to want to knock this little fuckwit's head off

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Boy on our street, 5 years old. KEEPS hittin, swearing at and spitting on my 3 year old ds. He's then lied to his parents about his behaviour and they have taken his side. Even though they know he's a little horrible fuckwit.

I've been out, spoken to him many times, spoken to the parents, banned him from my garden (then lifted the ban when he apologised, then banned him again for further fuckwit behaviour)
He's the youngest of 4 kids aged 5 - 9years in a workless household, parents never do a thing with the kids, just spend the benefit money on fags and takeaways as far as I can see. They just seem resigned to his behaviour whenever I've complained, and say "I know, I know..."

Latest problem, my dcs, aged 10, 8 and 3 playing on the front, this kid yday shouted "fuck off" on my 3 y o's face. My 10yo dd said "don't say that" and she got the finger. I went out and asked him if he wanted to be friends with my children, why is he swearing, why won't he answer when I'm speaking to him.... I got an insolent glare to everything I said, so I just sent him home. Dad comes out accusing me of shouting at his kid, blah blah blah (I didn't, I'd bloody well admit it if I did) and tells me I should get off my arse, shouldn't be sat inside all day, should be out watching my kids!! I GO TO WORK ALL DAY!!!!!!! TRY IT!

Anyway, I was so mad, I banned my kids from playing with the fuckwit, but today they were playing out - not with the boy - and the boy has grabbed my 3 y o's leg out from under him as he was walking past (there is a large green area outside the house where they play) and hurt his head. He then went straight home before I was summoned.

I just feel so fucking IMPOTENT that I can't go out there and grab this little fucking reprobate by the scuff of his neck and tell him the next time he touches my dc, I'll fucking rip his fucking head off!
AIBU? And more to the point, WHAT CAN I DO???
The parents just don't give a damn.

Oh dear.

I think you all sound like a bunch of screaming Jeremy Kyle fodder to be honest.

Very rational way to talk about a child...

eek

Well thanks for that immediate and damning judgement, wwyd if a kid kept hitting YOUR dc and the parents would do nothing about it?!

marks place......

Your 3 year old should not be out under the care of his older brother and sister.

No buts. No ifs. It's not on. Three is practically a baby...your street sounds rough and if he's not big enough to fight his own corner then dont let him out.

Your older kids obviously aren't able to protect him....so that' that.

What can you do?

You keep your children in the garden and if they need to go anywhere else you escort them.

You keep your children away from this child if you don't want them around that behaviour.

You can't control the other child - you can only control yours.

Yes you are angry but calling a five year old a fuckwit is not going to endear you to anyone.

also marks place...

ok, assuming this is serious....
Nothing you can do to change the child's (or the parent's) behaviour. All you can do is remove your child from the situation. That sucks and you shouldn't have to, but there you go. :(

"The parents don't give a damn"

so, why not show him how a good parent should behave towards him? Instead of screaming at him and wanting to "rip his head off", try talking to him calmly. Ditto the parents - particularly if the children are witnessing these encounters.

I understand how frustrating it can be when another child targets your DC, and I understand your need to vent. However, this boy clearly needs some proper guidance and parenting. Perhaps you could be the bigger person here.

Your OP is full of judgement.

If this child is a problem, perhaps you should keep your 3yr old in until you can go out there and supervise.

Do you have a garden?

I think there is very little you can do about this child's behaviour, so you need to make sure your children do not come into contact with him.

i have to say that I think the language you have used to describe the child is awful

I also agree with others who have said that 3 is far too young to be out playing without adult supervision. We live in a lovely village but DS2 (7) isn't allowed to play out without me or DH with him - and certainly wouldn't expect DS1 (11) to be responsible for him.

Goodness, he sounds a bit of rascal.

My street is a lovely quiet area, and we have many nice kids here that are in and out of my garden all day. There is a large green space in front of the houses where ids like to play, and to keep my kids locked in the garden when they want to play out with everyone else isn't fair because of the behaviour of ONE boy. His 3 siblings are very nice kids, who my 3 love to play with. This boy is really the only child anyone has a problem with. I've tried to talk to him, reason with him, punish him(banning from the garden) and talked to the parents, to no avail.

Why don't your older kids look out for the 3-year-old? I'd tell my kids to hit back if they're hit, kicked or pushed over. If your kids are behaving like victims then that's what they'll be. I suspect they only need to fight back once for this little bully to back off as bullies are cowards - they pick on easy prey - that's why this kid is picking on your youngest.

Exactly Littlfish we live in a quiet cul-de-sac and my 7 year old can go out the front of the house...but her 3 year old sister can't. No way. She wouldn't have a clue what to do if a car came along...or a stranger...or a sweary kid who tripped her up....that's because she's three.

Has this kicked off yet?

Have you got a fence and/.or a gate? Keep your kids in the back garden and don't answer the door to the little boy.

Fuckwit is a horrid word isn't it?