to want some peace and quiet on the ward?

[vodkaredbull]

It's 3:30am and I'm losing my mind.

I was admitted to antenatal yesterday morning for induction. So far fuck all is happening and I'm exhausted. In a stupid amount of pain and all I want to do is sleep.

But of course that's not going to happen is it? I'm in a bay with two other beds. Across from me is the snorer but really I could probably block her out. The problem is the other patient who is surgically attached to her fucking iPhone. It's the middle of the night and she's ringing all of her friends for a chat. Who does that when people are trying to sleep?! I don't give a fuck if she's missing a party to be induced. I want to enjoy the totally useless paracetamol they've deigned to give me and try to get a little rest.

The midwife isn't helping much either. She's rather old fashioned and I'm surprised she hasn't locked us in. I tried to go for a walk to escape iPhone girl and she escorted me back to bed.

AIBU to expect a little peace and quiet in here? Seriously losing it right now.

Massive congrats OP. Been following your thread in horror! Just wanted to say I had a similarly dire and traumatic induction for GD, and also (I think because of that) had difficulty bonding straight away. Loved DS to bits but just couldn't connect somehow. Anyway mostly wanted to say that if you have any worries on that score it absolutely will happen - I'm sure you know that but sometimes it still helps to hear from someone else! Something clicked for me around six months and now he's 18 months we're joined at the hip - we have a great bond even though he's at nursery 3 daya a week and the early days of things just not feeling right feel a long time away. My advice is fake it til you make it, but also reach out for help if you feel you need it, and do remember a traumatic birth puts you at greater risk of PND so maybe ask DP to keep an eye. Congratulations again - plus lots of and for you now you're not carb counting any more, and a for your beautiful new DD.

Congratulations vodka And welcome baby vodka

So sorry things didn't go well for you, lots of cuddles and lots of rest (where possible!)

Congratulations vodka! I had a traumatic delivery with dd and it took me a while to get over it. Worth every second though

Oh you must be so tired.
Congratulations
Try and be kind to yourself and enjoy your gorgeous new baby.

Congratulations on your little girl Vodka! Don't stress about how you feel right now, nothing is forever.

Enjoy newborn cuddles!

Congratulations, sorry you had a rough time. Take it easy. Be kind to yourself and don't worry too much about the bonding, it will come naturally it's not always instant especially when you had had a long, traumatic birth and are exhausted.

Massive congratulations on your baby I had a very traumatic birth too, induction over many days, back to back and forceps delivery.

I don't think that I bonded, as such, at all over the first few days, I just stared at her thinking "who are you"!! I just felt an overwhelming need to protect and care for her. Of course it's fine now, and was soon afterwards. I wish you all the best

Congratulations! Well done you x

vodkaredbull, congrats on the arrival of...um...tonicredcalf !

I am so sorry that your birth was poorly handled from, it sounds like, the very beginning. You have my best wishes winging to you from across the Atlantic that you and the noob can have the peace you need to start the bonding practice, and I hope that when and only when you and your DH feel up to it, the hospital receives both barrels about how you were treated.

Congratulations! Lots of beautiful quiet time to you and your baby girl. The worst is over. Hope you're both well xxx

Congratulations Vodka and to mini vodka! Look after yourself. I had complications after both my births and it took me a while to recover and feel like I'd fully bonded with my babies after I'd got over the shock. Be kind to yourself. oh and

Congratulations! I'm so glad she's arrived safely. You've been through so much over the last few days.

Congratulations.

Just focus on getting home now. Sounds dreadful.

I have to say not receiving any care for 12 hours or so resonated with me. I was admitted with gestational hypertension with my first. I didn't want to stay but didn't want to go against medical advice. They failed to take my blood pressure between 6pm and 6am. When I queried this they shrugged it off. I could have been at home.

The woman opposite me had a problem with her placenta and was going to have to stay for 2 weeks before having a section. She had a toddler at home so her DH could only visit for an hour a day as he was looking after him.

I would have shot myself in the face if I'd been her. Made a point of going to see her and having a cup of tea with her when my DD was born a few days later. She was on the verge of mental breakdown by that point.

Second time was ace though. In and out really quickly so there is hope.

Oh Vodka, DH and I have been watching your thread saying to each other 'It's just like ours' and feeling horrified. I didn't want to post though, as I didn't want to scare you. Our induction was horribly managed and DD and I nearly died. I still haven't got the emotional energy to complain against the midwife who sounds just like your consultant. We've just had to focus on us.

I am so glad you and mini Vodka are through the other side of this. You all be good to yourselves and each other.

Congratulations!!!!! You must be so very tired, and all that trauma will make bonding more difficult, it will come, it's really hard. People talk about that huge rush of live but I just felt overwhelmed!!!
You will get there, hope you are home soon xxx

Well done Vodka!! And welcome Mini Vodka 🎉🎉🎉

Congrats Vodka and welcome VodkaShot.

Congratualions OP!

Congratulations vodka hope you're getting some sleep you poor thing

Congratualations

I'm so sorry to hear the birth was traumatic, I hope you get a chance to speak to someone and tell them what you've been through.

You've got lots of time to bond so don't worry about that, you say you love her already, that's the main thing

Congratulations on your beautiful daughter. Hope you get a good rest

Here in New Jersey they have a PND checklist that is completed in the first 48 hours. You can also self refer and you will be seen by a psychologist. I strongly suggest you speak to someone now, even if it is your GP over the phone about the birth and request you are seen ASAP. I had an awful time with delivering DD, my first, and that 20 minute conversation on day 2 with the psych doctor turned everything around. Nip any potential PND issues in the bud if you can. It sounds like you are at risk based on the questionnaires I filled out for both of my births.

You can complain later. Right now take care of yourself.

Congratulations!

Sorry to hear of your traumatic delivery. Both of mine were traumatic; first back to back, foreceps, PPH and the second included a failed induction, Emergency c section, PPH and a frozen bowel.
It can be grim and painful. It took a while for me a few weeks to properly bond with DC1 too, although I adored him from the moment I met him. Go easy on yourself and accept all forms of help if you need it.