Would you be comfortable if your daughter was assigned a male nursery worker?

[Nervousb2b]

Out of interest, how would you feel if your daughter was assigned a male member of staff in an early years setting to provide intimate care? Would you feel just as comfortable if a female member of staff was assigned?

Some may be okay with it, some may not - interested to see the general consensus.

I don’t think I’d be too happy about any stranger doing it, but even less so a man.

Nope. I wouldn’t have a man caring for any vulnerable female relative.

No. I am sure posters will rush forward to post instances where female nursery workers have been abusive and also provide anecdotal evidence about how great their male nursery worker is.
But still no. Australia has done some research on male nursery workers if anyone wants to Google and link. I can't myself as am on a bus.

I don’t think men should work with small children who cannot talk. It’s not prejudiced. It’s a fact that predators put themselves around children. It’s also a fact that the vast majority of sex offenders and perverts are male.

i would be more uncomfortable than if it were a woman. I would be asking more questions about safeguards.

I was also very happy to have the privilege to not send my child to group care until after she was potty trained. That didn’t mean there was never any intimate care because 3yos have accidents. However it reduced opportunity and made sure my child was verbal and could at least theoretically tell me if something happened.

Watching with interest as my lovely, gentle 18 year old son would like to work with early years children and is currently applying for jobs in nurseries…

No. And not for a son either.

No

I would want to know how the nursery handled intimate care and safeguarding for all staff.

If i was satisfied then it wouldn't bother me whether the staff are male or female.

Children are most likely to be abused by family members.

No I wouldn’t be comfortable at all. Just as I wouldn’t be comfortable with a male family member (excluding their father) changing nappies/ bathing them etc.

Is there a particular reason you’re asking this question? Are you in this predicament?

Am sure your son is lovely.
But as he belongs to a sex that is responsible for 98% of sexual assault, it's still a no from me.
My kids have been alone with male teachers and coaches when they were older and fully verbal.

It would probably be best to protect everyone all round if male workers did not provide intimate care for female infants

Mine had a male key worker at nursery. He was amazing. The best of the lot probably.

Honestly no.

I’m a total hypocrite who thinks men should be more involved in raising children and that children need positive male role models. But I still wouldn’t leave my young children alone with a man I don’t know very well.

No.

this.

absolutely not.

He should do. My kids had a lovely male nursery worker and when he left I got him to
babysit - they love him. He’s actually the one is the most gentle and kind of all the staff with them and it’s great for both gender kids to see that role model.

I would be happy with a male keyworker for my child.

On that reasoning, why can they provide care for male infants? Child abuse is not about heterosexual attraction. It is about power and abuse.

Not super-comfortable to be honest.

Sadly they are at risk from people you do know well. That's how most abusers manage to abuse. It isn't tattooed on their forehead that they are abusers. They appear trustworthy

My dd had a male nursery nurse.
He was amazing and the children adored him.
Sadly he left to become a HGV driver.
My dd is 24 and still remembers him.

On the last thread about this, many posters argued that it's great for kids to see men look after babies. Sure.
But I don't want to be so foolish as to offer up my kids to be guinea pigs so men can be good role models.

Guinea pigs?

Do you see their father, grandfather, uncles as potential abusers? They are the most likely abusers.

No I would not be comfortable at all