To think that DH is being faintly ridiculous re dinner tonight

[trufflehunterthebadger]

We have 5 students plus 5 of us at the moment. I am working until 7pm so it is DHs job to do dinner tonight as he finishes at 3. Girls need to eat at 6 to be out for 6:45. Just for background :)

Tonight's dinner is baked camembert. Dh would not make it last night because "i don't know what i am doing with it". I have told him about 11 times that all he needs to do is put it in the oven for 45 minutes, take it out and put it on a plate with baguette, salad and charcuterie (which we already have) We have eaten it many times before. On leaving this morning he said "can you send me a detailed recipe for this camembert thing"

I repeated what i have already repeated multiple times and why was he finding this incredibly simple dinner such a challengr to which i got the response "well where do i get the bread and fir example am i meant to take the plastic off"

At which point i got annoyed. Aibu to think that a 37 year old man who is a reasonably good cook, is used to making dinner for 11-12, manages a very challenging job in the police should be able to put some bloody camembert in the oven without copious instruction

YAsoNBU!! Why on earth would he think you might leave the plastic on?!

Nb i worked as a chef for 4 years so i am willing at accept that IABU and it is not as simple as i think it is :)

That is what is said Dexter. Although more sarcastically

Is he being deliberately awkward because he doesn't want that for tea?

I can't think why he's being difficult otherwise .

I bake mine for 30 mins max
Do you put yours on at a low heat?

Dh is a chef. I rarely cool at home, unless it's baking with the kids.

On one hand I could defintley do this. Bu on the other hand I would be shutting myself at trying to make a meal for 10 people. Even a simple one.

I don't think either are bu, but only because I know how I would feel. I also know dh is sometimes completely perplexed by my lack of knowledge about cooking.

No idea what chartcuterie is. That would panic me too

Sounds delicious! Do you stick any garlic or rosemary into it.

Charcuterie is loads of sliced meat like salami, bresaola etc

Is this a stealth boast about what wonderful food you have mid-week . Get him to do egg and chips next time.

And one Camembert for ten people! Hope it's one of those big ones.

/off topic That doesn't sound like a very substantial dinner on its own, even with bread and charcuterie.

I do sympathise though, my husband is just the same in the kitchen without precise instructions, and it drives me round the pole. That said, yesterday I phoned him just to panic at him when I had to change a tyre, so I'm doing my bit to bolster gender stereotypes also.

No, he loves it. I think the issue is it's out of his cooking comfort zone of curry, chilli, lasagne/spag bol and shepherds pie ;)

It's one camembert per person !!

If he is cooking why doesn't he get to decide the menu and cook something he is happy with?
You do sound a bit controlling OP, and that sounds like more of a starter to me than a main meal.

"We have 5 students plus 5 of us at the moment."

Eh? Lost me already.

He'll need supervision... Dinner for what time? Pm your address and I'll volunteer my supervisory skills

Yep he's an idiot.... This mere man stuff drives me batshit.

Is that ten lots of cheese?

Jesus, i am controlling because the dinner is baked camembert ? Erm, ok. Clearly you have a very different understanding of the word "controlling" in a relstionship

Perhaps he enjoys eating it do much he can't believe it's do simple to make and he suspects you spend hours in the kitchen using your finest chefing skills to rustle up such a tasty meal?

Op means there are five in her family plus they have five students staying with them

Yes Sparkling, 10 lots of cheese. for the 5 people in the family and the 5 students staying.

YANBU by the way - it's really not that hard to work out!

I'm voting for let him do chilli - he can do all that - then tomorrow -its the simple option of camembert.
30 minutes here - last night I put chilli sauce on mine - its was lovely.
How old are the students ? I thought it was the law that you must have it with

No comment on your DH's inability to understand simple instructions or use common sense, but you've inspired me to have the same for my dinner tonight! I'll put some Rosemary in it, with a spoonful of honey on top. Thanks, OP N

I think sometimes men really just play dumb for no explicable reason, I had a conversation with my DP last night that went like this...
DP: greater, can you download the holiday photos from the camera to the laptop so I can show them to my dad on the big screen
Me: DP, I've just 10 hours at work with a 3 hour commute, you've been at home all day with your DD and DSS, can't you download the pictures yourself?
DP: I don't know how to do it, it's your camera
Me: trying not to sound like I'm explaining it to DSS aged 5 where do you think you might start?
DP: I don't know
Me: well why do you think you might need?
DP: a cable??????
Me: see so you do know what to do
DP: what do I do with the cable
Me: pulling out hair is has two different ends, do you think you can work out which goes in the PCI and which goes in the camera.. Etc etc
Basically he couldn't be bothered to think about how to do it and look for the cable etc. it's easier to ask me. This makes him sounds really lazy and he's not really, I'm not sure women tend to act in the same way. It's like if I ask him to pick up dinner on the way home he'll ask what to buy, whatever you want to eat is my answer, which could mean he'll buy meat and forget about salad/veg. Come to think of it, I don't really know how he copes at work!

Yes sparkling, special offer it lidl for 85p each :) i have a budget of roughly £2 pp/pn