to want some peace and quiet on the ward?

[vodkaredbull]

It's 3:30am and I'm losing my mind.

I was admitted to antenatal yesterday morning for induction. So far fuck all is happening and I'm exhausted. In a stupid amount of pain and all I want to do is sleep.

But of course that's not going to happen is it? I'm in a bay with two other beds. Across from me is the snorer but really I could probably block her out. The problem is the other patient who is surgically attached to her fucking iPhone. It's the middle of the night and she's ringing all of her friends for a chat. Who does that when people are trying to sleep?! I don't give a fuck if she's missing a party to be induced. I want to enjoy the totally useless paracetamol they've deigned to give me and try to get a little rest.

The midwife isn't helping much either. She's rather old fashioned and I'm surprised she hasn't locked us in. I tried to go for a walk to escape iPhone girl and she escorted me back to bed.

AIBU to expect a little peace and quiet in here? Seriously losing it right now.

Congratulations! So relieved your DD arrived safely

Congratulations

Sorry to hear the birth was hard. Take your time, get to know your lovely baby and when the time is right get a bloody good complaint into the shit-tip of a hospital you unfortunately had to use.

I'm sorry you had such a difficult time, but huge congratulations and well done. Your baby is here, safe and well. You have done so well
When you feel better, ask if your hospital has a birth reflections service. I found it so helpful in coming to terms with the difficulties I faced giving birth.

Congratulations Vodka and a big welcome to MiniVodka.

Please, please don't worry about "bonding". You have just experienced an incredible physical and emotional experience. Give yourself plenty of time to recover physically and for your emotions to settle. Focus on feeding, poo, wee and sleep. For both you and baby

That feeling of bonding comes later. For now, it really is all about the basic physical needs.

Oh how I wish I had Mumsnet when I had my 2 dc.

Any names picked yet op Smirnoff has a nice ring to it.

Congratulations! Be kind to yourself, you've had a rough few days. Lots of and for you!

Mini vodka!

ARM was successful after 3 tries late last night followed by strong contractions with entonox. Fruitless though as 6 hours later I hadn't dilated.

Given synto drip and failed epidural. Finally got epidural top up. She progressed quickly into the birth canal and I was told to push before my body was ready. So quite a nasty tear and a funny shaped vodka shot!

The real trauma though was being stitched. Exhaustion and low blood pressure so I nodded off while DH bonded. Woke up being given a local and used to teach a student how to stitch. Started and I wasn't numb. I loudly withdrew consent but couldn't move with the epidural and senior mw wouldn't stop. I wept through the whole thing. I wasn't numb.

Jesus, even reading that again is making me sick again. I was actually violated and it's had an effect on how I see my daughter. Don't worry though - I will not let any of this drop.

SMIRNOFF?!

Don't you think thats a bit, well common?!

There are so many other brands baby vodka called be named after.

How about:
Absolwent
AnestasiA
Bombora
Chase
Cirrus
Cracovia
Danzka
Dubra
Eristoff
Finlandia
Firefly
Frïs
Isensua
Kissui
Koskenkorva
Lokka
Lotus
Platinka
Renat
Reyka
Rokk
Ruskova
SKYY
Sobieski
Soplica
Ström
Stumbras
Svedka
Ursus
Zodiac
Żubrówka

Most could pass as a girls name!

I'm thinking it might be wise to avoid the following brands as inspiration though:
Bong Spirit
White Mischief
Oso Negro
Crystal Head
Magic Spirits
Starka

Congrats vodka!

What a beauty!

I can't believe that midwife carried on despite you saying stop. That's physical abuse. What did your dh say?

Jesus Christ! Cross post.

Look after yourself x

They didn't stop?! OP, I am so sorry for the experience you have had. You poor thing. But your DD is absolutely beautiful! Congratulations on making such a gorgeous baby vodka.

I had a very similar experience with the stitching up afterwards. It is harrowing, and horrible. So many for you. But she is a gorgeous wee dote!

Poor thing, did the midwife say anything to you when she wouldn't stop stitching? Was it bleeding so badly they had to keep going, for example?

MiniVodka is adorable! I hope she's of some comfort to you :(

Oh my god vodka that actually made me cry, how fucking heartless/evil are the staff at that hospital ffs?!! Massive gentle ((hugs)) on the way. Your daughter is an absolute beaut!

She is beautiful!

I had a very similar experience to NotNob and second everything she says. Sending you very warm thoughts.

She is beautiful.
Be kind to yourself, take thjngs hour by hour and keep talking about how you feel , don't bottle things up.
You have had a horrible time, nobody should go through anything like you have.
When you are ready seek out support to do whatever you feel you need to do to deal with these traimatic events and no one can take away the most precious little bundle on amongst all of the crap xx

Your daughter is absolutely beautiful

I'm so sorry that the midwife assaulted you, it's horrendous and should never have happened. I hope you get an acknowledgement, an apology and to be taken seriously.

She is so so beautiful!

So sorry about your awful experience, maybe jot down what happened and how you felt do when you feel up to ripping them to shreds complaining, it will be fresh in your mind.

I found that after a long induction baby wasn't engaged. The only option was to push. You may find its because they have an 18hour limit from when your waters were broken. I was allowed to wait to see if it dropped and it didn't. I wasn't contracting either.

Hopefully in a few day you will feel better X X

Congratulations. She's absolutely gorgeous. I'm so sorry for your experience though. X

Btw that technically constitutes assault.

GMC guidelines on consent

You did not lack capacity in any way shape or form. Legally the midwife is up shit creek.

She is absolutely beautiful.

So sorry that your experience has been so shite. Go home as soon as you can, immerse yourself in newborn world (to me that is sofa, shortbread and TV remote) and give yourself time.

Then kick the arses of every twat in the hospital with the power of MN behind you.