to want to knock this little fuckwit's head off

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Boy on our street, 5 years old. KEEPS hittin, swearing at and spitting on my 3 year old ds. He's then lied to his parents about his behaviour and they have taken his side. Even though they know he's a little horrible fuckwit.

I've been out, spoken to him many times, spoken to the parents, banned him from my garden (then lifted the ban when he apologised, then banned him again for further fuckwit behaviour)
He's the youngest of 4 kids aged 5 - 9years in a workless household, parents never do a thing with the kids, just spend the benefit money on fags and takeaways as far as I can see. They just seem resigned to his behaviour whenever I've complained, and say "I know, I know..."

Latest problem, my dcs, aged 10, 8 and 3 playing on the front, this kid yday shouted "fuck off" on my 3 y o's face. My 10yo dd said "don't say that" and she got the finger. I went out and asked him if he wanted to be friends with my children, why is he swearing, why won't he answer when I'm speaking to him.... I got an insolent glare to everything I said, so I just sent him home. Dad comes out accusing me of shouting at his kid, blah blah blah (I didn't, I'd bloody well admit it if I did) and tells me I should get off my arse, shouldn't be sat inside all day, should be out watching my kids!! I GO TO WORK ALL DAY!!!!!!! TRY IT!

Anyway, I was so mad, I banned my kids from playing with the fuckwit, but today they were playing out - not with the boy - and the boy has grabbed my 3 y o's leg out from under him as he was walking past (there is a large green area outside the house where they play) and hurt his head. He then went straight home before I was summoned.

I just feel so fucking IMPOTENT that I can't go out there and grab this little fucking reprobate by the scuff of his neck and tell him the next time he touches my dc, I'll fucking rip his fucking head off!
AIBU? And more to the point, WHAT CAN I DO???
The parents just don't give a damn.

I wouldn't call it "lioness" to let your 3 year old play in the street unsupervised...

quimbledonsemi

GINABRAZ I LOVE YOU, AND I WANT TO HAVE YOUR CHILDREN :O) CAN YOU TELL I'VE
But SHHHHHHHH! Don't tell the others! I couldn't bear the critique!

You're right. Tho I have to say I HAVE TRIED to enage the boy and have shared treats (ice lolly) when my kids have been getting them, and invited him to dd's bday party, and talked to him, and given him positive attention.
I'm guna give it another go.

Equally lionesses are protective not swearing dockers

Doll, you can have it as a gift

ffs

I have taught kids from 3 to 12 for several years and some of those have been little sods. The best way I have found to deal with the bad behaviour is to show what good behaviour is. If I were you, I'd be NICE to him. Take ice cream out to the kids, invite him to play with your son, ask his parents if the son wants to watch a movie but make it clear that your home has rules. If you have to ask him more than 3 times not to do something, send him home and try again tomorrow. Often these kids are stuck in a vicious cycle - bad home -> badly behaved -> expected to behave bad -> badly treated by others -> badly behaved. In 9 out of 10 cases, I have found that giving a kid boundarys, a smile and a chance, they quickly learn to trust themselves and others.

And yet when I called the kid a kid a cunt I can't get flamed for love nor money!

We knew you didn't mean it HTH

but secretly saddened by my transparency. I will go away and work on my stealth, lol .....

Oi bumcakes, I said he's probably nice and that he's given up on trying to get anyone to like him. And that he's acting like a twat which he is. What's up with that?

I was a right twat street rat in my younger days too. I got into so much trouble that I just thought fuck it, might as well have some fun because everyone thinks the worst of me anyway

He's only five. He's not acting like a twat, he's acting like a five year old who hasn't been taught about respect or boundaries. How does a five year old have any concept of not trying because he's too far gone?

Poor me, right? That's what you're all thinking I bet!

Just talking from experience. I remember thinking things like that about seven.

He's 3. He shouldn't be out without an adult.

Woah! Feel a bit shaky TBH - my benign neglect crown just wobbled....

Hes a 5 year old boy ..acting like a twat? are you serious ?

Er yeah, if I saw someone bashing my son I'd think what a twat and then ask questions later. I'm sure the poor kid just needs a bit of love but I'd still be pissed off about him raging about the street.

Maybe your first option should be learning how to express your anger appropraitely and to the right person - instead of labelling DC twats and threatening head removal. Just a thought.

It wouldn't have happened if the 3 yr old hadn't been put in that position

Great thread, so much to respond to.

(1) Shitting in a bin is better than behind a bush.

(2) Quite right, the 5-yo is a scrote, not a fuckwit.

(3) Keeping the 3-yo inside until he's learnt to castrate ferrets with his teeth is the child-rearing that this country needs more of.

No, I'm the one who called him a twat. The one who started the thread called him a fuckwit. Someone else called him a scrote.

To be fair, I think these are all different words expressing the same sentiment

There's benign neglect and then there's just plain old neglect - this thread is talking about the latter.

What's wrong with expecting older bro and sis from looking after younger bro? Happened when I was a kid and we were protective of each other, grew up very close and became pretty responsible people. I don't remember ever feeling annoyed or resentful that I 'had to' keep an eye out for my little brother.

There were loads of kids in our street, some good, some bad, some in between. If the horrid ones were out we kept a closer eye on each other and on them. We would argue and remonstrate with the horrid kids if they misbehaved or hurt any of the smaller ones, and we weren't the only ones. If there was an incident involving a particularly nasty boy, pretty well everyone got involved in telling him how mean he was and then no one would play with him for a few days. Funnily enough, he grew up to become a cop! ( but presumably much improved behaviourwise )