to ignore people, I know I would call a poster out if they pm'd me telling me that. I'm sure lots of others would do too. Saying that, no one ever pms me, only mnhq to reminding me to drive feedback on product tests!!

NavyandWhite · 05/02/2017 14:56

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JaceLancs · 05/02/2017 14:57

I've been here a while - read more than post but don't feel there is that bad a clique
As someone else says I don't look at posters names anyway just title of thread then content

Magzmarsh · 05/02/2017 14:57

I agree you sound paranoid and sorry op but you also sound self absorbed and conceited to honestly believe your posts are notable enough to get others frothing, PMing and blockading you from "behind the scenes". Take a minute to address how ridiculous that sounds.

Wondermoomin · 05/02/2017 14:57

Oh no OP that is very paranoid. I know some people say they're updating their spreadsheets but I would hope it's a joke or they're very sad indeed and I seriously doubt people are colluding to ignore you.

Do you mean you're starting threads that go completely unanswered (that would be unusual unless it was a very specific/niche interest) or you're commenting on threads and you're comments aren't getting a subsequent mention (which is totally normal and no cause for alarm)?

Judydreamsofhorses · 05/02/2017 14:57

I normally only post in S&B - I just clicked into this in the sidebar - and feel like there's a lovely community of regular posters there, but not a clique.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 05/02/2017 14:57

Why did you feel the need to namechange specifically to post this?

yousignup · 05/02/2017 14:57

I have been here for years and have NC. Nothing to do with other posters. Completely to do with realising that friends, DSIS, DSIL, DS and DH are all either members, browsers or lurkers. Nothing sinister. Just a privacy issue. Bloody DS FFS. I'm afraid to go to Teenagers now.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 05/02/2017 14:58

I'm genuinely confused as to why some people's posts get ignored, and then other posts get 40 pages of replies

It's not confusing, its simply that some threads are more interesting than others.

NotYoda · 05/02/2017 14:58

he not-reading the whole thread thing really annoys me.

It's like barging into a conversation at work and demanding everyone stops and fills you in on what's been said so far. If you can't even be arsed to read what the OP has said throughout the thread then you are just being rude. Especially when the OP has changed their mind, added more information, or apologised

NoelHeadbands · 05/02/2017 15:01

I know this has been said already, but there are far fewer cliques now than in previous times.

There are lots of names that I recognise still, but genuinely can't think of any 'groups' nowadays

WorraLiberty · 05/02/2017 15:01

This makes me think that messages were exchanged 'behind the scenes' letting everyone know to ignore me.

Jesus that's a whole heap of paranoia right there OP Confused

Do you honestly think anyone has the time or inclination for shit like that?

It's just an internet forum. Some people will reply/recognise your contributions and some won't.