to stay with a man who hates fat women?

[grips]

just that really. i have a partner and he is very vocal about his disgust for overweight people and women in particular. he says that hes sure they are nice people but he cant help but judge them for being overweight. i always pull him up on it but it really bothers me.

My XH was like this and I am sure that when I got fat thats why he started hating me. The thing was he never stopped to ask himself why I was stuffing my face.

I remember saying to him if your addictions (cigs and drink) showed on the outside the way mine does maybe you would be more understanding

Maybe some people privately prefer a slim partner which is allowed but speaking about it in the nasty way ? Not nice

Out of interest OP does he slate other drivers, female sports commentators, effeminate men or ever refer to whole swathes of people as low life ?

And I think the second poster mentioned a film called Shallow Hal which I saw recently and it reminded me what a XH was

I like a belly on aman. Not massive but cuddly mmm

I've long pondered the phenomenon of a man who can't see a woman he finds unattractive (usually because of weight or age, or both) without feeling revolted and commenting on it. Concluded that these guys seem to think that women exist exclusively to delight them (rather than having, say, any instrinsic value as human beings). So what happens if they see one they wouldn't want to fuck is a) they find it hurtful to their delicate egos - surely anyone not tempting to their manly cock should just wither and die out of politeness? what are these unattractive women still DOING here? and b) they can't help but imagine sex with every woman they see and in this case it's an unpleasant thought.

Neither is great, really, in addition to the points that everyone else has made.

What he's doing is warning you to watch yourself. That's not nice is it?

How are you feeling?

How are you OP?

This is SO not just about size.
To me, the OP's partner sounds like the sort of person I'd not even be prepared to share a drink with in the pub. Those few comments you've mentioned would, alone, mean I'd not pass the time of day with him. It's the tip of a very unpleasant iceberg, if you ask me.

Get rid.

'he just doesnt undertsand why people do it to themselves. '

He needs educating... many do NOT do it to themselves... have medical conditions/on steroids etc. I could never be married to that kinda bloke.

He needs to catch a grip!

And if he's so critical and judgemental on this issue, you can bet your bottom dollar he'll be so on other issues too.

Well, if you stay with him and end up getting pregnant and having children, be prepared to spend the rest of your life with him telling you how disgusting you are. All women put on weight while pregnant; few return exactly to their pre-pregnancy shape and size.

And if you put on weight you could be friends? This is a man not willing to commit to one person for the rest of their lives, he is happy as long as his exacting standards are met. If you want to stay with him, best make sure you stay exactly as you are for the rest of your life.