to want to knock this little fuckwit's head off

[knobbysEx]

Boy on our street, 5 years old. KEEPS hittin, swearing at and spitting on my 3 year old ds. He's then lied to his parents about his behaviour and they have taken his side. Even though they know he's a little horrible fuckwit.

I've been out, spoken to him many times, spoken to the parents, banned him from my garden (then lifted the ban when he apologised, then banned him again for further fuckwit behaviour)
He's the youngest of 4 kids aged 5 - 9years in a workless household, parents never do a thing with the kids, just spend the benefit money on fags and takeaways as far as I can see. They just seem resigned to his behaviour whenever I've complained, and say "I know, I know..."

Latest problem, my dcs, aged 10, 8 and 3 playing on the front, this kid yday shouted "fuck off" on my 3 y o's face. My 10yo dd said "don't say that" and she got the finger. I went out and asked him if he wanted to be friends with my children, why is he swearing, why won't he answer when I'm speaking to him.... I got an insolent glare to everything I said, so I just sent him home. Dad comes out accusing me of shouting at his kid, blah blah blah (I didn't, I'd bloody well admit it if I did) and tells me I should get off my arse, shouldn't be sat inside all day, should be out watching my kids!! I GO TO WORK ALL DAY!!!!!!! TRY IT!

Anyway, I was so mad, I banned my kids from playing with the fuckwit, but today they were playing out - not with the boy - and the boy has grabbed my 3 y o's leg out from under him as he was walking past (there is a large green area outside the house where they play) and hurt his head. He then went straight home before I was summoned.

I just feel so fucking IMPOTENT that I can't go out there and grab this little fucking reprobate by the scuff of his neck and tell him the next time he touches my dc, I'll fucking rip his fucking head off!
AIBU? And more to the point, WHAT CAN I DO???
The parents just don't give a damn.

I agree with tulpe.

Nope - still not right - you should be there with him at 3 yo - not in the house.

A green space right outside your front door? Is that the same as a garden?

I think the OP is getting a bit of a hard time here. Yes, the language is a bit but we've all written posts in fuming anger and later looked back on them and thought, "oh dear ".
Knobby, I can understand how frustrated and upset you are. I think you did yourself no favours calling him a fuckwit, even if he is one, most MNers wouldn't react well to that. Sorry if that sounds judgmental, I don't mean it that way. Ditto the statement about his parents and benefits and fags. But, moving on -
What I don't understand is, why is this boy the only one of his siblings who is so unpleasant? I believe you said upthread that he has three siblings whom your kids love to play with. If they're really nice, I wonder why he isn't.
Not that wondering solves the immediate problem.
Is there any way you or your DP could watch the kids playing when they're out on the green? So that you can see what's going on and are, in effect, a visual deterrent to trouble-making? Have you spoken to any of the other parents on the street? I think you said (correct me if I'm wrong) that this boy has also had trouble with other kids, not only your 3-year-old?
Is there any way you could get together with some of the other parents, and, in a nice way (I know this may be hard), speak with the boy's parents? Something to the effect of "look, your boy isn't being very nice to x, y and z. It's getting to the point where no-one wants to play with him. Nobody wants that. Can we all get together to find a solution?"

Sorry if this post is too Pollyanna-ish, just trying to help.

Sorry, x-post - missed the part where you said you're in and out watching them.

Right, there is a green space right outside my mum's block of flats. All of the little scrotes congregate there to kick each other/piss up the cars. I'm sure their mums think they are scrumping for apples or playing hoop and stick. They're not. Are you up at your window every three seconds, watching? If not, they are playing unsupervised.

I'm not saying that your kid deserves it because you aren't supervising him, but if you don't want him left at the mercy of the local feral kid, your kid plays indoors or in his own garden. Or he learns to fight. Kiddy fight club.

Opens popcorn.. Anyone for a bun fight?

at Bupcakes locals! Pissing on cars and their Mums fondly imagining them playing hoop and stick!

But why does it have to turn into a bunfight? I mean, yes, Knobby is angry and the language wasn't great but wouldn't it be better to help her find a solution rather than encourage a kick-off?

If it's only your young DS that's being bullied by this boy, is it possible that he's passing on bullying behaviours that he is receiving elsewhere?

This wouldn't excuse his behaviour and I would be beyond livid if anyone behaved like this to my DD.

Because the ONLY solution is not to let a 3 year old out alone and she won't accept that she's wrong to allow him out.

My mum said that one of the ferals SHIT in a communal bin last week. Shit in the bin then carried on playing like nothing had happened.

That last post was to jacksmama

Well, the kid does sound like a little cunt, to be fair. Can you try to move or rent a house and live in a better area?

Good god thats atrocious.

Did he then continue on with his game of top and whip Bupcakes?

The solution is this: do not let three year olds play out. Presumably her 8 and 10 year olds can handle the scrote kid. A three-year old is a relative baby. You can't teach 'em to headbutt at three either. When they can headbutt effectively, they can go out alone.

My mum said that he resumed his game of standing on the garage roof and pissing onto the grass/shouting "DOGS DICKS" at his friends.

I am making it sound like my mum lives in some English favela.

Well, fair point, HelloKitty. I don't think I'd let my 3-year-old DS out playing without me there. I don't have any other kids, so I'm trying to think if I'd let him out with older sibs. Hmmm. Probably not?

knobby, i feel for you, i really do - this boy is obviously causing you and your dc aggravation and when you try to deal with it via his parents the result is equally as bad.

You did not approach this correctly on here, calling a child a fuckwit and wanting to rip his head off does not endear you to anyone IMO.

Unfortunately it seems like your youngest will need to steer clear of this little boy until you manage to sort this in another way.

I understand your anger, you see this little boy as being violent towards your dc and your instant reaction is to protect.

I do hope that you kept this "rant" for MN only and it's not the way you approached the boys parents tbh.

I missed you, bupcakes, and your words of wisdom.

I was going to ask where your mum lived

HelloKlitty even. Gotta learn to read

There is this kind of thong on every street op!

I have it here. There is one particulular kid who is a problem. His dad is no use at disciplining him either.

All you can do is watch your own. I keep my front door open, and make sure they all know I'm there, hovering.

Why are they all obsessed with pissing and pooing on things I wonder? My sister lives in a ghetto rough street and she found a human poo on her wall! Just placed there.