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Original poster

...to wonder why DH has sent a friend request to what looks like a woman he and his friends met on a recent jolly?

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1million · 22/06/2016 12:00

Saw it on his FB page as it came up XX and XX are now friends and looks like he friend requested her.... so after doing some research looks like her and her friend who on hols the same time as DH and his friends. So what to do...

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mouldycheesefan · 22/06/2016 12:01

Friend request her yourself and introduce yourself as his wife?

Letmehaveausername · 22/06/2016 12:03

Why would you want to do anything? He's made a friend, perfectly normal thing to do... Unless he's cheated on you before then that's a whole different story...

PrivatePike · 22/06/2016 12:04

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Believeitornot · 22/06/2016 12:06

Ask him?

ErNope · 22/06/2016 12:07

SHOCK HORROR. HE MADE A FRIEND :O :O
Really OP? Paranoid much?

WickedLazy · 22/06/2016 12:08

Has he mentioned her before or since? Did he just add her or a whole clatter of people?

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1million · 22/06/2016 12:09

I will ask him who the woman in the photos are that is draped all over him is

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ChocolateButton15 · 22/06/2016 12:10

If he had something to hide he wouldn't add her to fb surely? I think it's fine.

mrsmugoo · 22/06/2016 12:11

Don't you allow your husband to make female friends?

How bizarre.

WickedLazy · 22/06/2016 12:12

Draped all over him doesn't sound good. Like hugging him from behind, or sitting in his lap? Have they added any of his mates?

Scarftown · 22/06/2016 12:12

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OvertiredandConfused · 22/06/2016 12:13

Not sure I'd even notice if my DH added a female friend and I'd be pretty cheesed off if he questioned me adding male friends.

KittyKrap · 22/06/2016 12:14

I will ask him who the woman in the photos are that is draped all over him is

I'd have asked him about that as soon as I saw them!

WickedLazy · 22/06/2016 12:17

If my dp makes a new friend, he mentions it. But then we love a good gossip/post mortum.

Does he have form op?

Windsofwinter · 22/06/2016 12:20

See a solicitor, immediately.

On behalf of your H of course, who may wish to rethink things upon realising he's unable to make new friends Hmm

80sMum · 22/06/2016 12:21

My DH only has female friends! The only males he interacts with socially are incidental, being the DHs or DPs of said friends.

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1million · 22/06/2016 12:22

I noticed as it popped up on FB and I wanted to know as Im sure we all would particularly as she was very, very pretty. So he's gone to the effort of finding this person after being back nearly 2 weeks. You friend request someone when you want to keep in touch surely???

DH is useless at FB and wouldn't realise that it would pop up that he and XX are now friends.

He'd never mentioned a thing. None of the 11 guys who went out are friends by the looks of it.

I will ask tonight when I go home who the pretty girl he has friend requested is. He def friend requested as it came up XX has accept your friend request

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LaConnerie · 22/06/2016 12:22

Sorry but that was a little bit of a drip feed OP?

There seems to be more to this story than them just being friends on FB - where did you see the pics? And what exactly were they doing in them?

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1million · 22/06/2016 12:25

Saw the pics on her photos... her setting must be open for all to see

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CrazyDuchess · 22/06/2016 12:26

as others have suggested - ask him??

MoonfaceAndSilky · 22/06/2016 12:26

I will ask him who the woman in the photos are that is draped all over him is

Where is this photo, on the facebook page?

MoonfaceAndSilky · 22/06/2016 12:28

Oh, they were on her photos. Well I would be more concerned about the photos rather than the friend request!!

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1million · 22/06/2016 12:28

In her hol folders

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1million · 22/06/2016 12:28

Folder was marked up "Best of Brighton 2016"

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LaConnerie · 22/06/2016 12:29

So when you say 'draped all over him' do you literally mean that?

If so I would be showing him the pics when he/you get home and wanting an explanation... though depending on the level of 'draping', it would have to be a bloody good one....