Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

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Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

Also i broke really nice wine glass i had then poured into a new glass. Ffs

melmos we have lived here 4.5 years, but only been members of the boathouse since May.

We moved about 8 miles from where I grew up. Which is very different to where we are now. We were just outside the town centre and it was very urban and gritty and quite rough but I didn't really notice it because I grew up there.

Now we live where an old mine used to be, quite a big one. They turned the old shafts into the lake and behind us is a nature reserve and the trans pennine trail. Lots of ex mining villages around us, and a large country estate 2 miles away.

Across the road is a KFC, a costa coffee and a taco bell. And a precinct of shops the other side with a Subway, a Spa, a cafe, chip shop, noodle bar, gregs, plus more. So very convenient and a total contrast to what's behind us. The lake is about a 10 minute walk away.

I absolutely love it. It's a new build estate, we could never afford to buy or even privately rent here but were lucky enough to get a housing association house, which is also an eco house so very economical to run, and the HA is very good at repairs and maintenance.

My only issue is ponies are still 8 miles away on my friends yard. I get mates rates full livery so it doesn't matter if I can't get every day but I like to get up at least 4 or 5 times a week. I switch from looking for new livery to loving existing yard.

And think i effing did it. Stupid wine typing

I'm off to have my first Mouthful of wine.

It was very nice. A zingy Chilean Sauvignon. Tonight is a test of sticking to one glass. Something else that never happens.

@Frouby that sounds amazing. So glad you've taken the opportunities nearby with the lake

Frouby, your pics are gorgeous. Water is so calming isn’t it. Made me chuckle at you having ‘one of those faces’.

Dion - how you doing?

Leaving - omg to the lawyer!! What a cheek!! And in the evening too. Almost feels a double blow when someone messes with that precious time!!

Longest - that sounds really hard in terms of dh and the childcare. Extra pressure mentally and physically on you. Sometimes it’s easier when you just know not to rely on others, than think you can..and then get let down. I hope his ME is ok. Does it get worse at different times of year?

I moderated last night. Half bottle of Sauvignon. I’ve found if I have a weeny bit in a glass when dh gets home, it’s like my ‘ahhhhhh’ glass. Then I have a large glass with dinner and a weeny bit after dinner, I kind of hit all the notes. So that’s my new plan. If I can pull this off then I’ll have reduced consumption by 50%. Mind you I still have a panic if I haven’t got a full bottle in the house ‘just in case I NEED it’!!!!!!
Out tonight with girlfriends. First time in over a year!! Haven’t left dd with dh since she’s got a lot worse. He’s nervous, and so am I. So I prob will only stay out a couple of hours, but it will be nice. And I’ll feel like a proper grown up!!

Beautiful photos Frouby I'm glad you are enjoying kayaking so much and are able to réorganise your life to make it easier. Housework isn't the be and end all, I've had to relax about that a little in order to have a life.

Well done one bring AF Melmos and Longest

Dion how are you feeling now?
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Longest* I've got through the week batch cooking healthy soup and vegetables. I didn't bake any cakes so no temptation in the house for anyone. I haven't eaten any almonds or cashew nuts either so have probably reduced my calorie intake by at least 3000 as I usually eat so many.

I didn't manage Day 4 as I played tennis with DP and after he wanted a glass of wine, so we opened a bottle of red but I only had one glass, so overall very moderate this week. In hospital waiting for a catscan on my thyroid then teaching all day. Feel guilty because I didn't have time to take my border collie for a run this morning 😳 it was strange getting up and going straight in the shower without going out for a run first.

Leaving outrageous re lawyer. I hope if they try and rearrange they offer a hefty discount. I would be angling for a free appointment! Presumably they'd charge you if you were a no show.

Have been for proper swim and rode bike there and back. Healthy lifestyle here i come! Friend is coming over for a playdate with her little one though. Am hoping sge drives. She'd normally offer me a glass once it gets to Friday teatime but i don't particularly want an early start. British cultured does not help us be dry eh?!

I’m sure they would be charging if I was a no show longest. I was bracing myself to try to push the appointment beyond just verbally introducing the circumstances to them. I sent them a written description and three questions in advance, which of course they didn’t ask for. Well, we’ll see on the next attempt.
You are right British culture doesn’t help but then again I don’t know a single Brit in my day to day life and I still have plenty of enablers about.

