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AIBU?

to want some peace and quiet on the ward?

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vodkaredbull · 06/02/2016 03:38

It's 3:30am and I'm losing my mind.

I was admitted to antenatal yesterday morning for induction. So far fuck all is happening and I'm exhausted. In a stupid amount of pain and all I want to do is sleep.

But of course that's not going to happen is it? I'm in a bay with two other beds. Across from me is the snorer but really I could probably block her out. The problem is the other patient who is surgically attached to her fucking iPhone. It's the middle of the night and she's ringing all of her friends for a chat. Who does that when people are trying to sleep?! I don't give a fuck if she's missing a party to be induced. I want to enjoy the totally useless paracetamol they've deigned to give me and try to get a little rest.

The midwife isn't helping much either. She's rather old fashioned and I'm surprised she hasn't locked us in. I tried to go for a walk to escape iPhone girl and she escorted me back to bed.

AIBU to expect a little peace and quiet in here? Seriously losing it right now.

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Jibberjabberjooo · 06/02/2016 05:30

I'm a nurse and would have told her to be quiet or go elsewhere on her phone. I frequently tell patients to turn their tv off or use headphones at night and often ask relatives trying to stay late to leave. Some people have no consideration for anyone else, at all.

Dollymixtureyumyum · 06/02/2016 05:44

That's good to know Jibberjabberjoo. I wish you had been on duty the night I was in.
Just wondering why would a nurse/midwife not ask this patient or any patient to get off the phone/switch if telly etc. It is for an easy life/worried about the patient kicking off etc

Dollymixtureyumyum · 06/02/2016 05:46

Do you ever get a patient kicking off when they are asked to be quiet or are they quiet meek. Is it a comment occurrence. Sorry just being nosy

Hackedabove · 06/02/2016 05:52

I'm hoping you're now asleep. Hope all goes well today.

lavendersun · 06/02/2016 06:21

I like a strict nurse jibber . There was a Sister on the ward for my remaining nights in hospital, absolutely no nonsense allowed, suited me perfectly!

Fraggled · 06/02/2016 06:26

You poor thing OP. I've been where you are and it's not fun and totally the opposite of what you need. I.e sleep to keep your strength and spirits up.

I hope you got some rest. Some people are so selfish.

lunar1 · 06/02/2016 06:32

I hope you have manager to sleep. I can't believe the midwife didn't tell her to turn the phone off.

angelos02 · 06/02/2016 06:34

What kind of 'person' thinks it is ok to keep someone else awake while they yap away on their phone in the middle of the night? Nurse should've nipped that in the bud in minutes.

SSargassoSea · 06/02/2016 06:39

I would name the offending nurse - but them I'm nasty I'm not really it's her that's crap and gives others a bad name

exWifebeginsat40 · 06/02/2016 06:47

I was on a women's surgical ward for a week after having a severed finger reattached (this is a whole other story). the three women opposite me all turned their TVs to the same station and took headphones out so they could 'watch emmerdale and have a chat about it'.

they had kept me awake and been bitches to me for days and I had a complete meltdown. the ward sister said something and they were quiet after that. my god though. the RAGE.

hope you're getting some rest and good luck!

parallax80 · 06/02/2016 06:48

If you want to complain about the nurse specifically it would be more appropriate to complain to the hospital directly so she has a chance to be told about the complaint and change her behaviour accordingly. How does "naming and shaming" someone who will probably never read it help to improve care?

parallax80 · 06/02/2016 06:49

(Sorry, naming and shaming on MN, I mean)

Kitkatmonster · 06/02/2016 06:50

Is it worth asking if you can pay for a private room? It sounds worth the money. I think you are being very reasonable by the way, I would have exploded and likely smashed the phone by now.

WhatTheActualFugg · 06/02/2016 06:55

Ooh... wonder if OP has fallen asleep or gone in to labour.

vodkaredbull · 06/02/2016 07:00

I was asleep! Managed an hour or so with the codeine. Sadly no labour :(

My immediate plan is to have a nice loud shower and a chat with the day staff. I'm going to speak to them about the midwife and her attitude. There are no side rooms on this ward but I'm going to pay for one on post natal if possible. That's assuming I ever actually give birth!

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WhatTheActualFugg · 06/02/2016 07:02

Make sure you do some good loud laughing. Pretend you're the Duchess of Cambridge on a charity visit. That always seems to have her in stitches.

Gobbolino6 · 06/02/2016 07:15

Oh I feel for you. Nothing happened on day 1 of my induction. I got no sleep and I cried. But they started a drip the next morning and it all got moving. Big hugs.

1frenchfoodie · 06/02/2016 07:39

Poor you vodka, spend one night on an antenatal ward last week for monitoring and had the worst nights sleep ever. I had no idea there were people out there who still had sound function enabled for text typing. I did know that loudly complaining 'I'm hot' every 10 minutes was not a valid means to cool a room but it didn't stop one woman. Being woken at 4am after finally getting to sleep for my blood pressure, which has never been a problem, to be taken almost had me crying. Hope today goes better for you.

Sunbeam1112 · 06/02/2016 07:48

I hated being induced on the ward. Theres no privacy. Plus they just leave you. I was in pain all night and just to winge and moan but was aware of others in the room. I would ask the girl to make personal calls else where.

Hackedabove · 06/02/2016 08:00

An hour is better than nothing, try and rest when you can.

Notthecarwashagain · 06/02/2016 08:06

What is wrong with some people?!

After I had DS a lady came round to do the babies hearing screening. When she started to check DS, the woman in the bed opposite put her hairdryer on! Grrr I've carried this (minor!) annoyance around for 9 years!

Hope you get some sleep, and labour isn't too far off.
All the best and [Ear defenders]

Mouthfulofquiz · 06/02/2016 08:42

If you have the same again tonight, and the midwife won't help you, I suggest getting on your phone and asking to speak to the senior nurse or matron for the hospital, or failing that, the on call manager.
My blood is boiling on your behalf. So fucking rude!!

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Dollymixtureyumyum · 06/02/2016 08:46

She is bound to fell asleep at some stage Op. Maybe a accidental passing kick to her bed to wake her up and they telly on very lois

Dollymixtureyumyum · 06/02/2016 08:46

That was meant to be very loud

Silvercatowner · 06/02/2016 08:56

Get dressed and tell the midwife you are going home. Worked for me. Actually one time I did go home and it was bliss.

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