to want to knock this little fuckwit's head off

[knobbysEx]

Boy on our street, 5 years old. KEEPS hittin, swearing at and spitting on my 3 year old ds. He's then lied to his parents about his behaviour and they have taken his side. Even though they know he's a little horrible fuckwit.

I've been out, spoken to him many times, spoken to the parents, banned him from my garden (then lifted the ban when he apologised, then banned him again for further fuckwit behaviour)
He's the youngest of 4 kids aged 5 - 9years in a workless household, parents never do a thing with the kids, just spend the benefit money on fags and takeaways as far as I can see. They just seem resigned to his behaviour whenever I've complained, and say "I know, I know..."

Latest problem, my dcs, aged 10, 8 and 3 playing on the front, this kid yday shouted "fuck off" on my 3 y o's face. My 10yo dd said "don't say that" and she got the finger. I went out and asked him if he wanted to be friends with my children, why is he swearing, why won't he answer when I'm speaking to him.... I got an insolent glare to everything I said, so I just sent him home. Dad comes out accusing me of shouting at his kid, blah blah blah (I didn't, I'd bloody well admit it if I did) and tells me I should get off my arse, shouldn't be sat inside all day, should be out watching my kids!! I GO TO WORK ALL DAY!!!!!!! TRY IT!

Anyway, I was so mad, I banned my kids from playing with the fuckwit, but today they were playing out - not with the boy - and the boy has grabbed my 3 y o's leg out from under him as he was walking past (there is a large green area outside the house where they play) and hurt his head. He then went straight home before I was summoned.

I just feel so fucking IMPOTENT that I can't go out there and grab this little fucking reprobate by the scuff of his neck and tell him the next time he touches my dc, I'll fucking rip his fucking head off!
AIBU? And more to the point, WHAT CAN I DO???
The parents just don't give a damn.

Thanks Norfolk - yummy, not been made to feel welcome on a thread before:)

It's too young kknobby because he can't stick up for himself yet...and his siblings aren't doing it either...and nor should they have to be responsible for him...they're playing.

You're right, OP.

Let's all go round and give him a good kicking.

YANBu to want to do it but are to actually do it.

3 years is far too young to be out without you supervising him. My youngest is 6 and has only just been allowed out with his 7 and 10 year old siblings watching him. I can also see him through the window.

Yeah, give him a good punch right in the gob. That'll sort it all out.

If you have tried everything to no avail then your only option now is to either

1. keep DCs in garden and have friends over to play (or let them go to other friends' houses on proviso that said child is not present); or

1. Only let DCs play out on the street with your supervision. And yes, even though there are lots of other children out playing, your 3 yo is your responsibility and I don't think it is at all reasonable to expect other children to be looking out for him.

The nasty kid is targetinghim BECAUSE he's three....that's the main reason...he knows he's weaker.

Yes ,that will work tethers,lets go and kick a 5 year old boy

That will surely teach him violence is wrong

Why is a 3 year old out on their own without supervision? Even if it's just across from the house.. A 10 and 8 year old are not old enough to be "responsible" for him. Can they not all play in your garden rather than going across there?

It must be frustrating but you'll just have to keep your kids away from him, is there any way you can put a fence up or they can play out the back instead or anything?

Fuckwit is a great word - I love it!
Not sure I'd use it in this context though....Unless, of course, I like bunfights.....

The child sounds horrible but I do feel a little bit sorry for him. He is obviously not being set a good example by his own parents, but it seems strange his siblings behave ok and he doesn't. He sounds like a very angry little boy and whilst I would be furious at someone hitting my child or spitting at him I wonder if he is bullied (you say he is the youngest of 4) and then picks on your little one in turn.

I think you can either keep your DCs away from him and restrict them going out of your garden etc, or perhaps try and find out why he is such a horrible child and see if there is anyway to help him change his behaviour

I agree with the others who have said that a 3 year old shouldn't be in the care of his siblings.

Saying that, I don't think the 5 year old should be out on his own, but apparently his parents are a waste of space and obviously don't care about him.... thank God you're not like that hey OP?

Try harder

I also agree that 3 is to young to be going out to play without adult supervision, even if he is supervised by older siblings. Its unfortunate that your children have to suffer the other childrens behaviour while playing out, do you have a garden, or can you go to the park?

Also you the way you speak of a 5 year old is disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself for using that kind of language

Which wine goes with popcorn?

Can someone message me when this all kicks off?

BTW, I know streets like yours. They breed "streetwise" kids that can handle the rough and tumble of life playing out of the supervision of adults. If your three year olad ain't got the cajones to handle himself, then act like a responsible adult and stop letting him play out in the street, FFS. The word feral springs to mind.

You'd use the word if you had dealings with this child! :o)
He seems to be wanting attention from me, I think. He's always very pleasant when he sees me arrive home from work, and says "Hello, knobby's" and I HAVE chatted to him, and talked to him about repercussions of his behaviour when he has spat or hit or swore, I'm just really pissed off this is two days running now.

Yeah, you're right, I'm gonna have to keep my kids imprisoned unless I can stand on guard watching every move..

You're not listening knobby - no-one is saying keep all your kids in - just the blinking 3 yo! Don't you have any comment about letting him out on his own???

Listen, I've called a kid the WORST word on here, and got a roasting for it. However, the difference here was that I was calling him the worst word coming into my home and punching holes in my walls/biting DS/kicking the cat. You are leaving your child to play unsupervised with a kid you know is a little scrote. If you don't like it, keep your kid in your house/garden, like any normal parent.

Do you live on the Chatsworth estate?

I liked the bit when the OP talked about tearing the head off a 5 year old. That's my favourite.

Scrote is a much better word, yes

I have this in my street, two young children under the age of 7 playing in the street. They are not watched by the parents who have younger kids aswell. They basically run riot round the street going in peoples gardens, banging on doors and running off. I went out and told one off after he picked my cat up and dropped it on the ground. I know its not the childrens fault as you can tell they just want some attention that they are not getting at home but it is a difficult situation.

He isn't out on his own. He's on a green space right outside my door wtih big bro and sis. I'm in and out looking out for him, and he is a very intelligent little boy who knows his boundaries, as do his siblings. There is no problem with my DCs behaviour, they ALL know what is and is not acceptable and what is and is not allowed by me. They stay on the front and play together with other children on the street, as i say, apart from this one child, there is never any worry or bother.

Get 'em in a phone box and kick the shit out of the little bastards,that's what I say!