What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly . It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

Great thread! Thank you, OP. for everyone who's contributed a story.

A bit gutted that two people on this page have said something about hair, because that was mine, and now it looks like something I've just thought of, instead of being the thing I thought of right away, but wanted to RTT first....

DD is nearly 15 now, so this is very old, but in her first year she had white-blonde hair and almost no growth (plus V sticky-out ears), so she looked almost bald, and the ears weren't pretty. She finally grew hair by about 1. And it was so pretty!!!! It was blonde (DH and I are both dark) and she had these gorgeous ringlets. I loved her curls. So I didn't used to brush her hair very often (cos then it would go straight-ish) and her ringlets were so lovely.

But within a couple of weeks, 2 (proper) friends (not bitches, not jealous, not frenamies) who didn't know each other:-

Friend 1 said (we were all on the playground waiting for the kids to come out of school, and I'd made a comment about not brushing her hair often because I loved it unbrushed) "we all feel sorry for IMiss's DD".

Friend 2 came to visit from 200 miles away and pointedly picked up a brush and brushed DDs hair.

I took the hint, gave up the gorgeous curls and started brushing daily. Friend 1 insisted she was joking when I brought it up later and friend 2 assured me she "just loved brushing hair".

I miss those curls!

Bip that is beyond awful. I don't think I've ever heard anything so cruel.
If you're anything like me you already felt dreadful guilt that it was somehow your fault that your baby had died even though logically you know it couldn't have been.

Shocked at some of these!

I too must have a scary resting bitch face, as no one has ever said anything rude to me!

"Oh no! What a shame!" Said to me by a woman from mums and toddlers group when I was pregnant with my third baby and had just found out from my 20 week scan that it would be a third DD.

I pulled her up sharply on it and asked her directly why my expecting another healthy and much wanted daughter was such a shame. She stuttered, went bright red and got all flustered and embarrassed. Served her right.

Bipbip

A recent one of mine is my friend, whose PFB is a couple of months older than my DC3, on seeing said DC3, age about 6 weeks at the time, said "ooh isn't he... sturdy. He has a real farmer look about him doesn't he!?"

No he bloody doesn't!

Maisie well if you will dress him in wellies and let him hold a pitchfork...

Some of these are disguting teablanket POM bip

joffrey

Maybe I shouldn't have let him drive the combine harvester...

"Is she backwards as well or anything?" About my daughter who is profoundly deaf.

A couple of people have said it. As if backwards is an OK term to use anyway! Arse holes.

Shouted at me from across the street when I was carrying DD in a wrap: "Buy a pushchair, you lazy trout!"

"I don't know why you had children if you're just going to give them to some Filippina to bring up."

Found out later that she had a live in nanny who looked after the children even though she was a SAHM.

Olennaswimple what are you talking about?

I am shocked by some of these. Only recall one thing said about my DC, school mum about DD , she said "she's pretty now but when she's older she probably won't be" Well you know what you old bitch,she is and your DD never was and still isn't. Still fuming all these years later

Someone once said to me that she 'felt sorry' for my kids being mixed race as they 'don't know what they are'! she went on to explain that people shouldn't have mixed race children as they will be confused and grow into dysfunctional adults due to all the 'confusion' . I was so angry, I told her to never, ever feel sorry for my DC as they know exactly who they are and are proud to have two cultures in the words of DD16. How effing rude!

'Your daughter reminds me of the Bride of Chucky'

EttaJ - the OP sounded as if this had just happened, but in a follow up post (I think a pp asked whether the other mother had actually said "ugly") the OP said that she couldn't remember exactly as the incident happened a few years ago. I was just wondering why she decided to post this now. However hurtful, it surely can't have taken years to get over it?

My middle child refused to put on a coat in his pram and it was holding us up for the school run, so I bought one of those thick, hooded blankets to solve the problem.

A few days later, a woman I didn't know walked up to me in the playground and thrust a carrier bag containing a very well worn nylon snowsuit at me, telling me to dress my baby properly.

IT will do you good to have a child that doesn't do very well in school.

Were you disappointed that she was a girl? Said to me a couple of days after DD2 came home from hospital, having been in six months since birth, undergoing heart surgery, and nearly dying. Funny the sex of my baby hadn't been something I'd worried about.

"Oh dear, he looks just like you."

Gee, thanks for that then.

And for the record, my son looks absolutely nothing like me and is essentially a miniature version of his father. So

"I feel sorry for you" because ds is disabled.

'Working mothers shouldn't be allowed to have kids, what's the point?. Kids should be removed at birth if you intend to work'

You started a thread about something that someone said to you a few years ago?

Well yes she did, didn't you read the OP? 4 pages and still going, so clearly you are in a tiny minority with the passive aggressive hand wringing.

BipBippadotta that's awful. I think there's a lot of foot in mouth with bereaved parents, you seem to be on the receiving end of some horrendously tactless/cruel comments. When the children were being mildly challenging, my friend's own mother said to her "it's a good job you only have two children", not long after her third child had been still born. I'd like to sew her mouth up.

"His head is ENORMOUS. Is it normal?"

Said by someone running a group at a children's centre as I walked in with 6 week old D's in a sling and toddler dd.

I never went back obvs.

My new neighbour, the first time I took ds2 out to play with the other kids on the street asked how old he was and when I said he's four, she said, oh dear, is he a bit 'special' then, is that why he's shy?

"Have you thought about special school?" Said about dc who had low muscle tone and couldn't run fluidly.

To be fair she also said horrid things about her relative with autism and was clear she thought he could be parented out of it.