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Original poster

To be hugely pissed of with my radical feminist friend.

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NambaJam · 17/10/2011 14:57

She was at my house this morning and felt it her place to lecture me that because I am married I am in servitude. (WTF!) And another lecture that allowing my husband to have PIV sex with me was tanatamount to him sexualy assaulting me on a regular basis.

Now I can utterly accept her not wanting to have PIV sex. But who the fuck is she to tell me I damn well shouldnt? She then banged on that it was abusive due to the risk of unwanted pregnancy. (DH has had the snip, so no risk) I happen to like being penetrated and will happily penetrate myself for enjoyment.
Sex for me is a very varied thing and involves many things.

I know that some feminists have strong views on marriage, but again its my life and MY choice. And I certainly dont live in any kind of bloody servitude.

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ScaredBear · 17/10/2011 14:58

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PetisaPumpkinHead · 17/10/2011 14:59

What's PIV sex?

needanewname · 17/10/2011 14:59

What is piv?

needanewname · 17/10/2011 15:00

Glad it's not just me!

Original poster
NambaJam · 17/10/2011 15:01

PIV = Penis in vagina.

Sorry should have said in post :)

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iMemoo · 17/10/2011 15:01

Penis in vagina?

cakeoclock · 17/10/2011 15:01

PIV? Penis in vag? She sounds like an idiot. Ignore her and let her know you will be enjoying a bit of PIV tonight just to annoy her.

ScaredBear · 17/10/2011 15:01

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Booooooyhoo · 17/10/2011 15:02

penetrative something vaginal?

Hammy02 · 17/10/2011 15:02

All I can picture is the character 'Millie Tant' from Viz.

AKissIsNotAContract · 17/10/2011 15:03

Tell her you do PIBUM too

TheVermiciousKnid · 17/10/2011 15:03

[hhmm]

ElsieOops · 17/10/2011 15:03

YABVU to be pissed off - you should have just rolled on the floor laughing at her being ridiculous... assuming this actually happened.

ThePumpkinKing · 17/10/2011 15:03

I don't know ScaredBear , PITA maybe Grin

Booooooyhoo · 17/10/2011 15:03

xpost.

isn't penis in vagina sex the whole reason the human race exists? does she know how she was made?

manicbmc · 17/10/2011 15:03

Isn't the whole point in feminism that we have the choice? It is our choice to do what makes us happy and if that happens to make a man happy too, then great.

Your friend sounds like a misery. If she can't accept a fellow woman's choices then she can hardly call herself a feminist.

WhollyGhost · 17/10/2011 15:05

[[hhmm] here too

troisgarcons · 17/10/2011 15:05

PIV? This is a problem? Have I been doing it all wrong? Where is the P supposed to go if not in the V?

"wanders off bemused and about to burst into hysterical laughter"

Putrifyno · 17/10/2011 15:06
Original poster
NambaJam · 17/10/2011 15:06

ScaredBear :) oh the many options! Sex to me dosent need me to have DH penetrate me. But its nice when he does :)

Fingers, lips, tounge, hands, and just about anything else our warped minds can come up with all count as sex to me

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iggi999 · 17/10/2011 15:06

It's mot her feminist views that are at fault here surely, but her rudeness at commenting on your life without invitation.
Eg as a vegetarian, I think my friends are wrong to eat meat but as I have some manners and respect others' pov, I would not come round to your house and tell you this!

Georgimama · 17/10/2011 15:06

Where is the P supposed to go if not in the V?

armpit, perhaps.

PetisaPumpkinHead · 17/10/2011 15:06

Grin at "Where is the P supposed to go if not in the V?"

omnishambles · 17/10/2011 15:08

2 out of 10

RubyLovesMayMay · 17/10/2011 15:08

Love, your friend is not a radical feminist...she's a loon