to want to knock this little fuckwit's head off

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Boy on our street, 5 years old. KEEPS hittin, swearing at and spitting on my 3 year old ds. He's then lied to his parents about his behaviour and they have taken his side. Even though they know he's a little horrible fuckwit.

I've been out, spoken to him many times, spoken to the parents, banned him from my garden (then lifted the ban when he apologised, then banned him again for further fuckwit behaviour)
He's the youngest of 4 kids aged 5 - 9years in a workless household, parents never do a thing with the kids, just spend the benefit money on fags and takeaways as far as I can see. They just seem resigned to his behaviour whenever I've complained, and say "I know, I know..."

Latest problem, my dcs, aged 10, 8 and 3 playing on the front, this kid yday shouted "fuck off" on my 3 y o's face. My 10yo dd said "don't say that" and she got the finger. I went out and asked him if he wanted to be friends with my children, why is he swearing, why won't he answer when I'm speaking to him.... I got an insolent glare to everything I said, so I just sent him home. Dad comes out accusing me of shouting at his kid, blah blah blah (I didn't, I'd bloody well admit it if I did) and tells me I should get off my arse, shouldn't be sat inside all day, should be out watching my kids!! I GO TO WORK ALL DAY!!!!!!! TRY IT!

Anyway, I was so mad, I banned my kids from playing with the fuckwit, but today they were playing out - not with the boy - and the boy has grabbed my 3 y o's leg out from under him as he was walking past (there is a large green area outside the house where they play) and hurt his head. He then went straight home before I was summoned.

I just feel so fucking IMPOTENT that I can't go out there and grab this little fucking reprobate by the scuff of his neck and tell him the next time he touches my dc, I'll fucking rip his fucking head off!
AIBU? And more to the point, WHAT CAN I DO???
The parents just don't give a damn.

Quite funny op....you accuse this lads parents of not doing anything with their children, they turf them out to play....then send your kids out to play knowing your tiny three year old is being picked on. Hmm.... anyone know what the story line on Jezza was this moring? this must be a hoax?

Ishani that is awful that must have been such a horrid thing to go through at only 7 years old :(

amarone I feel bad but I can't stop having a little laugh thinking of yous putting your brother in a bush whilst yous all decide what to do!

OP I agree with everyone else, 3 is just far too young to be out on their own, (my DS is 4 and I wouldn't let him out to play himself) regardless of how intelligent he is he can't handle himself in certain social situations and shouldn't have to stand up to the 'street bully' himself at such a young age. I think it is unfair to put your older children in charge of him, let them go out and play themselves without having to babysit a 3 year old.

You make it very clear that the child's parents are awful at raising their children yet the other siblings are lovely, if these children are all at risk then why are the other siblings not running wild looking for attention too? Could he possibly have problems that you are not aware of (ADHD maybe?) Or if he is being neglected by his parents who are ignoring him and spending all their money on themselves rather than on his needs and he desperately craves your attention then why don't you make more of an effort to talk to him, why not let your older children go off and play themselves and invite this boy into your garden to play SUPERVISED with your 3 year old and teach him how to play nicely and respectfully. I'm not saying this is your responsibility to do so but it might improve relations between you all and your DS and this boy might become friends too.

Why are they all obsessed with pissing and pooing on things I wonder? My sister lives in a ghetto rough street and she found a human poo on her wall! Just placed there.

HelloKlitty We had a family a few doors down from us once who always seemed to have broken the toilet. The younger kids (of which there were many) would often knock on doors asking to use the bog because theirs was 'all blocked up'. They were a bit feral tbh. I can imagine them shitting in people's bins and on their doorsteps if there was no bog in their house that worked.

Imagine growing up with that humiliation hanging around your neck.

Eew. Did you let them?

Do you not have a back garden, invite the nice kids to play there, not the little one that's causing trouble.

3 is very young to be out front.

The idea of a fuckwit 5 year old is very sad - direct your anger at his parents. Nasty way to speak about a child, even if they are 'bullying' yours.

As for Bitter's post about the 'karma' of a 'single mother drug addict' living in squalor - nasty nasty attitude to take. What about her DC? The cycle starts again and you do a comedy evil laugh Grow up.

HelloKlitty No. I told them to send their mum round for a chat.

council flat squalor at that

and posters thought the ops first post was bad

I also think that 3 is too young to be out unsupervised.I just hope you don't use O fuckwit to descibe your own children when they miss behave.

I'd feel the same way. He might be a nice boy underneath it all but right now he sounds like a twat

Well Bitter, from what little I know about 'the beauty of karma' I think taking such pleasure in another's awful situation (I mean the drug addicted squalor bit, not that of the council flat or single mum) might have the ultimate result of sending you around a bit of crap?

What a horrible line to take. Isn't it enough to enjoy the success of your DD?

I honestly believe that there aren't many wayward kids who wouldn't buff up nicely with a bit of kindness shown to them. Kids are products of their upbringing. This particular little boy doesn't get much love at home (I assume) and if everyone he encounters reacts to him like you do OP, he will be getting kindness from nowhere. Poor love.

Do as others have said and invite him to play at yours, supervised by you. Teach him how to play respectfully. Unless you or his family are moving house any time soon, your kids will be mixing with him. So you can either try and show him some kindness OR carry on as you are and come back on here moaning that he is shitting in your bin. That's where this is heading: shit in bin.

you pass judgement on people you think you are better than but call a 5 year old fuckwit and want to knock his head off

really what makes you think you are any better

Wow everyone, can't you tell the the OP is in distress. Kids do play out and should be able to - what a bunch of helicopter do gooders you all are. These neighbours sound dreadful and the OP is simply asking what you would do. I'd like the rip the little brat's head off as well from the sound of it, but I guess the only thing that can be done is to stop the children playing with the rough ones. Do you have a back garden that the fuckwit can't gain access to?

I have a 3yr old - nearly 4 actually and a lot of her friends are nearer 5. I don't know 1 of them who consistently looks both ways before stepping into the road. Someone telling your 3 yo to fuck off is the least of your worries.
Please keep him in until he's older or sit out with him while the weather's nice. Not to 'punish' him - just because YOU are supposed to be looking after him not your other children

I'm no helicopter do gooder gina - just an adult with an appropriate sense of boundaries - try it, you might like it and not want to maim small children

Well I must say that's a new definition of helicopter parenting! Not letting a 3 yo out alone.

The trouble is this urchin is always going to be two years older than your son. I really feel for you. The real loser in this situation will be this wanker kid though, unfortunately. It sounds like he's already given up all hope of getting anyone to like him.

Helicopter parenting does not cover supervising a THREE YEAR OLD in the street.

For.

Fuck's.

Sake.

Jesus, Michelle that's harsh.

I was a precocious little bastard until about the age of nine. I'm mighty glad that people didn't give up on liking me just because I was a bit of a dick when I was a child.

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OP i agree the child is a brat sorry your getting stick on here but I do agree that three is very young to be playing outside, but thats a whole other issue, IMHO I wouldn't want my children mixing with the family full stop. I understand how you feel, when it comes to children the lioness in us comes to the fore front

Am I a helicopter parent for not letting my 2.11 yo play out? Oh no, not yet, I become that when he turns 3. Phew. Thought I was being over protective for a minute.

FUCKWIT!!!! I love the turn of phrase! I hope you don't mind if I nick it off ya!

Only a month left before you can shove him out the door with a key round his neck MissBetsy. Like in the good old days.