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To think this was nuts?

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HollyCarrot · 12/09/2016 22:04

Bringing dc to school this morning, got on train when man and his dc appears at door and asks if we're going to our school. I said we were and he says can you take my dc. Being a people pleasing fool and stunned I said yes and proceeded to take his dc on short train trip and five min walk across very busy roads to school. Am still annoyed this evening, had never spoken to the guy or his kid before, he just handed his child over to a complete and utter stranger!

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Stopyourhavering · 13/09/2016 15:49

Well done for phoning school, you definitely did the right thing there...lets see what happens tomorrow!

Love51 · 13/09/2016 16:01

OP, the person in this scenario who is not good at being a grown up is train Dad. You may have been nervous, but you did what was required by a situation that wasn't of your making. Well done Smile

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HollyCarrot · 13/09/2016 16:08

Shitting myself over potential death stares tomorrow!

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/09/2016 16:12

Apart from him being a prize piss taker. He must be as high as a freeekin kite. With the greatest respect you could be anyone. You don't just hand your children over to strangers.

AvocadoFlapjack · 13/09/2016 16:13

You did the right thing, Holly, this is most definitely a safeguarding issue. As well as being a pisstake of your goodwill it's clearly a form of neglect as far as the child's concerned, which is the most important issue here.

And yy to what Love51 said above. Another well done from me! Looking out for the best interests of the child is what people in a community do. Flowers

MinonsMovie · 13/09/2016 16:15

I wonder if you'll see him tomorrow. If he is genuinely clueless, and its a scheduling issue, he will need to take an earlier train to get there and then onto where ever he is going.

AvocadoFlapjack · 13/09/2016 16:19

Re death stares - well, he knows you're someone who will report things to appropriate authorities now so he may be on the back foot himself. And if he isn't, remember you're not the one who's done anything wrong here! If he's actually threatening in any way, you can easily find out who he is and report him for that too. (To the police, obvs, not the school again!)

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HollyCarrot · 13/09/2016 16:20

He works beside where the train station is so clearly just doesn't want the inconvenience of going as far as the school and back again. Which is grand except I was a total stranger and as others have said, if there was an accident etc what would I have done not know his name or contact details etc. Dreading tomorrow tho, am not good at confrontation at all.

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MinonsMovie · 13/09/2016 16:26

clearly just doesn't want the inconvenience

His behaviour is totally inappropriate, but you don't know his motivation. Maybe he has just become a widower and is totally sinking, maybe he's a lazy asshole. But you don't know, you can only make assumptions based on his behaviour.

PoisonWitch · 13/09/2016 16:35

It is so lazy and irresponsible of him. I bet the child's other parent will be fuming when they find out!

fastdaytears · 13/09/2016 16:35

You definitely did the right thing Flowers

SuperFlyHigh · 13/09/2016 16:43

No bloody way - you are expected to be responsible for another person's child - what if something happens to the child?

report to the school. I agree with SleepDeprivedAndCranky - it's a safeguarding issue.

SuperFlyHigh · 13/09/2016 16:44

if he does ask you again OP just say you shouldn't be responsible for his child, you are not free childcare and it is a potential safeguarding issue which you have raised with the school.

and no is a 2 letter answer.

tiggytape · 13/09/2016 16:49

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BackwardElephants · 13/09/2016 17:23

Gla d you called the school,!

CafeCremeEtCroissant · 13/09/2016 17:28

What was the little boy like? Shy or outgoing?

NotMyMoney · 13/09/2016 17:30

If he dumps the DC on you tomorrow take her into the office and if they do nothing call the police. Who knows who he could dump his DC with in the future if he hasn't already.

Bertieboo1 · 13/09/2016 17:37

Our car broke down once when my mum was taking my sister and me to school and my mum asked a passerby with a child at our school to take us. Extenuating circumstances though - can't believe he did it again!!

YouTheCat · 13/09/2016 17:38

What a crap parent!

OP, you did the right thing.

Spiderpigspiderpig · 13/09/2016 17:41

Is this a wind up?! It's unbelievably cheeky!

If not, I'm placemarking for tomrrow Grin

ShiroiKoibito · 13/09/2016 17:51

I'm not placemarking at all

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HollyCarrot · 13/09/2016 18:19

His son was very outgoing, very relaxed considering he didn't know me. I wonder if the school will do anything.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/09/2016 18:39

He doesn't want the "inconvenience". He should have thought that of that before he dipped his sausage in the source.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/09/2016 18:43

The school are legally obliged to see into it.
Regardless of their personal opinion and thoughts

BigApple11 · 13/09/2016 18:47

Poor child