to want some peace and quiet on the ward?

[vodkaredbull]

It's 3:30am and I'm losing my mind.

I was admitted to antenatal yesterday morning for induction. So far fuck all is happening and I'm exhausted. In a stupid amount of pain and all I want to do is sleep.

But of course that's not going to happen is it? I'm in a bay with two other beds. Across from me is the snorer but really I could probably block her out. The problem is the other patient who is surgically attached to her fucking iPhone. It's the middle of the night and she's ringing all of her friends for a chat. Who does that when people are trying to sleep?! I don't give a fuck if she's missing a party to be induced. I want to enjoy the totally useless paracetamol they've deigned to give me and try to get a little rest.

The midwife isn't helping much either. She's rather old fashioned and I'm surprised she hasn't locked us in. I tried to go for a walk to escape iPhone girl and she escorted me back to bed.

AIBU to expect a little peace and quiet in here? Seriously losing it right now.

[diddl]

Congratulations!

That is such shocking treatment.

Your daughter is stunning.

[guinnessgirl]

Congratulations Vodka, your daughter is just perfect.

I am utterly and completely appalled at how you've been treated, though. I had an induction with some similarities to yours but not half so traumatic, and my experiences on the ward were the main reason I had a home birth with DS2. I wouldn't have been induced again without very, very good reason.

I hope you are able to enjoy at least some of these precious early days, and that you are successful in complaining when you are ready x

[Melty]

First of all congratulation on your precious little bundle.
Can I just second the NMC . What was done to you by that midwife was assault.
You should write down what happened as soon as possible, so you have the most contemporaneous record and you won't forget details if you do it sooner rather than later. You then can hold off for a bit while you recover, but dont let it go.
NHS guidance on consent:
Consent

I am horrified at what has happened to you.
The business of the consultant treating you like dirt should not be let go either.
There was a fairly big judgement recently on consent. Montgomery v Lanarkshire
Nadine Montgomery was a woman with diabetes who gave birth by vaginal delivery. Her baby, Sam, was born with serious disabilities after shoulder dystocia during delivery. The doctor, Dina McLellan, did not tell Montgomery of the 9-10% risk of shoulder dystocia. McLellan said that she did not routinely discuss the risk of shoulder dystocia with women with diabetes for fear that, if told, such women would opt for a caesarean section. The court held that McLellan should have informed Montgomery of the risk and discussed with her the option of a caesarean section.

In short, this is another example of obstetrics and maternity services failing a pregnant patient.
i am so sorry.

[Melty]

Oh, and you can also report to the CQC
Reporting a concern

[Oriunda]

Only just seen this thread - firstly congratulations on your baby girl.

I was induced and mine went like yours - days of contractions, sleepless nights with no progression of labour. Admitted on the Friday and DS born on Monday afternoon - after waters broken manually I was still only a centimetre dilated after 2+ days of contractions. It was totally demoralising. DS still didn't want to come out and hated the synto drip and so we had to have EMCS in the end. Unfortunately that meant another 3 nights in hospital afterwards! I came out of hospital absolutely shattered.

Despite it being - at the time - a horrible experience, I've put it out of my mind. I had a doula with me who typed up her notes - every vaginal examination (8!) and contraction. Occasionally I have a read and a cry, but they're mostly fond memories now.

A friend did get her notes and ask for a review, and it did help her obtain closure.

Enjoy your little girl.

[Littlemissjt]

A beautiful baby, congratulations op!

So sorry to hear the awful time you've had! Hopefully you'll be getting home today and out of there.

[Shadow1986]

OP your long induced labour sounds so similar to mine, I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I too struggled in those early days thinking what the fuck was that, how could they treat me like that?! There I was being expected to push out twins, when I hadn't slept or eaten in 3 days! It was a Very bad start to motherhood for me and something I chose to ignore for a very long time - my advice would be to get your feelings heard as soon as possible. I've left it too late now so no one will be interested in how their fuck ups affected me so much. I was also offered post birth counselling about 4 hours after I'd given birth and declined as I was in no state to know what the hell I wanted but I would accept this if you get it offered to you.

I'm now having my next baby and I'm 100% about wanting this baby at home and not having an experience like last time.

Congratukations on the arrival of your new baby I so wish it had been a happier experience for you. Like I said I know exactly how you're feeling.