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AIBU to wonder why you guys despise people like me?

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theprodigaldaughter · 24/11/2011 11:47

I guess this is not so much an AIBU thread but more of a question why? I wasn't sure where to post it.

After observing this website for a few months I would like to ask you ladies a question.

Why do you despise people like me?

I suppose for starters I had better explain myself. My cards are on the table. I am in my 40's. I have a couple of kids. My husband has a very good job as did I until I gave it up a couple of years ago to raise my kids. We have financial security, we own a nice house and car and have a nice holiday every year. My kids go to private school. Without going into too much detail, he pays 40% tax, and a little bit at 50%. He is not a banker.

Prior to the flames that I envisage following the above, I'd also like to explain our backgrounds. Both myself and my husband come from a rough northern town. We went to poorly funded state schools which were really rough. We both left with very little. We then went to college and did a lot better and both then went to Uni. We left heavily in debt and got jobs at the time earning under 10K a year each. We both carried on studying and gaining post grad qualifications. We got married, moved and worked in the city of london, then moved abroad where we both worked 70 hours/ 6 days a week until I was 36, when we had our kids. We saved everything we could for our future.

Now I am back in the UK I find that we are despised for having a bit of money, our own house, a nice car and sending our kids to an independent school. According to the threads on this website we should pay more tax, donate any spare cash we have to schools for other peoples kids and basically give up the air we breathe for others benefit. Apparently we are a parasite on society and ungodly because someone else has less than us.

I am genuinely interested to know WHY someone who has dragged themselves out of the mud to better themselves is hated by our society. It seems that no one wants anyone to have anything, but is not prepared to work for it themselves. After reading the above, I ask a lot of you -what have you done to better yourselves? Have you moved away and made sacrifices? Have you constantly strived to improve your life? If the answer is no, then you cannot begrudge what we have.

I am all for helping those in need who are incapable of helping themselves. They should be our priority. But I begrudge a penny of my taxes going to anyone who had the same start in life as I did, but has done nothing to better themselves.

Rant over...sorry it is so long. It's just that the people on this site are making my blood boil.

OP posts:
scottishmummy · 25/11/2011 17:54

many on mn came from school of hard knocks
lots of us scheme weans here
what do you seek a round of applause?just be grateful for what you have and dont seek or expect external approbation- it wont be forthcoming

FellatioNelson · 25/11/2011 18:15

Good post OTHM.

garlicnutter · 25/11/2011 18:28

Good post, duchesse.

duchesse · 25/11/2011 18:31

Link to the programme here.

MrsHarryPearce · 25/11/2011 20:05

New money. Always the worst. Don't suppose you can lend us a couple of quid? Give you something else to be full of your own importance over.

fuzzynavel · 25/11/2011 20:24

Oh dear OP, what have you been saying in threads? Please don't take a forum on a computer so literally. No one really hates anyone. I lock horns with many (depends on views) but find I agree on other issues.

Well done you for getting where you are. I'm a working class single mum and I really haven't found the site awful. You get twats everywhere.

Grin
my2centsis · 26/11/2011 08:55

wow i have never read anything to self obsessed
before reading your OP i would of thought well done to you both....
After reading your op.... get a grip, the world doesn't envy you because you have a nice house and car! so do a billion other people, FGS i think you just came on here to act like a 5year old child screaming look what i have.
Rediculous

my2centsis · 26/11/2011 08:55

wow i have never read anything to self obsessed
before reading your OP i would of thought well done to you both....
After reading your op.... get a grip, the world doesn't envy you because you have a nice house and car! so do a billion other people, FGS i think you just came on here to act like a 5year old child screaming look what i have.
Rediculous

BelleDameSansMerci · 26/11/2011 09:03

How did I miss this thread? It's got everything! Grin

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 26/11/2011 09:05

Belle Grin

That is all.

sue52 · 26/11/2011 09:18

I don't understand the northern mud reference, there's a Harvey Nicks north of Saint Albans these days. How did you manage to get heavily in debt at university when you would have been on a full grant?

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