to think I must be abnormal?

[namechangeraug14]

This really upsets me. Try not to be too harsh.

I joined Mumsnet ages ago, as I read a friends link on Facebook, and have posted in bereavement and telly addicts mainly ... But I am not a Mum. I'm 34 and I've never had a boyfriend. Never.

I don't understand why I'm not ugly, I have a good job, my own home, lots of friends, interests ... but have never had any male interest (including online dating when I've tried that.)

Of course the result is that single has sort of become my 'norm'. You know how some people can't cope when they aren't in a relationship; I am sort of the opposite!

And yet I do get lonely and I do desperately want children and it really upsets me that this might never happen.

Does anybody know someone like me?

HalfEaten because your half-arsed attempts at amateur psychology are laughable. NOT wanting children is no more selfish than WANTING children. Indeed, some people (but not me) would say that with the state of the world, bringing yet more children is harmful to the future of the planet and endangering the future of those children and therefore even MORE selfish (David Attenborough, for one).

As I work for a charity, do voluntary work for another, help support my goddaughter and generally give a lot of my time to other people and helping run a couple of my social clubs. I'm quite happy if that's considered selfish.

NotNewButNameChanged, I just want to say I think you're talking a lot of sense.

(and I'm laughing at the idea that not having children is selfish. FFS.).

see, you dont even need to argue your point, sometimes people just out themselves as nutbags :)

OP you can now safely discredit anything thats been posted by this poster:)