to want to knock this little fuckwit's head off

[knobbysEx]

Boy on our street, 5 years old. KEEPS hittin, swearing at and spitting on my 3 year old ds. He's then lied to his parents about his behaviour and they have taken his side. Even though they know he's a little horrible fuckwit.

I've been out, spoken to him many times, spoken to the parents, banned him from my garden (then lifted the ban when he apologised, then banned him again for further fuckwit behaviour)
He's the youngest of 4 kids aged 5 - 9years in a workless household, parents never do a thing with the kids, just spend the benefit money on fags and takeaways as far as I can see. They just seem resigned to his behaviour whenever I've complained, and say "I know, I know..."

Latest problem, my dcs, aged 10, 8 and 3 playing on the front, this kid yday shouted "fuck off" on my 3 y o's face. My 10yo dd said "don't say that" and she got the finger. I went out and asked him if he wanted to be friends with my children, why is he swearing, why won't he answer when I'm speaking to him.... I got an insolent glare to everything I said, so I just sent him home. Dad comes out accusing me of shouting at his kid, blah blah blah (I didn't, I'd bloody well admit it if I did) and tells me I should get off my arse, shouldn't be sat inside all day, should be out watching my kids!! I GO TO WORK ALL DAY!!!!!!! TRY IT!

Anyway, I was so mad, I banned my kids from playing with the fuckwit, but today they were playing out - not with the boy - and the boy has grabbed my 3 y o's leg out from under him as he was walking past (there is a large green area outside the house where they play) and hurt his head. He then went straight home before I was summoned.

I just feel so fucking IMPOTENT that I can't go out there and grab this little fucking reprobate by the scuff of his neck and tell him the next time he touches my dc, I'll fucking rip his fucking head off!
AIBU? And more to the point, WHAT CAN I DO???
The parents just don't give a damn.

I'm sorry OP, but "he's a very intelligent boy who knows his boundaries".... he's 3 ffs!

Most 3 year olds can hardly string a sentence together, let alone deal with situations they may find themselves in.

I have 3 children and am in no way precious with them, and I am shocked that you would let your 3 year old play out, albeit "supervised" by his older siblings, 10 and 8 aren't old enough to look after a 3 year old and its unfair to put that kind of responsibility on them.

:o)
Thanks for that, guys, needed to vent, and just felt it was unfair that MY DS had to be kept under lock and key when it's not his behaviour that means that he should be kept indoors away from other kids.
It's the feeling of impotence that's been driving me crackers, as i've tried many times with this boy..
Message received and understood, I will not allow my 3yo out without me again. It's the only way. 'Til I've taught him all I know as an ex semi-professional martial artist :o) :o) :o)

I was about to say what TubbyDuffs just did.

Bupcakes your making people look at me where I'm laughing like a loon

Ok, serious question - please bear in mind I don't have any other kids so don't know what I would do if my three-year-old did have siblings - Knobby's 3-year-old is out playing with his 8 and 10-year-old siblings (if I read that right)... are they meant to be suprvising him or are they playing off by themselves?

'Til I've taught him all I know as an ex semi-professional martial artist ) ) )

Oh my christ are you a Peter Kay character?

Hi BOF!

Ok, I just saw Tubby's post... got it. Thanks.

Did anyone play out at 3? me & my friend used to take her 2 yr old ds when wewere 7/8. We werenot necessarily kind. But it wasn't unusual (in 1743

My sister was playing in the park under my watchful eye, she was 3 I was 7, some perv grabbed her and sexually assualted her whilst I stood frozen to the spot and saw everything.
You cannot expect another child to defend a toddler against any situation at all. Mine have never ever played out, they have a garden and it's done them no harm at all.

Why can't the 8 and 10 yo play out on the green like the rest of the kids and the 3yo stay home? If he 'knows his boundaries' then accepting there are some things he's not allowed to do and the older ones can shouldn't be a problem. I do think 3's too young to be out unaccompanied by an adult.

Is that it? I'd just settled down

Well helenina, I called the kid a cunt just to see if I could turn up the heat on the thread a bit but no-one would bite . It is all peace and love round here tonight.

Do you not have any friends around that have 3 or 4 yo's that could come for play dates and keep your ds company in your house/garden when the older ones are out playing?

My friend had a 3 yo and an 8 and 10 yo. When my ds went round (6yo) - the 3yo was allowed out to play in the garden with them all. It was unsupervised and the 3 yo was always coming in howling cos the others were too rough for him. It wasn't fair for the others to have to tone down their play for a 3 yo. I wished his mum would keep him indoors - or sit out with them. Very lazy parenting imo.

Ishani that is terrible!

I myself was 7 when my Mum left me & my friend in charge of my 3 year old brother. We decided to carry him and subsequently dropped him. He howled, we were terrified so we put him in a bush to decide what to do. A kind lady found us and brought us all home. He had broken his collar bone.

Kids can't handle a crisis rationally.

My 3 year old stays in whilst my year old goes out.

I heard the boys family have a cat though. And it craps in Knobbys garden.
Does that help?

PMSL at the thought of a sensible 3 year old who knows his boundaries.

Just to add to the roll call of inadequate sibling supervisors..
I was meant to be looking after my 4-yr-old brother. He wandered off and was hit by a lorry. He broke his leg in two places -- lucky it wasn't far worse.

I ran away and hid when I realised I'd lost him. I was 7, my older brother must have been 9.

OP, 3 is too young to be playing out, even with older siblings, IMHO. My heart goes into my mouth when I think about all the things that could happen if he were to play out, even under the 'care' of his 7 year old sister.

As others have said, he should stay in until he's old enough to look out for himself - say 16 or 17 .

I meant my 3 year old DS by the way.

Two wrongs don't make a right!

Good advice from Ilove tiffany there.

You can do nothing about this kids behaviour if his parents won't. The only thing you can do is supervise your own. And chill out. There are a lot of little bullies out there and skanky parents IME.

Thank you all. I will accept the things I cannot change (boy's behaviour, parents' acceptance) and change the things I can (keep ds close to me at all times)

I had the same problem in my street with a little shit that used to bully my daughter ( a good few years ago ) so i sent her to karate and she is now a second dan black belt in her 3rd year at uni and the little shit who bullied her is a single mother drug addict who lives in a squalid council flat, thats the beauty of karma mwahahahaha