to stay with a man who hates fat women?

[grips]

just that really. i have a partner and he is very vocal about his disgust for overweight people and women in particular. he says that hes sure they are nice people but he cant help but judge them for being overweight. i always pull him up on it but it really bothers me.

LOL at Angry Birds I'd be that big fat blobby robin!

'Madame Palm and her 5 beautiful daughters'

I've just been looking at the League of Gents thread, love it

im not fat. im a normal weight

AgentZigZag - I was hoping to pass that off as my own!

LOL... Pam and her sisters!

Sounds like a real charmer. Lets hope you never put on weight eh.

I left an ex for precisely that. I put on weight, he didn't like it. (He was also overweight, bizarrely). He's tried to get me to take him back ever since, but it was too late. I really didn't like that part of his character.

grips - Take him outside, point out the kerb, then kick him towards it.

Why do you have such a problem with honesty? I stated I am very shallow & made it pretty clear I don't give a fuck-why be such a cunt? maybe because I am warm & quite deep lol.

he fully admits he is very shallow. he often tells me i look nice, am pretty and that he likes how i look etc.

but he constantly passes judgement on overweight people and those that he considers unattractive. he says he has high standards and is fussy. maybe i should be flattered huh?

It's one thing to not find fat people attractive (I don't particularly) when you're describing your taste in a possible partner.

However, it's quite another thing to tell the person you profess to love that if they ever became fat, you would just want to be friends.

If that's how he truly feels then he doesn't love you I'm afraid.

I love my DH to the ends of the earth and if he became fat/bald/disfigured or just whatever...I most certainly wouldn't stop loving him.

If he suddenly started overeating and stopped exercising, I would however be very worried about what he's doing to himself and why.

He'd be the same with me...not because of 'looks' alone but because we love each other enough to care about our health.

thyme

We'll, I don't know, if my DP were injured or had to go on medication and he put on weight, i would try not to let it affect my perception of him, but if he simply stopped exercising and started eating loads, I would definitely go off him.

It's not necessarily shallow not to fancy someone for being fat: it depends on they're fat.

Perhaps when he drags himself up covered in last nights kebab leavings he can take BarredfromStella out for a pint?

Im currently a size 18 and 39 years old and recently got chatted up by a 19 year old lad (and this wasnt for a bet Barred this was in a shop not a nightclub) Not all men are shallow OP how old is this "man"

(Don't listen to Worra she is always sensible )

I don't know what to say to you OP, except that I would be totally turned off by a fella who felt compelled to comment on and judge other folks so detrimentally.

I would be equally revolted if a bloke looked down on people's clothes and made comments, or their hairstyles or whatever....I would consider him very shallow and not good enough for my affection.

It's fine to have tastes and preferences. We all do. It is not fine to vocalise them frequently as though his opinion is the be all and end all, and he has every right to be insulting and rude about people he does not know.

Other people's weight is none of his business and he should keep his thoughts to himself. Nasty bastard.

I couldn't be with someone whose idea of a sense of humour was to poke fun and snigger at an overweight waitress. He sounds a bit dim.

carer he is 41 and yes, he is good looking

i really dont like this side to his personality

Thyme Worra has collapsed in a drunken coma...this is her Jack Russell typing on her behalf

Pity the waitress didnt overhear him so that he could have ended up with some interesting ingredients in his dinner.

41 works out a lot Hates fat people especially women. Hes a mysogynist going through a mid life crisis. Bin.

Sorry Thyme

I thought a bunfight had kicked off on the Gents thread it'd got so long, so I was pleased to see the friendly 'hello daves' and lots of love for them.

BTW couldn't give a fuck about what size any of you are-I'm saying fat is not for me-it is my 'shallow' preference, if you are happy good for you but why have a problem with people who are honest enough to say that it is not something they find attractive-perhaps you'd rather I be a two faced twat??

Jack Russells are known to be fattist. Little bastards.

Honestly, it's an insecurity. Why would someone feel the need to put people down all the time if only in a pathetic attempt to build their own self esteem.

Ryan Gosling wouldn't do this to you.