Flossie how did your night out go?
We just had a family chicken curry supper and I had a bottle of beer. I will be able to stop there and I’ll be glad of it tomorrow as have a long day out with the kids.

Madame - your batch cooking sounds fab!! Love all the soups now autumn is looming.

My evening was lovely thanks. Went to a bar first. The others had cocktails. I had a single g&t so felt quite pleased with myself. Then we shared 3 bottles of wine between 5. So again not too bad considering. Was a lovely evening and finally I felt like a grown up!! Got to yoga this morning too. Left dd’s with dh. Now the rugby is on, he’d rather lie about watching that, than go to golf which is a win for me as I can utilise him!! Mind you..the bugger has still managed to fit a game in tomorrow afternoon!!

Just to say I Am still here butaway with dd with rubbish internet in Macdonalds etc and trying to look at this thread on her new- fangled phone but can’t see any lists or even what I am typing. Still feel sick but 4 nights af this week. Hope everyone is doing ok x

Oh Dion. So sorry to hear you’re still feeling sick. Sounds a dreadful bug. Hope you’re feeling better soon. X

Evening all

Back from a very long day watching dd dragonboat. They did awesomely especially as it was their first nationals and first event away from home. Was a massive culture shock to everyone.

Got home about 7pm, have inhaled 3 glasses of wine and in bed. Dd got in an hour later, literally inhaled the pizza I had saved for her and is being picked up at 6am again. I have a sore throat from shouting 😁😁😁 but it was really good. Anyone who is oop north and likes camping should definitely try where we were. Holme Pierepoint county park. There is all sorts to do, have said will take them next year.

going to catch up properly when home but had a large glass of red last night (wanted more0but was with friends adn didn't want to look bad!!) I immediately stopped feeling sick 🤔 Not sure what that tells me. Still can't see other posts but will read later

Hope you feel better soon, Dion.

Well done Frouby dd!

I almost had that extra glass of wine last night that would have pushed me into all kinds of crazy shit. Sipped it, realised, poured it away, went to bed. I feel saved

Hello everyone. Glad you had a fun weekend Frouby. Sorry you still feel poorly Dion. Well done on pushing the off switch. You too Senseless.

Not much to report here. Still struggling with getting back to my half bottle maximum limit. Getting more exercise though. Signed to a "swim the channel" challenge at work and am 2+ miles in this weekend, plus i have been cycling there and back and to the shops etc.

Went out yesterday daytime with mum of dd2's new pal. Had two cans but so did she. It was a boozy campfire thing.

Right. Am catching up on a proper computer.

Leaving, I'm so sorry about the lawyer. Unbelievable.

Frouby, gorgeous photos. Very glad to hear that your new routine is paying off. Want to meet Baby Pony!

Flossie, brilliant moderation, esp. on a (v well deserved) night out.

Longest, all that exercise sounds fab.

Madame, just seen that you have been in hospital. How did it go??

Mixed news from me.

A very good week, overall, on the alcohol front. 4 days AF this week. Two days with one large glass and no more. Tonight was a bit worse (half a bottle of red, for no reason whatsoever). So it's still quite heavy, but not on a par with my normal self. Which is what matters, really.

You have all been so kind wishing me well. The shameful truth, though, is that I'm quite sure my feeling so ill is due entirely to alcohol withdrawal. I felt fantastic last night after just one large glass of red, early in the evening, and slept well because I didn't feel sick.

I then started to feel sick again, and now don't (having had half a bottle of red). I can only assume that withdrawal is the problem.

Which is not very good news, and not deserving of sympathy or kindness because it's all my own fault.

I am going to try to press on with serious moderation tomorrow (a new week). I am so sick of worrying about my health, sleeping badly, worrying about everything else, spending money which I don't have on wine/gin/anything. I know I am damaging my health, because it would be impossible not to, really. I have to tell myself that it's just a habit, and a habit can be broken.

It doesn't help that I feel really angry with DP this evening. He is so spectacularly selfish, and won't see me tomorrow because he has arranged everything around his own social life, from which I am excluded. I feel a mixture of hurt and very, very pissed off. The 'hurt' bit is all to do with "am I not good enough?" - but the fact is, I could be the most beautiful and brilliant woman on the planet, and he would be the same. It's him, not me.

