To think this wasn't offensive?

[CasioBlues]

I work in an office, and after meetings, there are often spare sandwiches that are offered around.

I work in one group. A group of people of a similar level, all friends, were talking today and someone mentioned these sandwiches were brought to their group by a female member of staff, and also friend. A friend in another group mentioned sandwiches also came around to their group by a female member of staff.

A male friend in my group quipped about the member of staff who brings them around "what a slag!". A few of us laughed, one friend found it really offensive.

I think among friends, it was obviously a joke on the "promiscuity" of sandwiches, but I'm prepared to admit I was wrong to think it wasn't offensive. It wasn't very professional, but among friends?

WTF?

"The promiscuity of sandwiches?"

Unless you're all very close friends and know each others sense of humour I think this was a very stupid poorly judged comment in a professional situation. And I do politically incorrect banter with friends all the time.

So a male friend clearly calls a female a slag, you laugh, don't think it's offensive and try to imply he's talking about sandwiches?

I hate that word totally inappropriate in a work environment YABU

It was among close friends ... i.e. a female friend offers sandwiches to group A and group B

I wouldn't have found it funny nor would I have been particularly offended.

was the member of staff he was referring to present at the time?

Good job she wasn't offering round left over cream buns then or she would of been a whore?

YANBU!

As someone who's known as "the desk tart" at work I don't find this offensive but it very much depends on how it was said and if the person it was said about would take offense.

no, the female friend wasn't present

So then he clearly wasn't talking about the sandwiches.

Please elaborate on that will you... I'm still not quite clear what you mean by the 'promiscuity of sandwiches'

It was clearly about the female member of staff bringing sandwiches to both group A and B if that helps

I can't imagine any work situation where calling a colleague a slag is appropriate.

So it wasn't about the sandwiches (no surprise there ) Why did you say it was? Why did you laugh?

YAB extremely surreal

It was clearly about the sandwiches, without a shadow of a doubt

Inappropriate imo

He was calling her a 'sandwich slag' because she brings them out and offers them round. I think that's quite funny, especially as she's a friend of everyone.

OP please make up you mind??

It was clearly about the female member of staff bringing sandwiches, or it was clearly about the sandwiches? It can't be both.

Imagine after a meeting there are spare sandwiches - someone goes and offers them to the HR team and then the finance team. Upon hearing that the HR team also get sandwiches, a friend in the finance team said "what a slag" - not a very professional word, but among friends, with the context?

I can't imagine any situation where calling someone a slag is appropriate. It would certainly be open to being reported and the person who said it being on a disciplinary charge in most workplaces, I would have thought