Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

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Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

This is day 3. I'm feeling physically better but so so so tired and really feeling emotionally why I drink. I just can't stop worrying about money, work, family, everything. People on here say they have no "off switch" - meaning they can't stop drinking - me too - but I can't stop worrying. I guess it's the same for everyone. Most of these things that bug us have no real solution and so they just keep nagging and nagging away in our heads.

Anyway. Being fat and drunk and stupid won't help so it's as well not to be drunk. But god I'm sick of living inside my own head.

Not looking forward to some heavy family and work stuff coming up. Just getting through the next 2 weeks without crying too much or shouting at anyone is my aim for the moment.

How is everyone? How's the dreaded Friday evening treating all you heroes?

Flossie - sorry about the shitty 24hours. hope you are ok.

Another thing I can't do to empty my mind and get some peace - sex. won't see my boyfriend for ages. His family / work stuff, my family / work stuff, all intersecting. It's nice to talk to him though, he never forgets to call me. Still it's not the same as ... you know ;)

Ahh Senseless, I do know. I miss sex. I miss having someone to have sex with. It’s just not happening right now. It must be tricky trying to co-ordinate life with your boyfriend.

I’ve been desperate for the boys to go to their dad’s. Well, namely DS1, but I’m bored and lonely after an hour.
My friend group dynamic is really messed up since BF fell out with me. I’m resolute I’m leaving things lie there - boundaries and all that, but it’s left me quite at a loose end.
I’m trying to reconnect with other friends but I left it too late for this weekend.

I fancy taking myself on a date tomorrow. My theatre date a few months ago was fab. I’ll have to see what I can come up with.

sorry about BF. it sometimes takes time to sort out a new dynamic after a shake up - I am sure you will have lots of social stuff in place eventually though.

whereabouts are you? if you dont mind me asking? (which theatre?)

Senseless NC4
I understand about the sex thing butto be honest I get more pleasure from running, cycling and swimming, especially when doing a competition. Ev b with good sex. I've never had an orgasm that was as good as the feeling of having run a marathon. Luckily I have a DP who understands - Sunday I have a sprint triathlon instead of having a lie in, I know I'll enjoy it more than a marathon sex session!

Senseless, you’ve done fab. 3 days!! Especially when you say all the things that are currently against you. Be proud.

NC4 - I remember you having a fab theatre trip. Do it again. Love yourself and treat yourself. X

Madame - you are inspirational.

Madame I do get that. Here’s a weird thing... or maybe not... when I do some really tough cardio I get a feeling after about 15 minutes that feels a bit like the beginnings of an orgasm. It never develops beyond that, obviously, but it’s like a tingle in my core. That’s usually the point where I stop feeling like I’m going to die and start getting in my stride. I always wonder if other people get it.
Lovely as it is, I definitely prefer sex though 😆

Senseless, I forgot you’re newish - you blend in so well. The thing with BF is we’ve been friends since toddler group - and we were the toddlers. So while I’m actually feeling ok about my stance on the whole thing, I’m grieving a bit —a lot— too. I keep having upsetting dreams about it all.

Anyway, fuck it. Solo date tomorrow in one form or other. It was a wanky thing I had to do for some training I was doing a while back which was supposed to get your creative juices flowing, and it worked. Plus it was the best date I’ve been on in years 😆

I’m in Preston, so I think I’ve narrowed it down to maybe Comedy Store in Manchester for some stand up, or an exhibition at the Tate in Liverpool so far. But I’m still googling.

What’s everyone else up to this weekend?

NC4 - comedy all the way!! Be a hoot!! And will put all your troubles aside. Enjoy

That’s what I’m thinking Flossie. It’s kust whether I’m brave enough to go on my own.... eek!

BTW, how does everyone do — strikethrough — because mine’s stopped working.

Madame - the thought of a marathon makes me faint.

Thanks NC4 :) I love the Tate in Liverpool. Fuck I want to go there - on my own! - so much now!

Flossie - Thank you :)

Just got off the phone to boyfriend after talking for about 90 minutes and I miss him more than ever. Not in a sex way now though.

I just have to hold tight for a bit. Nothing is really badly wrong. I'm just feeling frustrated, claustrophobic and blocked in a few directions and I just need to hold tight and stay sober, or at least sober-ish, and keep wiggling all the moving parts till something falls into place.

Aw, the Albert Dock. Vivid flashback of childhood outings, though it was generally to the maritime museum - the Tate came later.

Had waaaay too much wine yesterday with Paris friends. Was a fun evening though and the kids got on really well. Woke in the night baking hot and feeling a bit sick in the throat though. Thank goodness kids did not bother me till 9am. I have dd1's party to get through. Why do I do this to myself?!

Kids have decorated another cake. I think they did well, after they stopped squabbling

Senseless, hugs. I think it's a good sign that you miss him? Hanging in there is the right approach I think?

That cake is incredible Longest. Hope the hangover isn’t too severe.
I was taken to the maritime museum as a kid too. Remember when Fred’s weather map was in there?

Senseless I agree it’s a good sign that you miss him. It must be hard logistically. I just had a notification from Moonpig that I had a birthday coming up to buy for. I scratched my head a bit, clicked on the notification to see who, and it’s XH. It hadn’t even crossed my mind. I’m also taking that as a good sign!!

Still undecided as to what to do today. I may head over to the Ribble Valley to get something tasty for my tea. I’m quite tired because the bloody window cleaner woke me up at 7am. What kind of lunatic thinks that’s an acceptable time to go banging round on someone’s bedroom windows?!

