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To think this was nuts?

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:04

Bringing dc to school this morning, got on train when man and his dc appears at door and asks if we're going to our school. I said we were and he says can you take my dc. Being a people pleasing fool and stunned I said yes and proceeded to take his dc on short train trip and five min walk across very busy roads to school. Am still annoyed this evening, had never spoken to the guy or his kid before, he just handed his child over to a complete and utter stranger!

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allsfairinlove · 12/09/2016 22:06

Shock seriously?!

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:09

Yup. Am disgusted with him and annoyed with myself in equal measure. The kid wasn't a bit perturbed, must be used to it Angry

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DietCockBreak · 12/09/2016 22:10

I'd have done it as well, sounds like they were safer with you than with him.

Giratina · 12/09/2016 22:11

Did you get the child's name, did your child know who they were? Maybe you should bring it up with the school as a child protection issue. What kind of parent would think that was appropriate, you could have been anyone.

EllaHen · 12/09/2016 22:12

Definitely tell the school.

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:13

My Dc had no idea who they were, different classes in school and mine has only just started. Was considering contacting the school but not sure if it's in their remit and they have enough to be doing. But so shocked he could hand his child over to a complete and utter stranger!

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museumum · 12/09/2016 22:15

What age? If the child was borderline being ok on their own then I'd be less concerned than if they were 6 or 7.

AgentProvocateur · 12/09/2016 22:16

Oh, FGS, he probably saw that your DC had the uniform on and was running late. I doubt you looked like a mass murderer. Why are you annoyed about it - that's what people in a community (whether that's a school, workplace or town) do. Help each other out.

peaceloveandbiscuits · 12/09/2016 22:16

Definitely mention it to school. It might not be someone like you he hands the kid over to tomorrow, if anyone at all.

Amandahugandkisses · 12/09/2016 22:17

Goodness me Shock

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:17

No uniform, kid was 6.5 ( I asked out of curiosity) there's community alright but I never set eyes on the guy before, let alone talking to him!

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WetPaint4 · 12/09/2016 22:18

I wouldn't take responsibility for a child I didn't know like that, unless I knew the parent. I once stayed with a lost little kid in a shop til her frantic mother showed up but I draw the line at traveling with someone's child if I don't know them. You were put in an awkward position OP, you need to have some harsh words for this person if you see him again.

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:19

And to be fair, what exactly does a mass murderer look like? Fred West had kids etc.

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MinonsMovie · 12/09/2016 22:40

Just when you thought you'd heard everything! That is definitely odd behaviour. Hmm

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:44

Not just me so!

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HollyCarrot · 13/09/2016 10:11

He did it again this morning, didn't ask this time. I'm going to have to get assertive aren't I Blush

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Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 13/09/2016 11:44

This reminds me of a time DP and I were out for breakfast at a record shop/cafe. We were lining our stomachs ready for a very big pub crawl. Lots of people were xmas shopping.

We were just sitting there chatting when a couple with their roughly 6 year old started arguing noisily next to us about how they were going to have to split up to get everything done in time. One of them mentions it would be easier if their kid wasn't slowing them down so the mother looks over to us and says, "why don't you stay here with these nice people?" Shock Shock Shock

I mean seriously! We could have been anyone! The poor kid looked so scared and uncomfortable and my look of shock and disgust was enough to make them mumble about how yeah maybe they should take their kid with them actually and they wandered off.

They looked like normal people and all.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 13/09/2016 11:46

Again this morning? You're basically friends now! Grin

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HollyCarrot · 13/09/2016 11:51

That's what I'm afraid of!!

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claraschu · 13/09/2016 11:53

My husband started going to boarding school when he was 8. It was a train from the Liverpool to London, change stations in London, then another 40 minute train ride.

His parents took him the first time, but after that, they took him to the station, looked around for a respectable looking woman, asked her to be his "auntie" until he got to London where another "auntie" (family connection this time) took him across London and deposited him on the second train.

This sounds so shocking now, but at the time (1965) no one batted an eyelid.

MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet · 13/09/2016 11:53

Does he just shove the child on the train after you?

I would think, particularly at that age, there would be guidance - from school or otherwise - about how a child is transported? Wouldn't this break their policy?

MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet · 13/09/2016 11:53

Next time, just tell him your hourly rate for childminding.

Elroya1 · 13/09/2016 11:55

Wow, I can't imagine what I would do if I found out my husband's doing this to my child!! It is outrageous!

SleepDeprivedAndCranky · 13/09/2016 11:57

He is using you as free childcare. I would report him to the school (and the police if the school don't act on it) because it is a safeguarding issue, if he is leaving a young child with random strangers at a train station just because he is a lazy arse and cba to mind his own child and ensure his child gets to school safely. I wouldn't care how busy he is, there is no excuse for his behaviour. The fact that he just presumed you have an unspoken agreement from now on, is also breathtakingly rude.

trafalgargal · 13/09/2016 12:05

"Sorry. We're not going to school today"
A week of this and he'll get the message.
Didn't you ask the child his name and what class he is in though if not the first time then the second.