to stay with a man who hates fat women?

[grips]

just that really. i have a partner and he is very vocal about his disgust for overweight people and women in particular. he says that hes sure they are nice people but he cant help but judge them for being overweight. i always pull him up on it but it really bothers me.

he is not at all insecure though? very confident in himself no self esteem issues

grips if you date someone like this you would be constantly worrying about every morsel you are eating and worying about it constantly.
The biggest gift he will probably give any girlfriend is an eating disorder and the biggest gift you can give to yourself is to ditch this tosser.

grips I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here and 'trusting' that you haven't just name changed/newly registered to stir up a 'fat bashing' thread....

Have you been together long? Do you have children together?

Do you really want to have a relationship with someone so shallow?

What if you got run over by a car tomorrow and ended up in a wheelchair?

Do you think he'd still 'love' you?

I know the answer to that and I don't even know you or your 'D'P......

Lol, know Ryan Gosling well then do you?

grips - this "man" liked you enough for you to get to this point. You are either thin/slim/curvy/fat enough for him in the first place. So it is now up to YOU to decide if you want to spend your time worrying about having a slice of cake or a sixth glass of wine. As I said up thread, he must be a burning hunk of man with at least a 8 inch nob, otherwise, he is just a 6 foot nob....

But would you treat someone you'd just met differently because they were overweight Barred?

Would you slag them off behind your hand as they walked away?

Or would you shout abuse at them walking down the street - weelll...they've done it to themselves haven't they, they deserve telling.

of course ive name changed!

no children and together a year but we dont live together. we get on really well and never argue although i constantly pull him up over this issue.

Barred no-one is saying you have to fancy fat people.

What I am saying though, is that to harp on about them at every opportunity would show you to be lacking in manners and consideration, and therefore not an attractive prospect as a partner.

Barred i dont mind people expressing it on an internet thread. Its when people like the OPS boyfriend vocalise it in a reastaurant or shout it out when i walk past a pub that i object.
ANd it fucking says it all when a 19 year old lad can be more polite than a 41 year old supposedly grown "man" And i use the word "man" in its loosest term obviously.

Yep that's me but at least I can say I'm honest-like I said previously we all have preferences it's just that some are classed as ok & others discriminatory on here-we all know what we do & don't like it's just if you can have the balls to say what these preferences are & if you can't then don't judge someone who can.....

(worra fancies james corden)

(and possibly Brian Blessed too)

Barred you dont shout stuff out in the street surely.

grips he DOESN'T love you.

"he says if i put on weight he wouldnt be attracted to me anymore but hed always want to be friends"

Stay with him or don't

Buy make sure you factor in the fact he doesn't love you when making up your mind.

I think you should put on 4 stone to piss him off.
Then slim down to a size 6 when he dumps you, just to piss him off even more.

Loads of people
On here are like that lol

he certainly wouldnt shout anything at anyone in the street! this is just stuff he vocalises to me. a lot!

James Corden is gorgeous.
Not sure about Brian Blessed though

I put on a lot of weight cos I was on steroids for my asthma an my fiance left me. Nuff said.

Barred are you not getting that it's not about preference in fancying someone initially...but that it's about telling someone you claim to love that if they ever became fat in the future, you would no longer love them?

I can't think of any fat man I fancy or have ever fancied...that (as you rightly say) is personal preference

But if you're already in a relationship with someone you claim to love, and you then tell them you'd just want to be friends if they gained weight...that's totally different.

Can you see that?

Ooh Brian Blessed as that flying dragon fly thing in Flash Gordon.