Party survived! No broken bones. Win! X

I used to stay across from the docks in liverpool, about 15years 8 months ago because it's where I found out I was pg with dd. Stayed in the formula 1 hotel for about 2 months while flat/house hunting. Then lived in Rockferry on the mersey and then just outside the city centre. Was in liverpool just over a year and loved it. Didn't love the wankerbastard I was living with though.

Also had a kids party today, a 5th birthday party in the local rugby club. It's about the 6th one we have had there and I am so over it. Plus my mate wasn't there so had to make small talk with Other Mums and a Dad. The Dad is ok, his wife is lovely but the popular mums seem to ignore her at the school gates. She wasn't there though, she's gone on a jolly with her mates for the day the lucky bugger.

Missing dd a bit now, or at least wondering if she is OK. Am sure she will be but she wasn't well before she went, which I think she has given me because I have a horrible sore throat and feel pretty meh.

Had 3 beers last night, and having 1 now but am going to have a bath and get my pjs on shortly. The dog has been walked, chickens fed, and have absolutely no plans to go anywhere at all.

No parents at dd1's party Frouby, so DH and I were in charge of 10 girls, though my bff did stay to mind her three boys (and lost the four year old temporarily so I'm glad he wasn't my responsibility!". It was at the trampoline park. Went pretty well really though one girl cried as she wasn't allowed on the trampolines as she turned up on crutches. DD and friend spent some te with her playing top trumps, which I was pleased about!

She's on pretty good form at the moment. Her little friends bought her presents and decorated her cards with her favourite stuff on - Pokémon, harry potter (ravenclaw house in particular) and bears, which was sweet. She got elected on to the school council this week, which she wanted so badly but she was convinced no one would vote for her because"I'm messy and not popular". Broke my heart because it's a bit of a harsh lesson at 7, so was delighted she was proven wrong. She also had me bang to rights when I was trying to get her to invite a boy to her party that invited her to his- I said it might hurt his feelings if she didn't invite him back and she said "it happens to me all the time". Which to be fair it has quite a bit, and she's never made a fuss, bless her. I hoped she hadn't noticed. And she invited the boy in the end (he couldn't come).

Ps yes totally re the weather map. Always wanted to jump on to it and was always told you'd have to have your stomach pumped if you fell in.

Hope your dd is ok and having a fab time Frouby! When is she back again?

Monday night longest. I know she will be fine and having a good time. The trip sounds amazing, loads of trenches and museums and cemeteries and she loves history so is right up her street.

She's just so far away, and has only phoned once to say they had arrived. I txt this morning so hoping she at least replies to that later.

My lovely cousin has been out for the day today so I have popped down a couple of times to take the dogs for a wee and a leg stretch. Cousin bought me a little bottle of sparkly violet gin, and a little plaque that says Its Always Gin Oclock.

The gin is too pretty to drink though 😂😂😂

Lol longest, I have friends who swim in the Albert Dock. I think it's an actual wild swimming thing. I can't see the appeal myself.

Frouby I too found out I was up-duffed in Liverpool. I was living in a little flat in Toxteth at the time. Ds1 was born at the women's but we couldn't stay in that flat due to crazy neighbours, so we moved back home and bought a flat here. That was 2001/2- our paths may have crossed!

I bet DD is having the time of her life. I'm an awful mum and tend not to fret when mine are away. Probably because I'm so used to it. I get my knickers in a knot if I don't know where they are, or if they are hurt, ill, or in any kind of trouble.

Longest - I can't believe the parents of crutches girl dropped her at the party. Sounds like the girls were great at including her, but really?!

Ah NC we just missed each other, I was there from October 2003 to November 2004, dd also born at the womens, the day before Donny Osmond opened scubu. I only know because I bumped into him while I was holding the wall post c section going down to find the cafe, after dd had been admitted into scubu for an hour a day, after her temp was soaring when she was hours old. Poor little scrap had to have a lumber puncture to rule out meningitis and had a cannula put on her tiny arm to have IV antibiotics while they worked out what it was.

I lived on Needham Road with her when we came out of hospital. Which is in Kensington. I loved liverpool, went all over it for work (sales) and everyone was so friendly. I used to work Toxteth, and it was rough but very down to earth and welcoming as long as you weren't the police or the social lol. A lot of poverty but then a few miles away, a lot of affluence as well. Our office was originally on the industrial estates just down from the docks and then later in the cotton exchange building.

I keep meaning to go back for a walk around, and to show dd stuff she will have seen as a tiny baby, it's about 90 minutes from sheffield by train.

Had kfc for dinner 🙈. Diet definetly a fail this week. I don't feel brilliant and neither does dh so we agreed to fuck it off. Stuck with the 1 beer though which is better than it was going to be purely because I want to go up to bed when ds goes up at 7.30pm and read for a bit, then sleep.

Bloody Hell - what a lot happens if I go away with DS for 48 hours with no wifi!!

Will catch up later, though am half a bottle down.

NC4 to be fair she is one of twins so awkward either way I guess. Love Liverpool - it was our nearest proper city so we'd go there for gigs and shopping and just generally to hang out. My cousin lives there now with his kids.

Frouby no news is good news, I'm sure your DD is having a great time so don't worry, she'll soon be home! When My DS (12) went on his ski trip in March all mobile phones were banned so I dropped him off at midnight Saturday and picked him up the following Saturday at 7am. The school posted updates but that was it. As usual I was glad to have a week off 🙂
Not AF and will probably fail dramatically at the triathlon tomorrow 😳

I was thinking of taking DS to Barcelona for a weekend fairly soon, while DS2 is on holiday with my mum. He’s not been very nice company lately though, so instead I’m googling kittens ❤️
I really might get one!