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What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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weresquirrel · 28/09/2016 21:41

Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly Confused. It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

OP posts:
imnotreally · 28/09/2016 22:46

Whooo and Tortoise just tell them it's the way you part his hair hides it.

Chickoletta · 28/09/2016 22:47

My 2 children won 3 prizes between them in last week's school assembly, all awarded by different teachers for different things. A fellow parent, whom I thought was a friend, complained to the school and said that she 'suspected foul play'. Bitch.

SansaClegane · 28/09/2016 22:49

Not an insult per se, but a slight...
At DS3's christening, MIL gets talking to the vicar after the service. MIL had three boys, DH and I have three boys, BIL has one son from a previous marriage and a DD with his new wife - DD (our DN) is only half a year younger than DS3.
Vicar: "So, you are the grandmother of this lovely young man?"
MIL: "Yes, but now I finally have a GRANDDAUGHTER!" yanks SIL and DN forward "Look at my gorgeous granddaughter! I've had all boys and they've had all boys, but now finally the curse has been broken and we have a girl!"
continues rabbiting on about DN previous girl

I stood there like a lemon with DS3, having previously been unaware that my boys were a curse Hmm

LadyCallandraDaviot · 28/09/2016 22:50

One mum managed to very ostentatiously ignore me (walking close past me but with her head turned away, deliberately turning her back and talking louder if I happened to be waiting near her in the playground etc) for the whole of the rest of primary school, after her DS pushed mine off a wall in year 1, causing massive cuts and bruises all down his face. I could understand it if my DS had pushed hers, but have no idea why she did it. No loss to me though - her DS is still as bad at 16!

SansaClegane · 28/09/2016 22:50

*precious even

50ShadesOfEarlGrey · 28/09/2016 22:51

When we finally after 3 years of battling with the LEA for our DS who has Aspergers to go to a special school, friend with daughter who was in his old state school class came up to me quite deliberately and said 'I've told Katy if she doesn't pull her socks up she will be sent to a special school for dullards like Master 50Shades and we will disown her.
My DS Got a first and a scholarship to do his Masters. Not a total dullard then!

ladydepp · 28/09/2016 22:52

Nothing as bad as most of these but there was a mum who used to say to me at least every few weeks "You look completely exhausted you poor thing!. Normally when I was feeling quite perky Hmm.

She was actually very nice...

Onawheel · 28/09/2016 22:55

Upon seeing my dc3 for the first time an ex friend said "ah look, she has the same grumpy face as your DC1"!!!! Charming.

Mollymoo78 · 28/09/2016 22:58

Just thought of another. My dd went to gym club and another child wanted to use the apparatus she was on so she shyly moved aside so the other child could use it although there was room for both of them. Instead of thanking dd the mother of the child said loudly "is she an only child?" (yes) "That's why she won't date then!" Angry

Mollymoo78 · 28/09/2016 22:58

Ooops share not date! Bloody auto text!

manicinsomniac · 28/09/2016 23:00

"I don't think people with mental problems like yours should have kids. It's just not fair on the children."

I don't actually disagree with her and would never have had children deliberately but to say it out loud ... ouch! I just said, 'excuse me, I have to go' and went and burst into tears in the loo.

BipBippadotta · 28/09/2016 23:04

After my daughter was stillborn: 'you've always a slim person, but by the end of the pregnancy you were really quite chunky. Do you think that had anything to do with it?'

iluvsummer · 28/09/2016 23:07

My estranged PIL told my sons paternal half brother that he was the number one grandson in front of my son who fully understood what they said...we don't see them anymore and life is much better!

stopgap · 28/09/2016 23:10

"If it turns out your son has autism, well, that's the kind of thing that breaks up marriages."

"But we've been together a long time. We're best friends, and have been through a lot."

"Well it broke up my first marriage. It is too hard to deal with."

Two years on, ASD in my son is barely noticeable, marriage is just dandy, and ironically enough (and I wouldn't wish it on anyone) said woman's 3-year-old is now receiving services and is likely autistic.

walkingtheplank · 28/09/2016 23:11

When the Reception classes were being mixed up for Year 1, a mum said to a group of us that it was unfair that her daughter was having to go into the class with all of the thick unpopular children - to a group of us whose children were going into that class.

Following term the same mum said that it was unfair that my DS was joining her DD's table as they'd be too many boys - i.e. 3 out of 3 would be boys. She also commented on him not being very bright - but as this was an ability-based table I'm not sure what she was saying about her own DD.

At the end of Year 1 she said very loudly to my DS that her DD was very pleased to not have to sit with him anymore.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 28/09/2016 23:15

I was once told by a woman with short hair that she loved her children too much to have long hair like mine Confused

When I sort of looked at her with confusion she said 'well the time spent fiddling with your hair could be spent playing with your children' and off she went.

I thought of about 1000000 replies after she left, including telling her that I spend about 20 seconds a day on my hair unlike her who must have a cut every couple of months and she had it dyed bright red too and styled it. I haven't had a haircut in about a decade and run a brush through it in the morning Hmm

She fucking touched my hair as she said it too which made it even worse.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 28/09/2016 23:19

Oooo, hair.

A mum in the playground would go on about DS's long hair and how it should be cut.

Mum in question was a mess. Hair looked like she'd died it with Domestos and cut it with a lawnmower. She was not in a position to comment on hair styles.

raspberrysuicide · 28/09/2016 23:23

A woman I used to be friends with once gave my dd some sweets that she considered too dangerous for her pfb son to eat.
So it was ok for my child to choke then...

Permanentlyexhausted · 28/09/2016 23:24

"Why doesn't your husband want to support you". Said in response to my saying that I worked full time.

Firstly, DH also works full time and secondly, I actually quite like my job - this latter reason was met with a look of utter bemusement.

OhTheRoses · 28/09/2016 23:25

MIL - such a shame you can't perform after 2 mc's and ds2 was born too soon.

Another mother: You must be relieved you've done it properly this time.

It will be hard for a state school child to fit in at public school when they aren't used to privilege.

I remember you coming last in the mothers' race.

All three from the same woman.

OlennasWimple · 28/09/2016 23:28

You started a thread about something that someone said to you a few years ago? Confused

raspberrysuicide · 28/09/2016 23:33

During the swine flu thing a few years ago a woman from dds school said to me that it didn't matter if my dd caught swine flu and died because I could have more children if I wanted whereas she couldn't have any more!

Dilligaf81 · 28/09/2016 23:33

There is one particular mum whos daughter is the same year as my dd2 and her son with my dd2. They are the most annoying precious children who can do no wrong and must be the best and perform at any occasion.
She asked what marks dd2 got on a test and her reading levels. I told her and she said really have they got that confused ! Dd2 is very bright and those results made her top of the class (reading and writing is her thing) her dd struggles although listening to her you'd think our children were the other way around.
Looking at her makes my blood boil

AWafferthinmint · 28/09/2016 23:36

'I didn't go back to work after I had my DC as I didn't want to palm them off on other people'. Said to me the week after my maternity leave had ended and I had gone back to work Shock

mb182 · 28/09/2016 23:40

When I took ds in to work a few weeks after he was born, a colleague commented, "Isn't it odd how two ordinary looking people can have such beautiful children!""