to want some peace and quiet on the ward?

[vodkaredbull]

It's 3:30am and I'm losing my mind.

I was admitted to antenatal yesterday morning for induction. So far fuck all is happening and I'm exhausted. In a stupid amount of pain and all I want to do is sleep.

But of course that's not going to happen is it? I'm in a bay with two other beds. Across from me is the snorer but really I could probably block her out. The problem is the other patient who is surgically attached to her fucking iPhone. It's the middle of the night and she's ringing all of her friends for a chat. Who does that when people are trying to sleep?! I don't give a fuck if she's missing a party to be induced. I want to enjoy the totally useless paracetamol they've deigned to give me and try to get a little rest.

The midwife isn't helping much either. She's rather old fashioned and I'm surprised she hasn't locked us in. I tried to go for a walk to escape iPhone girl and she escorted me back to bed.

AIBU to expect a little peace and quiet in here? Seriously losing it right now.

Let me know if you need anything popping in - or a lift over to Russells Hall!

OP I really hope you are cuddling your baby by now.

Just read this thread in it's entirety. I had an awful induction with negligence on part of the hospital. Really hoping all went well in the end and you have your baby.

Reading this in horror at your experiences, hope you've got that wee baby in your arms now.

It's years since I had my babies and some of these posts shock me. When did people become so inconsiderate. I know they say we sometimes look back on our past with rose tinted glasses but people just didn't used to be like this. I remember how in the maternity ward the needs of the mothers, especially their right to sleep was so important. Selfish inconsiderate people are being allowed to spoil what should be a happy positive experience.

So pleased to read your update Vodka and that things are finally moving!

Hopefully vodka minature is already here and safe in your arms.

Vodka minature-love it!
Hope all has gone well OP x

After a very traumatic birth my beautiful daughter arrived this afternoon. There's a lot of issues surrounding the birth I'm unhappy with and I'm not bonding well yet. A lot of trauma. But she's here and I love her so much.

Congratulations :) Be gentle with yourself and vent here if you need to do so. We will listen.

Welcome to the world, Mini Vodka!

Congratulations Vodka. So sorry to hear about your birth experience - make sure you pursue whatever you need to in order to feel better about it, or to understand it.

Congratulations Vodka. Give yourself a break re bonding. You haven't slept since Friday and your emotions are not reliable right now. Just sit still and cuddle. Nothing else required. Much love to you and your little one.

Ah congrats to you,delighted to hear she has arrived.Plenty of cuddles and try to go home you will be better there.

oh bless you Vodka x You must be shattered - congratulations on the birth of little Voddie - be kind to yourself - give it time you've been through the mill

It can take days or even weeks to bond. I remember taking mine home thinking they could be anyone's babies really, they didn't feel like 'mine' after a few days I experienced that sudden rush of fierce love, but it happens differently for everyone and you have had a traumatic time and you are tired.

Congratulations and welcome mini Vodka, would love to see a picture if you are comfortable with sharing when you feel up to it.

Massive congratulations [flowers{

I found it helped when I asked a duty me to go over the birth with me stage by stage before I left hospital. They were happy to do this and answer questions. I wish I'd done the same first time round.

Enjoy your sweet vodka miniature xx

Aww, congratulations to you and mr vodka on mini vodka! Make sure you are kind to yourself. I didn't feel a bond with either of mine for a while (both now in their teens) but I got there in the end. Just try and rest and enjoy the cuddles xx

For some reason I actually want to cry with relief for you - well ruddy done Vodka

galore

And give Mini a cuddle from MN and especially soppy old cyber-uncle Andrew!

Huge congratulations on the birth of MiniVodka!

I am so sorry the birth was traumatic, and the lead up was not smooth. I experienced similar with my daughter's birth and I found a debrief a few months later helped deal with the birth itself. In terms of the care you have received, PALS are there and should be utilised. If you don't feel up to it just yet, ask your husband to start the ball rolling; it is imperative hospitals know where their failings are in patient care.

But above everything you have been through, enjoy your squishy new baby and your new family, the bonding will come in its own time, don't worry about forcing it.

Congratulations! I hope you heal quickly

I'm so sorry it was traumatic for you; I went through a similar experience also had well managed GD, inductio etc. Bonding will take time but you will get there.... the so called "rush of love" that people talk about just didn't happen for me and I suspect having a traumatic delivery and induction contributed massively! Make sure your DH brings you lots of nice things that you can finally eat, rest as much as you can and take all the painkillers you can get ypir hands on every four hours. And if your LO is having trouble with blood sugars as mine did make sure you ask for help and support with breastfeeding or colostrum harvesting. Feel free to message me privately if you like. Good luck! You are amazing x

Oh no vodka I'm so sorry things didn't get better for you. Put a complaint in when you have your strength back

Aww, congrats - that's wonderful news, I am so happy for you and your DH.

Please don't worry about bonding just yet you must be knackered and still in shock. This giving birth malarkey isn't like in the movies is it? . The most important thing is you and your DDs health.

I think I was in shock for a few days after one of my DCs birth - I was there but I wasn't IYSWIM

Congratulations