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MN clique

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TickTickBoomBoom · 05/02/2017 14:12

I'm a regular poster, and have name changed for this.

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a clique here? Some people's posts always get answered and they seem like a happy friendly little group. If you're 'new' or haven't posted that much, you pretty much get ignored.

I enjoy reading the posts, and I enjoy posting, but this 'exclusivity' is really getting to me. This is supposed to be a place people can come with their problems/jokes etc, and to feel like some people are 'left out' kinda defeats the object IMHO.

OP posts:
TheNiffler · 05/02/2017 15:15

And yes, I've had more than one falling out - got into a massive ruck with one poster over something, but as she's not an idiot, and I'm not an idiot either, we still chat, and I've got her on my Pinterest. Nothing wrong with a good healthy difference of opinion.

MN was a lot better when you could actually tell fools that they are fools.

NotYoda · 05/02/2017 15:15

I don't want my arse handed to me. Therefore I've never started a thread more controversial than "I think kittens are cute" .

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 05/02/2017 15:16

Having your arse handed to you is a rite of passage, isn't it?

MiddleClassProblem · 05/02/2017 15:16

Puppies are cuter

Lweji · 05/02/2017 15:16

What I can't understand is how people are fearful of being identified

I've identified two people that I know here.
It's not impossible.

NotYoda · 05/02/2017 15:17

Rafals

Yes, I suppose so, and it has happened to me in passing. Just not by invitation IYSWIM.

KathArtic · 05/02/2017 15:17

I'm convinced there are some regulars that interchange with their recognisable name other unknown names - but then claim never to name change and lambaste those who do.

Sparklingbrook · 05/02/2017 15:18

I wonder if the tin is full of kittens? Like the Digestive biscuit ad.

BertrandRussell · 05/02/2017 15:19

Under a previous name I was identified in real life by a wierdo. It was rather horrible. But just a risk you take if you live your life on the internet.

Lweji · 05/02/2017 15:19

Also:
You've put a can on the table and said "There's worms in that. Definielely worms"

You can't really say it until you've consulted me, as most a very small number of people on MN already know.

NavyandWhite · 05/02/2017 15:19

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665TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 05/02/2017 15:20

If I was to add a ring pull to this can of worms I'd be wondering if the people who find themselves irritated by things like this topic are those who are part of cliques in RL and find their way more socially greased by things that are irrelevant on a forum like this where their normal leverage is not helpful?
Just..wondering Wink

NotYoda · 05/02/2017 15:21

Sparkling

Maybe it's a dead or not-dead cat

Or whatever came out of Pandora's box

Sparklingbrook · 05/02/2017 15:22

I'm convinced there are some regulars that interchange with their recognisable name other unknown names - but then claim never to name change and lambaste those who do.

That sounds like hard work. Or even sockpuppeting. Shock

ClashCityRocker · 05/02/2017 15:22

I reckon on this thread I'm maybe familiar with ten percent of the posters...maybe more, but who knows with namechanging. MN is too big to have a 'top group'. Even if a handful of regulars did message to say to ignore you, it would have virtually no impact on the responses to the thread.

Not that I can imagine them doing such a thing anyway. Mostly it's post and move on

I think MN is one of the best forums I've been on for not being clique-y. I was on a wedding one once and it was ridiculous.

Some threads take off for no apparent reason - slag Bol anyone? And I've seen some really interesting ones that die off after a few posts. Depends on time of day, when they get bumped, thread title.

As for PMs flying around - I've been here coming up four years and have had a handful of pms in that time, none of them nasty.

How come no one refers to cliques as quiches anymore? Or did I imagine that?

KathArtic · 05/02/2017 15:22

Anythings possible on here. I had a right falling out with a couple of posters a while back - i don't see any of them now. Some of the writing styles/attitudes are similar.

I do name change when posting pictures.

ScarlettFreestone · 05/02/2017 15:23

Well, no you haven't. You've put a can on the table and said "There's worms in that. Definielely worms"

Excellent post Bert

OP ^^ The obove post might lead you to believe that Bertram and I are buddies. In actual fact I've recently name changed so she
won't recognise this name at all.

Also although I respect Bertrams generally well thought out posts we have regularly been on the opposite of threads, sometimes quite vociferously. Grin

Doesn't mean I hunt her down to be mean next time, just as agreeing with her today doesn't mean I won't argue just as hard next time I disagree.

MiddleClassProblem · 05/02/2017 15:23

Is it possible to swap the can of worms for a can of springy snakes?

Sparklingbrook · 05/02/2017 15:23

Oooh Schrodingers cat Yoda.

So are we going to open this tin? I think it's probably mushy peas TBF.

NotYoda · 05/02/2017 15:23

665

Interesting. I like the extension of the 'can' metaphor too

ClashCityRocker · 05/02/2017 15:24

And of course sometimes you spend ages composing a well reasoned and thoughtful reply, to discover the thread has gone shitnuts in the meantime Grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 05/02/2017 15:25

Stop whinging and crack on OP

Yep, that sums it up nicely.

JustAnotherSilentOldNumber · 05/02/2017 15:25

peas are normally easy to spot without lables, the size give them away.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 05/02/2017 15:27

Maybe it's a dead or not-dead cat
Ah so a schrodinger's can.

665TheNeighbourOfTheBeast · 05/02/2017 15:28

Nope, shrodingers worms surly?