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AIBU to wonder why you guys despise people like me?

511 replies

theprodigaldaughter · 24/11/2011 11:47

I guess this is not so much an AIBU thread but more of a question why? I wasn't sure where to post it.

After observing this website for a few months I would like to ask you ladies a question.

Why do you despise people like me?

I suppose for starters I had better explain myself. My cards are on the table. I am in my 40's. I have a couple of kids. My husband has a very good job as did I until I gave it up a couple of years ago to raise my kids. We have financial security, we own a nice house and car and have a nice holiday every year. My kids go to private school. Without going into too much detail, he pays 40% tax, and a little bit at 50%. He is not a banker.

Prior to the flames that I envisage following the above, I'd also like to explain our backgrounds. Both myself and my husband come from a rough northern town. We went to poorly funded state schools which were really rough. We both left with very little. We then went to college and did a lot better and both then went to Uni. We left heavily in debt and got jobs at the time earning under 10K a year each. We both carried on studying and gaining post grad qualifications. We got married, moved and worked in the city of london, then moved abroad where we both worked 70 hours/ 6 days a week until I was 36, when we had our kids. We saved everything we could for our future.

Now I am back in the UK I find that we are despised for having a bit of money, our own house, a nice car and sending our kids to an independent school. According to the threads on this website we should pay more tax, donate any spare cash we have to schools for other peoples kids and basically give up the air we breathe for others benefit. Apparently we are a parasite on society and ungodly because someone else has less than us.

I am genuinely interested to know WHY someone who has dragged themselves out of the mud to better themselves is hated by our society. It seems that no one wants anyone to have anything, but is not prepared to work for it themselves. After reading the above, I ask a lot of you -what have you done to better yourselves? Have you moved away and made sacrifices? Have you constantly strived to improve your life? If the answer is no, then you cannot begrudge what we have.

I am all for helping those in need who are incapable of helping themselves. They should be our priority. But I begrudge a penny of my taxes going to anyone who had the same start in life as I did, but has done nothing to better themselves.

Rant over...sorry it is so long. It's just that the people on this site are making my blood boil.

OP posts:
Thingumy · 24/11/2011 11:48

Do you shop in asda?

GypsyMoth · 24/11/2011 11:48

Despised? Get a grip..

skirt · 24/11/2011 11:49

I don't despise you but I think you are attention seeking a bit.

BluddyMoFo · 24/11/2011 11:50

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GypsyMoth · 24/11/2011 11:50

And what business is it of yours if 'we' have bettered ourselves

Bit of a boast by stealth isn't it? Get over yourself and get stuck into a thread or two

whatstheetiquette · 24/11/2011 11:50

It's simple jealousy and you should just forget about it.

Merrylegs · 24/11/2011 11:50

40s

GypsyMoth · 24/11/2011 11:51

And why are you labelling northern towns as 'mud'??

Piffpaffpoff · 24/11/2011 11:51

I am in a similar position to you and don't feel that people despise me.

FannyFifer · 24/11/2011 11:52

This is going to go well!Hmm
To be honest no one really cares what others have unless they brag about it and well you sound a bit of a knob.Bear

porcamiseria · 24/11/2011 11:52

SHUT UP!!!! I dont despise you, well after this stupid thread maybe I do

and why do you even give a shit about what people you dont know, on a some website think anyway

and have you not realised that every fucker is despised anyway?

SAHMs, formula feeders, working mums, PFBs, benefits, the aged (espceically those in council houses), most men!!!!!

noone is exempt

Kayano · 24/11/2011 11:52

What? Hmm

Who hates you? I can't say I get that anyone would hate you!

Envyjealous maybe

theprodigaldaughter · 24/11/2011 11:52

OK then, maybe I should say people like "us". I am really not that interested in myself. I am just amazed at the vile responses I see on this website to people who are trying to better themselves. It seems that a lot of people won't be happy until we are all on benefits and equally have nothing. It's a UK thing, I've never seen it anywhere else.

OP posts:
Nagoo · 24/11/2011 11:52

[[http://www.wellesley.edu/Psychology/Cheek/hsns_text.html HTH]

Dawndonna · 24/11/2011 11:52

Why on earth do you expect anyone here to justify their existence to you?

Kayano · 24/11/2011 11:53

I am also from a northern town and I love it

Nagoo · 24/11/2011 11:53

fuck.

HTH

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ExquisiteCake · 24/11/2011 11:53

Gosh, you'll discover quickly the level of envy on this site and a million benefit apologists. Ruse above it, you seem to have for most of your life Smile

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/11/2011 11:53

What skirt said. Attention-seeking.

Kayano · 24/11/2011 11:53

What the hall kid of threads have you been reading recently?

Apricots · 24/11/2011 11:53

Omg get a life! Personally I couldn't give two shits about your husband or you and to despise "people like you" would imply that I cared and quite frankly I don't

OldGreyWassailTest · 24/11/2011 11:53

A little envious, perhaps........but I don't despise you.

TheRealTillyMinto · 24/11/2011 11:54

OP i largely agree with you. but i think that makes 2 of us.

NinkyNonker · 24/11/2011 11:54

No-one hates you, how odd. You are fairly normal in my 'circles', however I would tire of your attitude after a while so perhaps that doesn't help you?

gypsycat · 24/11/2011 11:54

Do you often feel the need to brag about what you have and what you've accomplished? Cause that might explain why people don't like you.