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to just be a bit shocked by what I found on our computer today?

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MrsJangleBalls · 29/12/2011 22:34

Disclaimer - I was not bloody snooping!

Well only a little bit. Long story but bear with me...

I am currently trying to download iCloud. It says to go to Networks and Sharing. Well it wasn't there, but access to my dh's files was. His pictures file. Now I know he collects pictures of nude wimmin because I've seen him looking at them before. So I thought I'd take a peek at the kind of thing he was looking at. It was pretty harmless, just lots of posed pictures of naked women, etc. That wasn't what shocked me.

There were over 13,000 pictures.

It was like a fucking library. There were folders, sub-folders, categories, sub-categories, different fetishes, a whole folder full of folders of different women with hundreds of pictures of them in each one (and each one was named!) not to mention folders of lingerie, etc.

Now I know I probably got what I deserved, but 13,000? That's bloody years of collecting it. There's no way I'm going to tell him I've seen it. I didn't touch it, just looked through it. He obviously doesn't know I can find it.

I feel like I ought to be impressed at the sheer scale of it. I'm tempted to move it and wait for him to start asking panicky questions about whether the computer has gone wrong or not.

OP posts:
GypsyMoth · 29/12/2011 22:36

Oh my god!

I could NOT be in a relationship like that!

EauDeLaPoisson · 29/12/2011 22:36

Nice

TooEasilyTempted · 29/12/2011 22:36

Are they professional pics that he's found on the Internet or home-made pics that women have sent him?

Wow, that's a lot of pictures.

VivaLeBeaver · 29/12/2011 22:37

He must spend an awful lot of time cataloguing it all, never mind the wan king time involved.

CurlyJims · 29/12/2011 22:37

I'd delete it and pretend to nit know anything about it 8-) do your kids use the computer...?!

AgentZigzag · 29/12/2011 22:38

That many sounds like he's a distributer of them or something.

I don't know how these things work, but why else would you have so many?

RandomMess · 29/12/2011 22:39

urgh

GypsyMoth · 29/12/2011 22:40

Which folder/category/sub folder would YOU fit in op? Dies he have 'you'?

TeamSledward · 29/12/2011 22:41

Whoa!

...and I thought my collection of Robert Pattinson pictures was large!

HarrietSchulenberg · 29/12/2011 22:42

Well, I suppose we could applaud his clear and unswerving dedication to his chosen hobby. You're right, that collection must have taken years to amass, never mind catalogue and name. What exactly did he name them?

I think I'd actually be more worried by the sheer nerdiness of it rather than the naked ladies bit.

Perhaps you could encourage him to forego this hobby and collect pottery pigs or something instead?

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 29/12/2011 22:44

With the number of photos, I guess it's like anything else if you search a name you will get loads of photos of that person and it takes seconds to save them, I can't see this being any different?!

I would be less than impressed at the dedication all the folders and crap have taken to set up...

I'm not anti porn, but all this cataloguing etc is just a step too far for my liking.

I'd move it and wait for the terror to set in Grin

spanna41 · 29/12/2011 22:44

Posed pictures of naked women - what do you mean. Topless? worse? what is tasteful - certainly not 13000 of them! Run now! Did he want you to find them?

AbbyAbsinthe · 29/12/2011 22:46

Well, at least you can say he's efficient Grin

AbbyAbsinthe · 29/12/2011 22:47

And yes, move them onto a memory stick or something. He'll shit himself Grin

MrsJangleBalls · 29/12/2011 22:47

I don't think I'm in there but I haven't had time to look at all of them yet! Xmas Grin

I'm quite amazed at the nerdyness. I reckon he's been doing it for years. And years. I've often walked in on him quickly closing a screen which obviously had a naked woman on it. Once he even closed the wrong screen and left the naked woman smiling broadly out at us. I just laughed at him. He wasn't that embarrassed but nothing much fazes him.

As far as I can see though they are all staged photos. If I find any real life women in there there's going to be trouble.

Who thinks I should hide them and watch him panic?

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AgentZigzag · 29/12/2011 22:47

'Run now!'

End her marriage because she's found pictures of naked women on her husbands computer??

Is your advice for before or after she's asked him WTF's going on?

AgentZigzag · 29/12/2011 22:50

Hiding them would not be a very nice thing to do at all.

But I'd do it in a shot Grin

SucksToBeMe · 29/12/2011 22:52

Op, you sound very likable! Wish I could approach all the issues in my life with your chipper/glass half full kinda attitude!

EauDeLaPoisson · 29/12/2011 22:52

I dont think i'd be at all comfortable being in a relationship with someone so obsessed with looking at naked women tbh, it just seems to show a certain lack of respect

spanna41 · 29/12/2011 22:54

Agent 13000 photos and it's ok because they're 'posed' photos as opposed to - what? none posed? it's all porn - I hope the women made something from it. Mrs Jangles - I wish you all the best - could you be in there?
Hide them and watch him panic - ???

OneLieIn · 29/12/2011 22:54

Go on. Put them on an external hard drive and see what he does.

Ps your computer must be buggered

Methe · 29/12/2011 22:55

Oh come on!! Run now? Leave him?

Seriously?

susiedaisy · 29/12/2011 22:57

If it was 13,000 pictures of trains or vintage cars I'd laugh at the nerdyness of it,but naked womenHmmConfused not sure what my reaction would be tbh!

skybluepearl · 29/12/2011 22:58

seems one large step too far.

GypsyMoth · 29/12/2011 22:58

Hide them.... Leave a solitary naked pic of you. Just one!

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