Dion, you are so right...it IS him and NOT you!!
You deserve more. You are brilliant. And don’t forget it!!
As for the alcohol withdrawal....are you sure it hasn’t been a virus?? And the sick feeling maybe stress?? And the wine has relaxed you?? I know that’s haooened to me before. If I’ve been particularly stressed..I’ve felt wierd and sick etc. Dh told me to have a medicinal wine..so I did..and felt instantly better.
I really am sending you the biggest hug x

Oh Dion, you ARE brilliant, and no doubt beautiful too. It's totally him. You deserve better. You deserve to be loved and cherished for the brilliant, beautiful woman you are.
I've been terrible for the booze this week. But better for exercise, so swings and roundabouts, right?
Time for another six-stretch, methinks...
Sorry to everyone I'v not esponded too. My goldfish brain can only remember the last post or so.

Morning all,
LOL NC4 bad on booze but good on exercise...but you are right, lots of sport does negate the bad effects of alcohol. This study indicates that in fact people who drank and did sport were healthier than teetotalers.
www.health.com/fitness/exercise-offsets-alcohol-risks

Dion I'm so sorry about DP yet again. You know he loves you, but you also know he won't change. It's a very difficult situation. My thyroid scan was just to check if the nodules are malignant or not.

Flossie wine helps in the moment, but ultimately the anxiety is worse. But we all know that and it doesn't stop us drinking.

After a very moderate week I drank a couple of bottles at least at the weekend, but feel fine today and looking forward to having at least 3 AF days. Lost 1kg too, so that's another motivation, one more to go.

Dion, sending hugs. I doubt you have alcohol withdrawal tbh but will join you in renewed efforts to moderate. You have a brilliant week to build on.

Boo lido now closes at 4. Am either going to have to move swimming indoors or get up v early. Hmm.

NC4 talk to me about weights. There's a women's weights class starting in the gym at work and it would not normally have registered with me but i know you have raved about them. Would it help me lose weight?

Dh seems poorly again, boo. Was nice while it lasted...

Longest weights are the BEST way to lose weight, because your muscles expend energy lifting but then continue to burn calories during recovery. Plus you get strong and more toned.
When I’m doing regular weights sessions I can be the same weight but a jeans size smaller because everything is more toned.
Plus there’s nothing like the feeling of being knackered after a weights session then getting in a hot shower. I’d give it a go if I were you.
I’m definitely no athlete or instabooty type, but I love a good weights session.

Afternoon all

Dion it's definitely him and not you lovely. And even if it was you, he should be worshipping the ground at your feet anyway.

Madame interesting about alcohol 0lus sport being healthier than a teetotal lifestyle. I suppose it's everything in moderation.

Dd is very happy, they came 3rd in the 500m final yesterday which is fantastic considering its only their second competition. And that's against 20 teams so a cracking result.

Dd is shattered though, she's come in from school and put her pjs straight on. She was out 13 hours yesterday and they did 4 heats of 500m plus the final so a bit tiring!

Have had usual chaotic day. Dropped dd at school because I felt sorry for her, dropped ds off, went to yard and worked BabyPony very hard as she was a wee bit fresh, came home, did that invoicing again for other company (and earnt another £100 😄) set up new printer and scanner, did my own invoicing, went to Screwfix for some bits for dh, fed chickens, did 2 loads of washing, ran up to get ds and just collapsed on sofa!

Lamb tagine for dinner. See if I get one of these 🥴 faces.

Hello everyone, I'm AF today but brilliant news! Mil is likely to be discharged in the next two days so I can stop panicking about that, phew!

Will read you all now.

Ahhhh frouby... The lamb tagine face!! 😜🤨. Well done to dd.

NC4 - I’ve never lifted a weight in my life but would love to if that’s the results. Sounds great!!

Longest. Oh no, is it dh’a ME, or the gut issues?

Madame ooooo that’s interesting evidence regarding sport. I’d heard somewhere about running counteracting wine, but then thought I’d dreamt it to make myself feel better 😂. So thanks for the link.

Well both my dd’s have chest infections!! Absolute nightmare!! Ended up taking one to out of hours sat and one to gp today!! As you can imagine, I’m loving life right now!! 😝😝