to stay with a man who hates fat women?

[grips]

just that really. i have a partner and he is very vocal about his disgust for overweight people and women in particular. he says that hes sure they are nice people but he cant help but judge them for being overweight. i always pull him up on it but it really bothers me.

Leave the bastard. Make sure you put a copy of 'Shallow Hal' on the table as you leave.

Why is he more venomous about the women in particular?

Does he actually hate them or does he just judge them?

There's a big difference

Why women in particular?

He sounds pretty shallow. I'd always worry with a man like that - what would happen if your appearance changed in any other way due to illness or accident?

Or pregnancy, AKiss.

Am rubbish at advice OP. He sounds like a Prima facie bleeper - but you may need to provide more info. x

he says if i put on weight he wouldnt be attracted to me anymore but hed always want to be friends hate is the wrong word. he is very judgemental indeed

He's compensating for some insecurity. Does he come from a fat family, was he a fat kid?

Is he just a rude wanker?

If he is showing more vitriol towards the women in particular then he is a mysogynist.
What will he be like if you put on weight due to pregnancy illness or medication.
Id be out of there like spit through a trumpet or he would!

Why is it that he hates fat WOMEN? Are fat blokes OK? What if he breaks a leg and gains 3 stone through lack of exercise? What if you decide to eat cake for a year because you want to? I assume he is a greek god with a cock the size of an aubergine?

he says if i put on weight he wouldnt be attracted to me anymore but hed always want to be friends hate is the wrong word. he is very judgemental indeed

So hes a patronizing cunt as well!

Oh he's giving you a warning, how ummm, kind of him.

"he says if i put on weight he wouldnt be attracted to me anymore but hed always want to be friends" Um...so what happens if you ever find out you're pregnant?? Seriously, why would you want to be with someone like this when there's so many lovely men out there?

Tell him that you have been kind and supportive given that his cock is the size of a button mushroom in a freezer and his face looks like he has come out of the wrong end of a fight with a bacon crusted frying pan but sadly your moving on.

FFS, we all have 'tastes' if he doesn't like fat birds then he doesn't like them-are you one, is that the issue???

I am very shallow & don't do skinny or fat (think rugby player, Mmmmmm) or ugly, does that make me a twat? maybe so but I don't give a fuck-well not to the skinny, fat or ugly ones anyway

DH saying something like that (which he wouldn't) would prompt me to reach for the Doritos so I could sit there chomping on them whilst staring at him - just so he knew what I thought.

God. Bloody men with their agendas designed to keep wimmin on their toes

Sounds like a horrible judgemental idiot if you ask me!!

Barred why be such a cunt?

'fat birds' Barred? Is that anything to do with the game angry birds?

YABU

BarredfromhavingStella - Why not have another Stella and say hello to Madame Palm and her 5 beautiful daughters?

Good question squoosh.

Nicely phrased.

This attitude from men is just another way of keeping women in their place.

he doesnt come from a fat family. he is athletic build and works out often. he just doesnt undertsand why people do it to themselves. he thinks they should stay out of the fridge and he is very vocal about this. we had dinner out last night and the waitress came over and took our order. she was overweight. this registered with me only because i just knew he would say something and when she walked away i looked at him and he laughed and said ' im saying nothing because nothing needs to be said ' and laughed.

he dislikes fat men too and judges them as well