...to wonder why DH has sent a friend request to what looks like a woman he and his friends met on a recent jolly?

[1million]

Saw it on his FB page as it came up XX and XX are now friends and looks like he friend requested her.... so after doing some research looks like her and her friend who on hols the same time as DH and his friends. So what to do...

[Mummyme1987]

Try messaging her saying hi sexy and see what she says

[scarednoob]

Honestly, some of the leaps people make are incredible.

If anything had gone on, he wouldn't have added her on Facebook - he would be texting/calling her. My guess is that he thinks you'd be cross so he stupidly lied to try and pre empt that, not realising he would make it worse.

However, the secrecy does suggest perhaps he has a little crush - hopefully harmless and doesn't mean he would ever do anything, or that she would, but you are right to keep a careful eye on him for the moment, just in case it escalates.

[scarednoob]

Sorry, should read, thought you'd be suspicious and cross for nothing

[Sallystyle]

If anything had gone on, he wouldn't have added her on Facebook - he would be texting/calling her.

You are wrong.

Ever heard of hiding in plain slight? Quite common actually.

You honestly believe that people who have cheated or have come very close to cheating haven't added the OW/OM on FB to make it look more innocent?

People do it all the time. Your leap is quite incredible as well.

I am not saying he has or hasn't cheated, but adding her on FB doesn't prove his innocence.

[crayfish]

My DH will relatively regularly become FB friends with a random woman I have never heard of. If I ask who she is (out of interest) then it's always somebody from running club or canoeing club or whatever. I never think more of it or look at her profile or anything because a) I'm not that interested b) I trust him and c) he's a grown man and can be friends with anyone he wants to be.

That said, if he started friend requesting randoms he met on a lads holiday and then lying about it, I wouldn't feel that comfortable about it. I can't say why really, maybe just that the running club people have something in common and are actually in contact/friends in real life, so it seems logical they might be fb friends too. The holiday draper though? Why would you want to be fb friends with them? What's the point? And the lying is not ok. Keep yours eyes open OP.

[1million]

Ok so this girl has now added DH friend to her FB friends.

So if he is telling the truth about her wanting to get in contact with his friend I cant get my head around why he would lie about her friend requesting him

[WellErrr]

I thought they were already friends?

[WellErrr]

Oh his friend

[OnionKnight]

Given how you are getting yourself worked up OP I can understand why he lied, have you ever queried any of his actions like this before?

[DisneyMillie]

I don't know why you're getting a hard time on here OP from some people - but equally don't assume he's misbehaving.

My DP has lots of female friends and I couldn't care less. Equally would be fine if he added someone from work / hobbies. But I'd be a bit put out if he added some random girl from a night out - I just don't see the need to keep in touch in those circumstances (or frankly why thet were talking that much in the first place - I don't go out with friends to talk to other people / men (but maybe that's because I'm in my thirties).

Having said that DP did accept a friend request from a random girl last time he went on holiday - but she sent it, she added all his friends and I trust him totally. (And he's said since it probably wasn't appropriate to accept the request as he wouldn't want me to in similar circumstances)

[KinkyAfro]

I would also not be happy about this. I'm all for making new friends but if my DP went on a lad's holiday and starting issuing friend requests to women he'd met there, I'd be wondering why too. I think you're getting a hard time OP and hope you get to the bottom of it one way or another.

[notapizzaeater]

I'd just be sitting back now and watching from the sidelines, he doesn't think you are supisious so might make silly mistakes.