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What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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weresquirrel · 28/09/2016 21:41

Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly Confused. It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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andadietcoke · 28/09/2016 21:47

That I must have done something terrible in a previous life to have deserved twins.

Yep.

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 28/09/2016 21:49

There was a mum at my DS last school who always had lite digs to make abiut the kids. They went too red (my DS), the had a squeaky voice, we small, slow walking, clumsy - all kinds. She seemed to have a lot of self esteem issues to be fair, but still, it was a bit rude.

peaceloveandbiscuits · 28/09/2016 21:51

Passive aggressively covered her baby's ears when my (6 week old) baby squealed. And then a few months later, when he was still squealing, she abruptly left the party we were both at because she couldn't stay and listen to him Sad
I was severely depressed and fed up to the back teeth of my squealing baby myself, thanks very much!

bumsexatthebingo · 28/09/2016 21:52

Would love to know how that was worded! Did she actually use the word 'ugly'?
I had a frenemy who went on and on that my child should be able to do something that her child could do at that age despite the fact that my child who was a couple of years younger than hers could do many other things her child couldn't yet but I didn't speak about that as I wasn't interested in having a competition

2kidsandcats · 28/09/2016 21:53

Sorry you had to go through that. Flowers My ds has sn and I had a few snidey comments . Just stuff like 'well, what do you expect considering what wrong with him?' Maybe they were trying to empathise but it felt patronising. Not nice.

WhooooAmI24601 · 28/09/2016 21:54

Someone recently said about DS1 (10) "you'd never know he has autism, would you? What's he gifted at?"

I know they meant it kindly but sat there thinking "that's because we've spent ten fucking years of our lives trying to teach him how to hold conversations, use expression, eye contact, to keep hands steady instead of flapping, to litem to instructions, to smile, to find humour, to love music, to work hard at school, to maintain friendships, so take part in sports, to try new foods, to sleep even when he's not remotely tired, to use manners and kindness, to not retaliate when others goad him, to find hobbies he loves. That's his pissing gift. Being like everyone else, but working 100 times harder just to achieve it". Of course, I smiled and explained that not all ASD children are gifted, leaving off the rest of my rant. But how bloody rude people are.

KimmySchmidtsSmile · 28/09/2016 21:55

"One child isn't a family" HmmConfusedAngry

bumsexatthebingo · 28/09/2016 21:56

Same frenemy also told me she could never dress her kids in non-designer clothes like I did.

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TotallyOblivious · 28/09/2016 21:58

"You're working full time? But aren't you a single parent? Personally I wouldn't let someone else raise my child - but whatever works for you, I suppose"

Said with a condescending tone and look in the playground by the head of the PTA who approached me asking why I'm not seen much at meetings etc. Still makes me seethe...

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 28/09/2016 21:59

Had a woman complain about DS making a noise in Tesco. Wasn't a racket. Just a squeal of protest.

What I said to her was worse though.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/09/2016 21:59

Shock. WTF says a child is ugly.
Don't get me wrong. DDs school play ground was full of cliques. No different from any other school in the world. I don't doubt. But insulting a child. Is just going beyond the beyond.
I did once have an old classmate say to me. When I saw her years later, and told her I was. As she didn't recognize me.
Anyway she said. Fuckin hell Ghost. I wouldn't have known you in a million years. You were as ugly as sin in school. I assume that means I've improved. Grin. I was that stunned I didn't know what to say
. Honestly these people who think they can say what they like to anyone, Never cease to amaze

LetitiaCropleysCookbook · 28/09/2016 22:00

"I can't believe your ds has been put up to the next group"

(Swimming groups at the local pool. Her dd hadn't. They were 4!!)

DeadGood · 28/09/2016 22:01

"You're working full time? But aren't you a single parent?"

Surely the second necessitates the first in nearly all circumstances?! What an idiot!

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weresquirrel · 28/09/2016 22:02

bumsexatthebingo - it was a few years ago now but it was something like "I don't know why everyone makes such a fuss of babyweresquirrel, as they are not cute". She is still up herself but I never talk to her thank god.

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Ackvavit · 28/09/2016 22:02

Oh so very up for this one....would happily name and shame. Many moons ago daughter was in reception at a very lovely local prep school. Doing great, very strong etc. DS was the baby and all in playground etc loved him as he was a cute baby and just great . One mum, who happily engaged in the very free childcare / I'm ok with his for her daughters to come round whilst I was on career break felt it was ok to say "he doesn't speak much" i think he is autistic. I will repost updates...if it's relevant.

R3ALLY · 28/09/2016 22:03

So... Do you think he has ADD or something or is he just really diificult? Yup. And it was said by a husband and a wife, on seo erase occasions so they had clearly been discussing him

Cathaka15 · 28/09/2016 22:05

Actually my FIL recently had said that he thinks it's my fault my dd is disabled. Also he thinks my other three dc have a disability of some sort because of me. I have one dd with sn who has a rare neurological disorder. Nothing to do with me ( they even tested me to see if I was a carrier and I wasn't ). My other three have no sn. So I have no idea why he has said this. I've been married to his son 20 years and I thought we all had a good relationship. Apparently not.

HandmaidsTail · 28/09/2016 22:07

Whooooo you sound great. You should absolutely say that if you ever get faced with such a twat in future.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/09/2016 22:08

Single mums can't win. I worked because I had to, but. I wouldn't put someone down for their choice.
And like me sometimes like in my case. It's not always a choice. Some have no option but to go out to work. Was she going to pay your rent or mortgage for you, pay your utility bills, feed and clothe both you and your child. I didn't think so.
About the women saying. I couldn't dress my child in non designer wear.
She's the idiot. Paying to advertise a name for company. While they're (the company) are laughing and doing a merry dance all the way to the bank,
Put like that. Who's the fool.

WrapaholicMumma · 28/09/2016 22:09

"Crikey! Did you win the lottery or something to afford that? " when we had some work done on our house that was under £200

"You should get a free playschool place for your child because of your benefits" I'm not on benefits but thanks for assuming I am you cheeky cow (not that there's anything wrong with benefits, I just found it rude that she assumed!)

"Crikey how can you afford a cleaner?!"

All from the same person.

Probably outed myself but I couldn't care less anymore 😂

mulberrythatch · 28/09/2016 22:12

Not a fellow parent as I'm childless... But I got told by a parent yesterday that as I don't have children I couldn't possibly care about environmental sustainability.

Luna2016 · 28/09/2016 22:13

My DH has physical tourrets (body jerks uncontrollably- no swearing or anything). Another mums comment was "I'm surprised that they let you have a child?" I asked what she meant by that. "Oh well personally I'd have had sperm donated to not deliberately pass on a disability to my child?".... Hmm

timeforheroes · 28/09/2016 22:14

"Don't worry, with everything you've got going on, no one expects them to be well behaved..."

Now I'm not delusional, DS was being a pain in the arse practically sat on my head demanding a drink...but he's 2 and a half, and DTwins are 1. Give me a break! Or find me that Mumsnetter who manages to get her children to stay quiet until 10am.

Loulou0 · 28/09/2016 22:14

That the reason my baby was such a good sleeper and so content was because I was 'drugging him with the chemicals in formula'